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Im curious to how often we all dress and how far do we go to present as female when we dress. From underdressing to crossdressing at home, to attending events dressed in public, to dressing and going out by yourself and blending in public, to dressing full time and living as a woman. What level of support and or involvement do you receive from your wife or SO. Where are you in your level of dressing somewhere between any of these. Share who or where your at in the spectrum of dressing and or feminine presentation and level of support of wife or significant other.
I am a crossdresser who dresses about 20 to 25 times a year my wife knows but does not understand why my agreement with my wife is she knows when I dress as April, so there are no surprises or accidental viewings or being outed. My wife knows is mostly neutral towards my crossdressing she does not encourage, but will go out with April in public far away from home, but not locally and does not want April to be out locally which I have not. My wife doesn’t care for hair removal and the feminization of my male self with eyebrows and or hair removal. She does accept some if gone for multi day events. No April in the bedroom. I do not underdress, however when I do dress I like to present as much as possible as a woman with clothing, breast forms, undergarments shape wear, shoes, wig, makeup, fingernails and toenails painted, jewelry, and other accessories. I like to go to CD/Trans events to present in public 5 to 10 days per year. And take photos lol. My wife has spent some evenings at home with April she has made dinner for us a few times while i have been dressing. She feels April is more open than my male self which she appreciates and I am working on to be that way when not dressed. She does not care for when she feels I have presented a look or style that is similar to her look and style. Most of our experiences together when dressed at home or in public have been good but a few have not been pleasant. She feels I wear too much makeup and look like a big man in drag. I do however love and appreciate my wife and her being as open and accommodating as she has been as she has no desire for her man to dress and present as a woman what so ever, she has no attraction to it at all.
Thanks April
Ditto. My SO is in the house but goes to another room if I dress, etc. If I ask for help,( photo, back zip, back lace) she will help. It is obvious that while saying nothing, she would prefer to be in another place. A breakthrough came in the last 2 days as we are now talking about it. We went to Costco today, when I put a top and leggings in the cart, she kind of rolled her eyes. I am convinced she sees the entire situation as WEIRD. I feel sorry for her as it must be hard to make any sense of me. I’m out of ideas.
Right can relate to what you are saying for sure. It has to be so difficult for them as I know to this point in life it has been very difficult for me. I have accepted myself in 2017 and just wish that all of this for us who dress and for those we love it was all so much easier.
Hugs April
I go full-on woman whenever I Carmen out... nearly 4 times maybe 5 times a week, sometimes multiple times in the same day.
There is one thing though that being a crossdresser spills over into man mode... it teaches you everything there is to know about how to present more "put together" as a man, even if it has nothing to do with "feminizing".
True I do dress a little more with it in man mode when my wife and I go out to nice places.
My wife and kids know that I have cross dressed. Many don’t know to what extent though. I don’t hide or deny it. But I won’t flaunt it. If they ask, I will tell.
My situation is a real mixture
1/. My beloved "knows, but does not want to know" about Caty and has never seen her dressed, (at least not in person...Couple of photos have been left out over the years... Ooops.)
2/. She would strenuously object to seeing me dressed.
3/. I sleep femme every night, summer and winter. "Full disaster". Bra, forms and weather dependant nightwear? Silk in summer, heavy duty pj's in winter. In my own room, up the other end of the house.
4/. I underdress full time, In summer panties and a light cami, winter same again, but all heavy duty pieces.Plus pantyhose/heavy duty tights
5/. On frequent overnight charity business trips, I do the "full Caty" and depending on the length of stay, can "go public" about 2-3 times a year.
6/. For what its worth most of my lingerie and sleepwear is "hidden in plain sight" in my wardrobe and chest of drawers.
Happy dressing
Caty.
My wife is the only one who knows about Requal. Hence, Requal only appears in the home environment.
I dress to a point every night. Leggins, bra, forms and sometimes a woman's shirt. I can fully dress when ever I want my SO is fully supportive and we share lots of our clothes and bras. I only get the chance to go full Syndee on the weekends mostly by my choice. I usually get home fairly late and don't see the point of doing my makeup and hair if I am going to just have to take it all of in a matter of hours. Many but not all of my friends know about Syndee and have seen me mostly dressed. I have never really been out in public dressed other than running the trash out at the house or something like that. I am blessed that I have a super supportive SO that lets me do what I want and even goes shopping with me to pick out outfits and such.
Hi April, well, I dress probably 80-100 times a year, for 1 - 3 hours each time. Privately and not mentioning it, tho I think she knows I do it to some degree. We talked about it a long time ago, and left it where I feel more comfortable, and I think so does she. Sometimes, its just a few items, more often, a complete outfit, wig, tiny bit of makeup. Wish I could do more, more hours each time or more days. Actually, if I were able to dress maybe a few less times, but spend more hours, I'd probably be a little happier. Anyway, I do it while I can.
Hugs, ChloëC
I started starting dressing again after a near 3 years of not dressing anywhere.
My wife usually comes to support group events with me she varies from
supportive to tolerant but I always worry her tolerance will end one day.
I'm divorced and don't have an SO. I have an adult daughter who lives with me and an adult son in college so is home sometimes and away often. They don't care that I dress.
I under dress all the time (unless I'm getting waxed, I have to wear boxer briefs). I dress somewhat every day, usually just clothing, sometimes just at night. If I'm going out for a walk, I'll put on a wig, forms, and a minimal amount of makeup if I'm going out (usually for a walk), and will often leave everything on as long as I can. When in male mode, I'm often in (close-enough-to) unisex clothing from the women's department. Only about a dozen times a year do I go out in full makeup.
I have not officially come out to my wife yet, although she does have an idea that I like to wear some feminine things. I started dressing up secretly almost 4 years ago, with everything hidden. Then about a year and a half ago I started wearing some women’s spandex exercise shorts to work out in. That led to wearing them around the house. Then as the weather got cooler, I started wearing leggings around the house. It wasn’t too popular at first, but now it’s accepted, and a couple pair have even been completed. She will sometimes even grabs my butt which to me is a great compliment!
I also surprised her at Halloween this year by dressing up as a male vampire character with my fingernails painted black. She enjoyed it, and I was able to tell her how much I loved painting my nails that day. She was even more surprised, and laughed out loud when she later saw my toenails were also painted black. She knows it makes me happy and is okay with it, as long as I don’t go out of the house that way. She has even offered her collection of nail polish for me to use. She didn’t care for the metallic pink I chose at one point, but said “if it makes you happy go for it.” I have been shaving my legs for in the winter for a long time now as well, and she has come to accept that too.
The full dressing is still only for when I have the house to myself, and still a secret, but I hope to share that with her one day soon. I just don’t want to pile it all on at once, and shock, and overwhelm her. I think seeing her husband in a dress, and stiletto heels might still be way too much.
I feel so very lucky to have this level of acceptance!
💕Lara
Undedress often in public, overtly cross dress at home alot and sometimes when we are traveling or camping. Currently having coffee with my wife in pink leggings matching pantie and bra set a satin robe earrings and my new wig!
Hi April!
My SO knows, but she really doesn't want to participate. She sees all of my female things (clothes, lingerie, makeup, etc.) and knows that when I dress, I dress fully and completely as a woman, so that I can go out in public to be seen and treated as a woman, but she doesn't want to go with me or anything like that. I wish she would, but I respect her wishes so I don't push it. And like your wife, she really doesn't like seeing my fully feminized (i.e., hairless) body, but she knows that is part of me being able to express myself as a woman. As we all know, that's a boundary we all walk ever so carefully...
Hugs,
Holly
