Marriage

Affect : the letter  " A " means, " come  to  me ".  ( " E" means go  away). To Affect me  by CDing is to Affect  my relationships/ marriage, me absorbing  the affects . We all can only hope that  the " AFFECT & EFFECT " is a good feeling...both way.

My wife and I have worked very hard to apply the  " A" & the "E" to our marriage,  communicating as much as possible over the rest of our lives.

Dr.T.J.

I have been with my partner for over 35 yrs and we are not married - and they are very supporting of my TG/CD lifestyle and knew all about it since before we got together. (This isnt on the list above .. )

Sure, we have discussions and resetting of boundaries every now and then, but its just a big part of my life that they have always known about and both enjoy it together.

Hugs

Dawn x

Hello Jennifer.

I have been divorced for 20 years which was nothing to do with crossdressing....we just gradually grew apart. Once the relationship was over, i just decided to let the pink fog take me and see what happened next.....

Since then I have lived my dream, year by year changing more into the person I need/want to be. I'm enjoying life more and generally, I have never been happier....I'm a " glass half full " girl...I never look back, just forward and it's all good for me at this moment.....I wouldn't change very much.....I'm such a lucky girl!!

Here's to life🍾🍾🍾

Grace xx

I have been with my wife for 32 years. High school sweethearts. I marked Happily Married.  Because we are not un happy.  The spark and lust of the early years is not there, but we still love each other and want to be married to each other.  My CD has put a strain on the relationship as she discovered it a year and a half ago.  We do not talk about it alot.

Paula

Happily married,for 40 yrs, and my dressing has enhanced my marriage
Hugs, Regi👸💕

Been divorced for 13 years due to her infidelity. Seemed devastating at the time but looking back I'm so glad to not be married to her...she has developed into a sad mean bigot. After the divorce I was left with not very much but after a few months I noticed my back account was looking better, within a few years I was debt free then made a couple of real estate purchases and sells and now 13 years later retired and enjoying life. after the divorce I focused on my children and myself  and started enjoying life to the fullest. Even though I believe a good marriage is a wonderful thing I will NEVER get married again.

Sandy

It definitely took some time, but we have now very much normalized my fluidity in terms of gender presentation within our marriage. We routinely go out together as girls, and I will regularly wear feminine clothing around the house, and there is basically no change in the dynamic at all.

Talking it through, seeking therapy, reading up on gender identity issues, and an abundance of patience and understanding is what got us here.

My crossdressing emerged during, and because of, a very difficult time in our marriage many years ago.  In many ways it is what actually saved us from splitting up at that time and I’m very thankful for that - because I love and adore my wife so dearly and we have a wonderful life together!

We’ve now been married for nearly 38 years and are happier than ever.  She knows all about my dressing, she was there when it began so it has never been a secret, nor a damaging ‘discovery’ for her.  She’s not ‘all-in,’ we don’t shop together, she doesn’t buy me stuff, and she doesn’t ever want to see me dressed, but she accepts and acknowledges that it is a part of me and she supports me doing it within the boundaries that we’ve agreed to as a couple.  Without a doubt, she and I are both in agreement that even though it isn’t all roses, my crossdressing has been a benefit/help in our marriage and has made our connection as a couple stronger - largely because of what it has done for me as a man and as a husband (strange as that may sound to some)…

Marcellette

Hi Jennifer I have been married to the same woman coming up on 40 years. It is my first and only marriage. Like many here CDing has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. I am fortunate I started going out fully dressed in my mid teens to local gay bars. I learned so much about my self at a very early age. I found out I did not like men at all. I found out I really enjoyed presenting .myself as woman I liked how it felt and did like how I looked at the time. If there was ever a time to go full time all the time it would of been back then I always felt a need to find a partner in life. That seemed to be the priority not the CDing. Do not get me wrong there was always a closet and a couple of draws for my fem clothes  I dated a lot of gg woman and one post op transwoman . All were very lovely and all found out one way or another about my secret desire to present as a woman. When I finally met the woman I am married to today I did not want to scare her off. I went into denial hoping that my CDing would just go away. We all know it doesn't So after she  found my clothes  and  a few months past [ Very difficult months to say the least] I give her all the credit for saving the marriage.She did everything  sho knew how to learn about crossdressers.  Believe it or not it was her gay boy friend that educated her the most and helped her put her mind at ease.I me hin only met him once at our wedding . When she felt comfortable that I did not have a sideline gay relationship or I was not going to leave her she got involved.She came to the Tg/CD club She loved being around and talking with CD members any way it was she that saved our marriage that has lasted  almost 40 years  Yes Cding has had a good impact on my marriage She continually  reminds me of how a woman  would handle a situation . I will do the same by suggesting what I have learned from the male perssective. There seems to be always a compromise. It not about the clothes anymore It is about two people caring for each others needs and only wanting the best for each other. sorry for ranting Time to go shopping          Luv Stephanie

Married long time, many you even know my wife on here. The name Venus Aphroditite should ring a bell with many. Yep that's the little woman.

Yep she even knew about my crossdressing before we started dating, her kids knew to, my kids knew, heck, everyone knows.

I had the learn the hard way like other CD men. Keeping CDing a secret does not work in long term realationships.

So I let the cat out the bag right away.

Married long term and she found one of my bras the second year which drove me into the closet for decades. Came out to her a few years ago and happy I did. She didn't like it but wasn't surprised. Today I dress pretty much as I want and buy what I want with her knowledge and its no problem. She does not want to see Michelle but knows she exists and knows its just part of who I am. We are as happily married as an old couple can be.

Twice divorced. Neither as a direct result of my cross dressing. My first marriage ended when my wife had an affair with another woman and came out (I think I subconsciously knew and hoped that would help her accept Elise). My second wife was just a terrible person who had multiple affairs and racked up debt.

Much like Sandy, I have since focused on my children and myself. Im finally happy (and solvent), and have no intention of ever being in a relationship again.

Happily married, not without periods of conflict but it’s all good!

I was married before for just a few years and thankfully my ex never found out or post divorce things would have been very bad (did I say just 'very'? I mean really bad! REALLY BAD!!). As I've mentioned here, I shared with my now SO very early in our now 40+ year marriage.  We are happily married, but I voted no effect, because I keep it to a reasonable amount and in private.  We did try to incorporate some of the aspects into our intimate moments, but, (sadly to say), I'm very heterosexual and so, girl/girl just really didn't do any fireworks... or even sparklers. Now, intimate hetero? Well, yeah, most every moment has been...you know.