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out shopping * how do you buy women's clothes Poll is created on Jan 05, 2025

  
  
  

out buying clothes

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(@Anonymous 100087)
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do you buy your clothes in guy mode, cd mode or both?

i have no problem buying women's clothes in public. i can do it in male or female form. i tried on knee high boot the other day in guy mode. there was a lady next to me when i did it. i don't know her and she don't know me. if she would have said something i would have said my girlfriend takes the same size as me. if im buying women's clothes they could be for my wife, girlfriend or daughter. and you think the salesclerk cares. their just there to check you out and do their job. we all have some reason to buy women's clothes. birthdays, Christmas, a special day, etc. no one really cares. i know i don't. 

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(@cdashley)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1489

@prettytoes I answered “ both “ and have done both. I do not have a problem with looking at, trying on and purchasing womens clothes, shoes and even makeup.  Back in the day I do admit I used the shopping for my wife/ gf line until one day I told the sales associate I was shopping for myself while picking out a skirt and asked her to help for a top to go with it.  For a while now I’ve been wearing my woman’s jeans, top , light makeup and perfume while still presenting as a man( no wig or forms in). Most sales associates don’t care lady’s.  A crossdressers money is the same as a cis gendered woman’s is. Hold your head high and shop away lady’s.

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(@juliarey)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     East central, Wisconsin, United States of America
Posts: 41

@cdashley Well said Ashley.  If there are any store clerks who never encountered a cross dresser, they have to be pretty new at their job.  Most stores have policies prohibiting their employees from treating you different than any other customer.

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Lady
(@candycross)
Joined: 9 months ago

Honorable Member     Queensland, Australia
Posts: 314

@prettytoes l buy my clothes online from home in cd mode and l also buy cl5from thrift shops in guy mode with my wife

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Lady
(@ashleigh)
Joined: 9 years ago

Noble Member     Ocala, Florida, United States of America
Posts: 934

@prettytoes I used to only shop in male mode, now I only shop for clothes as Emily. I actually feel less awkward shopping en femme than I did shopping for womens clothes dressed in male attire. Especially underwear!

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(@geniv_cd)
Joined: 8 years ago

Reputable Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
Posts: 260

@ashleigh Emily, I feel the exact same way. Once I went shopping for clothes for Genivieve as Genivieve, it became much more fun and By trying things on, I was able to get clothes that looked good and that fit! It certainly is expensive being a girl though isn’t it? Wink

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Duchess
(@3s3eve)
Joined: 2 years ago

Reputable Member     Chicago, Illinois, United States of America
Posts: 149

@prettytoes I shop in both modes, and although I primarily wear women's clothes, most are somewhat androgynous.  I have often been called ma'am by clerks who must not have looked me in the eye. I'm sure someone must have noticed the 2.5" heeled boots I had on. I do not wear make-up and have a natural ponytail, so it must be " why would anyone anyone but a woman be shopping in the lingerie section of the store...." hahaha

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(@brittney2016)
Joined: 6 years ago

Prominent Member     Cincinnati, Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 907

@prettytoes: "and you think the salesclerk cares". Read the forum post "Recent Experience at Torrid" by Penelope Matthews; one particular salesclerk definitely cared. Even I've been "banned" from browsing/shopping in a certain second-hand resale store in my local area because the owner cared.

Regardless, I buy my women's clothes primarily in guy mode; but I've also bought women's clothes in CD mode twice at two different stores. Of course; these two stores had a more receptive reputation towards CDers and TGers.

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(@Anonymous 100087)
Joined: 2 months ago

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@brittney2016 well that discrimination. you should report it to the owner. they just lost a sale and maybe more if word gets out. i think its against the law to refuse money that is legal for all tender. no matter how you dress.

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(@brittney2016)
Joined: 6 years ago

Prominent Member     Cincinnati, Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 907

@prettytoes; Not that I'm defending the store; but by law, they can refuse service to anyone for any reason; it's a legal loophole. IMO, the person that it happened to would be in the right and I think would win a civil case if the store refused service solely because of her being a CDer; TGer more assuredly. But prosecutors would most likely see it as a frivolous lawsuit and not pursue it.

I was just surprised to hear that the store was Torrid. I've heard that they accept CDers & TGers and don't "judge" on appearance since they praise body image being a store that caters to bigger framed and plus size customers.

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(@lizk)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
Posts: 3859

@prettytoes 

Posted by: @Anonymous 100087

do you buy your clothes in guy mode, cd mode or both?

Trans mode.

/LK

 

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(@caroline2k)
Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

I don't dress outside the house, so I'm ostensibly in chap-mode.

