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I recently found myself in a conversation that made me very uncomfortable. A small group of crossdressers were discussing what the perfect relationship would be. All agreed that having a significant other that accepted crossdressing would be ideal. Crossdressers who are married to a woman that doesn’t accept their crossdressing find themselves in a difficult relationship. I chimed in and stated that I don’t have that problem since my S.O. was a crossdresser like myself. *( I am bisexual and find myself attracted to other crossdressers like myself )* It was quickly stated that it’s not the same thing. I asked why and was told “because it’s not a real relationship”. I was so upset by what was just said to me.
Didn't I just vote in this poll?
Thank you for your feedback. It means a lot to me.
What they said was insulting and reveals some internalized transphobia. If they were my friends I'd ditch them and find some new ones.
/EA
They're not my friends. Just a conversation I was involved in. Thank you for your feedback
Wendie:
I think what you heard in the original message was the Voice Of BS.
Rightfully so. That’s not cool what they said. It is absolutely the same thing. Your relationship is valid
Your encouraging positive feedback is most appreciated
oops hit the wrong one in the vote.
Hi Wendie, The others here have said it correctly. Real relationships are what you make of them, not what others make of them. Marg
I am responding to this without reading previous responses so that you get my unbiased reply.
Whomever said that your relationship "isn't real" because it's another crossdresser can go pound sand.
A relationship is real when two people decide that they have a relationship.
That seems like pretty narrow minded thinking from a person that seeks acceptance as a crossdresser.
You do you sweetie and you're lucky to have someone that gets you, and might even be able to share clothes with.
Have fun out there,
xoxo
Rayna
Thank you the kind and positive feedback
Kisses
Wendie
It seems to me you've got a pretty good (and proper) relationship. Maybe you got that awful reaction because they're jealous. Either that, or they're a bunch of crossdressing bigots, which would be some kind of irony. x
I think they felt like they were an exclusive clique. You could only participate by invitation only.
"shaking my head" *sigh*
Good lord, it's hard enough to meet CDs as it is without having to put up with that nonsense. I hope you've found better luck elsewhere. Their loss.
