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Hi Girls, sorry i have not posted a poll for a while, i have been mad busy!! Ok the thought for today is about venues and would you actually go to one if it was near you? we are talking about crossdressing venues here, i have given this some thought myself and i think i would be very tempted, but only if i had some moral support. Maybe you are different, maybe you would just go for the hell of it! maybe not, lets see shall we?
Fiona xxx
If I could pass, or at least not stick out like a sore thumb, and I had a reasonably high degree of confidence that no one I knew would see me (unless, of course, they were dressed too) I would try it.
I am by no means passable, but I'd love to be able to wear a pretty dress, heels, and sweater among friends.
Hi Fiona I would love to go. I would want to get my nails done. Maybe my wig styled and put up. Some one to put my make up on and make me feel pretty. Buy a dress that fit and helped me look cute. Then bu y a pair of shoes to help me feel and look sexy. Then let's go dancing and have some fun. What girl would not want to do that. Luv Stephanie ❤️
I would love to meet with my girlfriends. I go out now but it’s not nearly as much fun as it would be with all of you. A place where we could get all made up and dressed. Sooooo much fun.
You got it girl that what's its all about having fun. We just donnot do enough of it. I can not thinkbof a better day than getting cute and strutting our stuff luv Stephanie ❤️
Certainly much easier with a friend -another cd/tg or a friend GG or guy who knows about Cyn. But if it seemed a safe place in a not-dangerous neighborhood, I'd try it by myself.
Cyn
Yes I'm with you on that one. Sometimes I spend hours doing my makeup and dressing to impress, just to take it all off a few hours later without even setting foot outside my front door. It seems like an huge amount of wasted effort. I can't go on like that. I need to get out and put my strut on. Feeling like that as I'm sure many of us girls do, you soon get to the point where discouragement and frustration sets in and it almost makes you feel like not bothering. There should be lots more TV/CD/TS friendly places in every town and city where you can just chill out, have fun and be yourself.
most of my outings are at support group events that i atttend with my wife
my wife has become friends with some other wives in my support groups which has made the events a lot of fun
I would prefer to have the company of another CD, so I could be certain of having someone to talk to, but the opportunity would be too good for me to pass up, in any case.
I'm stupid. Can you be more specific than "venue?" What sort of venue?
Not only do I go to venues, I go out even if there are no venues.
I have a support group that I go to 9-10 times a year. Another friend holds parties for CD/TG and supporters depending on her schedule. Sometimes the dress for these parties is party wear, and other times it is themed, even with costumes. So not only am I walking down her street en femme, but in a costume! I have another friend who holds 2 parties a year.
In addition, I've been into New York City several times (most recently for an opera about Stonewall last month). But I don't need a venue to go out en femme.
I have an app through work that rewards you if you get to certain step levels (or equivalent) and sleep amounts each day. Weekdays it is usually not a problem reaching those levels, but weekends it had been. So I've been taking walks on the weekends to get in enough steps to reach those levels. After the first couple of times, I started walking en femme in my own neighborhood, wearing a skirt or skort and a tank top and just enough makeup to cover my beard. I have also gone to my local supermarket to pick up some items I forgot during the week. One day earlier this month before my walk I stopped into my local dress barn (about a quarter mile from my house) where they know me en homme. The way one of the saleswomen said "Oh, hi!" as she passed me in the aisle, I am pretty sure that recognized me.
Yes it's fun if I can go out with friends. But I'm happy to go out on my own too.
I would love to have some one to talk to in person about my dressing
That was my thought as well.Whether I'd go to a 'venue' depends on what the venue is offering.
Fiona, I love this poll, but being the troublemaker I am, I can’t check off just one box. In my case, I think all three of these apply:
“i am unsure about it, maybe yes, maybe no”
[but] “i would go if i had someone to come with me” and
“i would prefer to attend as a group”
Those at CDH who know me, know that I am über-closeted crossdresser, and am terrified of stepping out my front door – sort of like you, a scaredy cat.
BUT, if the venue was near me (short drive), and the venue was in a quiet, LGBTQ-friendly place where I could feel safe with the other CD attendees, then maybe yes. My plan would be to check into a nearby motel, a room on the first floor where I could park the car just outside the door. I would check in in drab, dress, jump into the car, then hopefully a short drive to pick up/drive with another CD. We could then drive together to the venue. I would hope there would be maybe a half-dozen or so of us at the meetup.
I would never go out alone en femme, or to a raucous event, even accompanied by other CDs. I am old and slow, and prefer tranquility to loud and crazy-wild.
Oh, and food. I love food, so I hope “the venue” would have a nice quiet restaurant on the grounds!