However I am surreptitiously wearing tights, lingerie, ladies skinny jeans, tops or blouses and sweaters and even an occasional bit of subtle makeup when I'm out shopping. So maybe that covers the 'Both' option as well! 😉

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Lady
(@opaldreams)
Joined: 4 years ago

Estimable Member     Isle of Iona, United Kingdom
Posts: 154

@caroline2k i'd say that definately covers the 'both' option ! Same as me , apart from ive yet to get into makeup

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(@michellemybell)
Noble Member     Clearwater, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

I don't dress outside the house so I'm always in guy mode.  I enjoy shopping for Michelle and have no fear of what people may think.  The exception is panties and bras.  I had a friend of my daughters see me buying panties a while back and she looked horrified and has avoided me ever since so I keep my panties and bra shopping online but anything else goes.  I enjoy clothes shopping in the charity stores but haven't had the nerve to try on the clothes.  I have a good eye for fit and the clothes are so cheap that if I make a mistake it's no big deal.

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Duchess Annual
(@robertaf)
Noble Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Ive done both but mostly when dressed. Its just so much more fun when dressed.

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(@liza4you)
Estimable Member     MICHIGAN CITY, Indiana, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

I had to vote both but since I shop from my computer the answer may not technically count,  used to try and talk my wife into helping me dress and both go out as girls, that went over like a lead brick. So as soon as I can find a place to go that's cd friendly or safe I'm out the door I have only driven dressed but with no place to go. lol.

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(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I shop in male mode as I don't go out of the house dressed although I do on occasion underdress in panties and have worn my ankle boots while in drab. I do most of my shopping at Wal Mart and thrift stores but have visited boutiques with my wife as well as Macy's. I've never gotten any strange looks that I could tell. Like others have said I don't think anyone pays attention or cares. I have been in a shoe store and tried on heels with no problem.

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@remi)
Trusted Member     GTA, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 3 months ago

I shop in both guy mode and cd.

I really don't care what people are doing around me when I shop.

If I am in guy mode and shopping for a bra and a woman is next to me I don't care what she is thinking. I don't spend my time thinking up excuses why as a guy I am shopping for bras.

 

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Lady
(@harriette)
Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 2 years ago

I selected both for a reason - I dress androgynously in public. All women's clothes 100% of the time, you just have to look at the labels to figure out what I am doing.

Of the stores near me that have bras, one is Winners, a discount clothing chain. Their bra racks are so disorganized that I don't want to waste much time there looking for hard / impossible to find bra sizes (38 A). The last bra that I bought was in a lingerie chain and an attentive sales clerk helped me deal with a new form size.

Otherwise, I use a tape measure to select clothes without bothering with trying it on in a change room. If there is any doubt if an item will fit or not, there is always another day to find the jewel that does fit. If I find something important that really should be tried on, in the future, I know how to find a change room.

So, I am always crossdressing, but it is not always obvious. Oh, and I don't buy men's clothing any more, either, so you will only find me in the women's section. 

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(@cherylt)
Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

I used to shop primarily drab. The usual fears of course, someone seeing me that I know, the snide look from the cashier or customer. The problem was I'd find something that looked fabulous on the mannequin only to look dreadful on me when I got it home. Then another trip back to return it and the question from the cashier "Why do you want to return it?". I'd love to just say "I love it but it look terrible on me" but that's not going to happen. 

So, I stopped doing that and started shopping dressed. Now if I find something I just try it on and I know before I buy how it fits and looks. The only things I will still buy drab are lingerie and shoes sometimes. I know my sizes and taste and if I see something while drab I'll just buy it. I look for sales all the time but anything in outerwear like dresses, skirts, blouses, coats, etc I want to see on me first. 

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(@carlafirst11)
Honorable Member     So. California , California, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I shop in both, male and female. I have to say that is a bit more fun in female mode as I can try on just about anything my eyes discover, and if I decide to buy it I already know it will fit me perfectly. 

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(@kerrismith)
Prominent Member     Belvidere, Illinois, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I have purchased clothes in both boy and girl mode.  I once stood in line at a shoe store in a skirt and heels to buy a pair of pumps.  It seems like people just don’t care anymore.

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 11 months ago

I shop in guy mode, but am happy to explain the items are for me and will try items on.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1341

Posted by: @annaredhead

I shop in guy mode, but am happy to explain the items are for me and will try items on.

No way I could bring myself to do that, I would feel so self-conscious. 

 

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1839

@rebeccabaxter In a high street chain shop, I couldn't. But in an independent boutique, no problem as most are very CD friendly.

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

guy mode never been out of the house dress still get anxious just looking at a new bra to buy lol 

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Baroness
(@revel)
Noble Member     Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

I dress privately. I have never been out in public en femme, so like Erin and a few others, I shop for women's clothing in guy mode. I consider Revel my twin sister, so if a woman is near me while I'm shopping for women's clothing, sometimes I say, "I bet my sister would like this for her birthday gift." It really helps take away the awkward feeling, and the suspicion she might have that I'm a crossdresser. Haha. 😆

Rev ❤️

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Duchess
(@rozalyne)
Famed Member     Shrewsbury, Shropshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi Rachel, 

I'm always in guy mode when i buy my fem clothes, when i first started buying clothes for Roz i used to get very embarrassed but not now, the shop assistants don't seem to bother if your a man or a woman as long as they get a sale, 

I like going with my wife when she is back buying clothes as i can have a sneaky view at what's for sale, 

Love Roz ❤️ 

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