M.M.P.M.P.C. anyone?

During my 22 years active service in the US Navy, I encountered many female sailors and marines whose profane obscene language would make a seasoned fleet sailor blush.

I’m only macho when I have to be. Sometimes being a hardass is the only language macho bully types understand. I learned that at a very young age. I spent 10 years as a cop and even then I would only use force if it was absolutely necessary.

I prefer my soft side as Heather.

Thanks for this post.

My wife swears like a navvie, although we here in the UK probably swear a lot more than the US. Only Australians and the Irish seem to be more proficient at dropping every known (and unknown) obscenity better than us. 🤣

I have always faked macho... since I was 5..... so I'm pretty good at it and quite frankly pretty tired of it... I have finally accepted the woman in me and find myself showing my femininity more and more. I have concluded that I am more than a CD... I have the soul of a woman.

Yes,  it's not my preferred method of communication but was a steelworker and a sailor so i can bark with the best of them when i need to.

I can't stand the stereotypical macho-man bullshit.  Never could even long before I ever started crossdressing.  I've never had any desire to act like that, not to "fit in" or "because I'm a guy" (honestly, I'm pretty convinced at this point that the old "I can't help it, I'm a guy" is 100% every time just a guy who knows he's being a jerk using that as an excuse to get off easy) or anything.

I've always had difficulty getting along with guys for this reason.  I sometimes get along okay with guys in the more nerdy/geeky/etc. category, but even then there's sometimes creepy comments that make the conversation just shut down until somebody changes the subject.  And whenever there's a group of guys all talking (in my past experiences it was high school guys first, then later college-age ones; after that age I've generally just avoided ever being around groups of guys just sitting around talking) you tend to eventually loop around to the gross conversations about whatever girls they find attractive.  What I've half-jokingly called the "hurr hurr she's hot" talk.  Except of course it's usually way more graphic and disrespectful than just that.

For so much of my life, literally every time I overheard guys talking about girls they were attracted to, the conversation was so creepy, gross, and disrespectful that I actually had to pop out into the hallway and congratulate two guys I overheard in college talking about one of the two's ex-girlfriend -- because even though the relationship hadn't ended on great terms, they were both actually being respectful about it and not being creeps or insulting the poor girl (she had her own issues she was dealing with which probably were part of what led to the relationship collapsing.)

So... yeah, I don't have a macho-man act.  I can't fake it and I've certainly never been like that for real.  And I've never wanted to!

Dear Harietta;

I really don't know how to answer this one.   I can swear a blue streak when I need to, but I'm only ever acting when I try to go 'full on macho'.    It doesn't come naturally and I've only ever done it when I think that I need to do it for self preservation reasons (and then do my best not to be in the same situation again).

The same reaction has been used to go hyper aggressive when I've felt physically threatened, but inside Molly is in the corner whimpering, so it's never a pretty sight, especially since I'm nowhere near intimidating physically.  (I think this is an unfortunate result of childhood bullying... The bullies tended to find more predictable targets once they'd pushed it too far in the physical realm)

In short, I feel quite silly when I've felt I had to engage in the pissing contests, and invariably wonder why I thought I needed to do that when it happens, and much more so, "Why didn't anyone call me on the lousy acting job?"

Have I done it?   'Yes', but only when I felt I had to, and always try to disengage as quickly as possible.

Has it worked for me? I don't think it did, but no one has ever called me on it to my face, so I feel that I need to answer "No".

I'm not a true Alpha male, and when it's not about something that I actually care about deeply, I don't feel compelled to correct or educate someone who's wanting to be Alpha, so I simply ignore them.... Most who have tried get pretty frustrated when I don't play the game, but occasionally I slip if I find them particularly annoying.

I do not engage in the crude talking about women past the point of agreeing that some girl/lady/woman looks good, because past that, it appears that I'm just not wired to express that way.

After a certain point in life, I found that I can project a certain 'intensity' of being (as described by more people than I care to count) that can be quite intimidating for those who have to deal with me when I need to, and they often seem to get the message that we're stepping into territory that may not be good to be in.   Since it's been described as both "being in trouble with your Dad" and "being in trouble with your Mum", I'm not sure if Macho is the way to describe it

-Molly

Never had an interest in being macho in any way so I just don't see any need to even try to fake it.

/kt

I answered yes, but with caveats.
when I am in "male", im very much male, not macho. but assertive, and strong willed-mannered.
Im not aggressive, but don't cross me. I had anger issues when young, maybe from being bullied in adolescence?
I dont swear much, even around other men unless im mad, I was taught not to, out of respect
So, Macho? maybe, but definitely masculine.
But when I change, I change completely. As someone else stated, my wife loves it, because I have been "male" for so many years, she cant get over my other side.
Regine

I answered 'yes'. When I am in male-mode I try to act 'male' and hide my natural tendencies towards femininity. However, the act doesn't come easily and ultimately I find it extremely draining to sustain for any length of  time. It's always been that way for me and throughout my life I've found it easier to simply avoid such gatherings and spend time either by myself or with the (other) girls/ladies.

Rachel xx

I’m sad to say I have and did on a daily basis at work.

However, in the last few years leading up to finally acknowledging Rei I’ve made a conscious and concerted effort to shut the heck up in most situations, and the need to ‘bond or blend’ into those groups and situations has melted away.

When the occasional need arises though........