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It has taken me years to learn how to crossdress to my satisfaction. I would love to hear from others what areas have been (are) challenging for them.
Probably should have added an all of the above option to this poll. 🤪😉💄👄🤦🏼♀️
For me the hardest part of all was accepting what I am. For years I lived in denial and had a hatred towards myself for wanting to dress and loving it when I was. Afterwards I would feel like I had done something wrong and hated that I had done it. Don't get me wrong things like make up and what to wear, how to wear it is all difficult but for me the hardest part by a long long way was accepting myself
Well said. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I agree with Emily. It is all of the above.
in the beginning for me it was all of the above and now its mostly trying to get get better consistently
with a more feminine voice
Absolutely! I knew I’d forget something.
Can't say I have ever self loathed but accepting oneself in a Northern working class area was hard. Petrified of being discovered back then and forced out of town. I am comfortable with myself now but would still not show myself to my locals. In whatever way we live public, private who is hurt, nobody. Carpe diem I believe is the saying. Enjoy yourself.
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Hi Abi , I hope you've found that acceptance in yourself , it's certainly a unsettling experience. X Tiffany
Physically the hardest part is undoubtedly make up , minimising male features especially broad shoulders ( long wig can do this ) hands & body movements.
I agree with the previously mentioned emotional issues being hard . It's a thoughtfully posed question x
I don't do hair or makeup. For me, the hardest part is finding the opportunity to dress.
Really the hardest part was trying to be a closet crossdresser so paranoid about being discovered that I didn't even have a 'stash'. I'd literally only get to dress once, maybe twice, a year via dressing services (I lived in the UK then, so was well-served in that respect).
Obviously the initial process of coming out was hard as well.
But neither of those things are really what the poll is asking about
From then on none of it's been truly difficult. The 'hard' things have been trivial aspects such as deciding whether certain styles work for me (balancing what I want to wear with what actually works) and how to wear certain items. That's a constant learning experience, but I'm winning on two fronts - I have a wardrobe of things that I know suit me and that I'm comfortable wearing, but I'm also more confident about what I wear as well, which increases the possibilities (such as wearing a school dress to work the other day, albeit that it was heavily dressed up to look business-like and professional 🙂 ).
Actually, I’m still in the throes of learning to crossdress, although I love it dearly. There are very few things about my dressing I can say require no more work or experimentation. One is my hairstyle (wig). I’m quite satisfied with the fit and the way my wigs frame my face. The other is bra/breastform size and style. Here, I believe that I just about have the authentic look I want under clothes: not too voluptuous but just ample enough to appear unobtrusive.
Sadly, I had to check all the other boxes. Lots more work to be done in so many other areas.
I have just started trying make-up and need help.
thinking about going to see Rori.
I am still trying to figure out what hair color and style looks best with me, I bought 4 wigs and try them all. I have teh 3 favorites on my pictures, any thoughts from anybody??
I have a black wig, blonde, and a brunette wig. I got a long blonde black wig thta was on close=out because it was only $10.
I personally like the blond an d the black wigs the best. Puzzling as I had medium brown hair naturally.
I knew makeup would be a big one, the voice, also going out, I have done that only once really, I don't count the 2 times in a hotel room.