Stress and CrossDressing

hello Sammy . I believe that dressing up in all female cloths helps me with panic attacks and stress. I am medically retired so I am a stay home dad, have a 22 year old still at home. when he goes to work my wife will tell me I can do what I like to do. yes my wife knows of my x dressing put will not let me sit in same room as her. she has seen me dressed up and even sat next to me just to show me something and then leave the room I was in.  there are times she does not like to see me dressed up and then there are times she will tell me I can dress up.   wish I had the chance to dress up and go shopping and all that, wife knows so why not dress as a female and go shopping.  I am a thin person and with some make up I can pass as a female. cover up and foundation would help.  I keep my face clean shaved, so some eye shadow and lip stick, mascara and some foundation I would look like a female. some nail polish would top it off. I have my own collection of female clothing, make up, perfume, ear rings{ clip on}. panties, and even pads.  I buy my own in stores and don't care what the cashier thinks, but for going out dressed up. I am not that brave it would have to be not in my area so I would have to drive some where and go shopping, be under dressed  then put on make up in vehicle, heels on and wig, perfume and get out of vehicle an go shopping.

Sammy

It helps with my stress too.  I always seem to find my way back to crossdressing when I am stressed out.  Unfortunately, I deal with a lot of crossdressing guilt too.  I am trying a happy balance.  I definitely agree with you though.  When I am in the moment as Tiffany, I feel so good.  Thanks for bringing up the topic.

hugs,

Tiff

The stress and the guilt. Very brutal combo. I have tried to shed the shame of what I do and who I am. I think that the early programming we get as children is so difficult to overcome. But becoming aware of the it helps so much in taking steps to overcome it.

I agree about the early programming.  I have to shed the thinking that crossdressing is wrong and something I should not do.  I used to deal with the shame of hiding it from my wife.  It felt like I was cheating on her when I crossdressed.  Last year, I told her I crossdressed, so at least I crossed that bridge.  That said, I still deal with a lot of guilt…and it is so very lonely too.

Sometimes I stress BECAUSE I am not dressed.

If there's something out there stressing me out, I am unable to take my mind off of it (dressed or not) until I resolve it. If it is a person causing me unnecessary stress (because that's just how they are, or they are trying to drag me into their problems) I typically find ways to deflect those efforts or harshly tell them that their problems are not my problems.

Hi Sammy,

I find being cross dressed helps reduce the stress and anxiety I experience in day to day life.

Alice

I dressed and went out a lot in my teens and college years. After college I gradually stopped dressing. Life was happening and a lot of good things were coming.

Several years ago things changed. My wife thought I might enjoy dressing again. I had some old clothes I kept. They were incredibly sexy. I can't believe I had the nerve to wear them. We went out and got some new clothes.

I found when I put on my pantyhose and slide into my heels, I feel more relaxed and comfortable. When I put on a bra, I feel even more relaxed. Then I slide my breastforms in. I'm feeling very good. I slip a dress on. Mmmm, I'm feeling very good. Then I put on a wig. I love my pretty hair.

I sit down in front of my mirror and put my makeup on. I'm so enjoying this. Now I'm dressed with sometimes no place to go. Maybe I'll got out for a drive, make a few stops and get out and walk around. I'm totally int being Patty, with all the fears, anxiety, and nervousness and all the thrill, rush and excitement that comes with being out in shiny tan pantyhose, sexy shoes, short dress, nice firm breasts and pretty hair. I become someone different. The troubles, stress and worries I had is gone.

In the beginning there was a bikini, and I put it on and tucked my boyhood bits away and I felt good. Then body hair started and I felt unclean, so I removed the hair and it felt good. Then exam stress started and I found my sister's make up and I experimented, and it felt good. It looked like a road traffic accident but it felt good.

Then came the army, and I had to be guy and macho and hard and unfeeling, and that felt good. What was going on? And I could not dress or make up and that felt bad, and I was the soldier who listened to others crying and tried to comfort with words and gesture, and that felt good. Was I two people? Was I mad? Bad? No, but I was two sets of feelings in one body. I was a man's man and a girl's girl and all the points in between. And I am that all the time. And I admitted this to myself and it felt good. I sought out a Padre and talked for hours over months. An enlightened man, he and I reached the conclusion that the military was not a good place for me. I left and I felt bad, but so very good.

I became Sian more and man less and it felt good. Now I am Sian, who dresses as a woman, in the main, but thinks like a man. Sian who looks like a man but dresses like a woman. But when she is a woman she looks like one and can be convincing when she wants to be. But mostly she is Sian, and it feels good.

I don't know if it reads well, or expressed well. I just thought you should know.

Love to all

Sian x

Sometimes crossdressing helps reduce stress.  Other times it causes it.  Lol.

Undergoing the exact same situation.  I find having my little secret helps extraordinarily.  Unfortunately a pending trip to FL is making me let my leg hair grow, wishing I could still go smooth legged in shorts, would be tough to explain.

Speaking for myself, stress plays a huge role in my dressing.  I’ve never been out and I can’t say how I would behave, but I would imagine a feminine personality would emerge.  Mainly because for me, dressing is a escape, a chance to, at least in my mind, be someone else in a sense and gives me a chance to step  out of the norm of every day life I suppose.  Even though I have on a bunch of shapewear and foundation garments, it’s  still comfortable and soothing like a old friend lol.

I am a firm believer that it helps with stress, I was a late bloomer as I did not start until I was 48, I was running three business and working all the time. As business grew it just added more stress and some things went the wrong way  financially. Was at a convention in Las Vegas in 2002 and had ran across a makeover service it intrigued me so I went. After the makeover I could not believe it was me in the mirror and a whole different persona emerged , after returning home explore the net and made a few cd friends , had a difficult time at first accepting it but with the help of these friends I decided to accept this part of myself and began going out. I made many trips back to convention in Las Vegas and continued to go to the makeover artist where I learned how to do my makeup and feel more comfortable as Gina, Gina is a different persona than my male side and it has helped me deal with many stressful times in my life. As I got more comfortable with Gina I have been out and about many places and feel I am a better person .

I agree 100% with this as much as I did the day I wrote it. It was one of my first posts on CDH

4.76%. Need to see a therapist, or get a new outfit. LOL