When you went to your first venue out how did you dress?

Serves you right....drink lots of water. Your poll....I can't answer....my first time out was in plain blouse and slacks and flats. Make up and wig, yes. Never flashy but sophisticated and again, depended upon the function.

Hope you feel better soon. Make that resolution....I will never get embalmed again on New Years.........till next year.

Veronica

I too am suffering from last night - I guess giving in occasionally to the impulse to behave irresponsibly is ok - as long as a hangover is the only price we pay and no one else gets hurt.

My first time out was way back in the 70's, I got dressed at a friend's apartment and the two of us walked the four blocks to the drag show we attended. I was young, and on my way to a drag show, so the ensemble was a little over the top for both of us in terms of the heavy makeup and heels.  My friend had performed at this club and did my makeup for me.  I remember the black pantyhose, the micro skirt, the long false eyelashes, the bright blue eye shadow and the ruby red lipstick - I also remember my feet hurting a lot from the four block walk.

After not dressing for long time, I started again a few years back.  On the second "first time out" I went to pub night organized by a trans community social group, this time as a more mature lady.  I rented a room at a hotel very close to the pub where the gathering was.   I got dressed at the hotel, wore comparatively  toned down makeup, a red and black dress, nude pantyhose and a pair of flats.  Even though it was a very short trip, it was still a great thrill to walk out of the hotel, past a couple of patio bars and into the pub.

I had spent time preparing.  First I searched around for a venue to go to that was near me.  I found a gay bar not far away.   I had planned to go on Halloween night.  I first visited the bar in drab and checked it out.  I meet the guy who ran the drag shows for some information and he was a great help.

I spent the late afternoon preparing, I wore a cute black dress, full lingerie and heels.  As Halloween fell on a Saturday night it was pack.   Mostly all were in costume and a lot of gay guys and some gg girls, I think I was the only gurl there that night.   It was a blast,  I met, or rather tried to be picked up on, by a couple different guys.  One even grabbed my butt as I tried to slide by him in the heavy crowd.  I didn't mind, it was all in good fun and I was in the clouds loving it.  It was the first of many times that I would go to that bar.  I always have a good time and have gotten to know many of the Bartenders.

Last Halloween was another blast.  It was kind of a first too.  I have become friends with the guy  who ran the drag shows.  He is also a drag entertainer there.  He and his gay room mate, who is a personal chief, invited me to come to their place which is by the bar, to get dressed and drive over with them.  (Normally I would get a hotel room across the street from the bar, but it is fairly expensive. )  It was a wonderful night, my entertainer friend and I sat at the kitchen table and did our makeup while the chef prepared our meal.  It was a real first for me and I just  loved it.   We had a great time at the bar.  My entertainer friend was doing a show that night, "Drag Bingo",  as she reads the numbers off she cracks jokes with a lot of audience participation.  It went on for about 2hours while the place filled up.  I was her assistant that night passing out new bingo play sheets and dabbers to the players as they came in and for new games.  So it was my job to go to each guest as they came in and ask if they wanted to play, and everyone in the place when we started a new game.  I was dressed in a Princess Peach costume with the cutest sparkly red heels.  I even got a complement from the lesbian girls setting next to me at the bar.  One of my best times ever.

Jen

First time out was in a fuzzysweater, skinny jeans with embroidery on the back pocket, light make up, ankle boots....and BF on one arm...wink...definitely under the radar

Ahhh, the first time... It was the early 8os and I went to Detroit for a makeover and CD Club event which was about a about a 150 mile drive. I donned a casual outfit of black slacks, a tan sweater and black boots. I did my own makeup and wig, and took a black overcoat to keep out the cold. My first real hurdle was using the Ladies room on the Ohio  Turnpike. Apprehensively I entered and observed how the other women acted and copied their routine. No one noticed, paid attention or commented which was an ego builder. I was so emboldened I stopped for food and continued to use the Woman's room as needed. Only my voice caused second looks, but no comments. I felt accepted and very feminine!

Morgan,

Your short story says it all.... you are comfortable and confident in your female role.

Love the fuzzy sweaters....

Thanks,

Sarah

Hi Fiona, it's Scarlett and great question by the way!

Yes, my first time out in public as Scarlett happened about four years ago and I got my total girl on as Scarlett before I left the house. My wife was away on a business trip and I finally, after years of  being scared to make a public appearance, went for it!

I wore a cute short wool black and white plaid skater skirt paired with a thin black turtle neck top and an embellished wide elastic belt with faux diamonds in the buckle and front wide leather section of the belt which was 4 inches wide. I also work black opaque Hanes tights with black suede ankle bootie that had a circle of faux back fur at the top of them.

My first stop was to our local mall about 7 pm and this was in December so the sun had already gone down. I was shaking in my little ankle booties when I got out of my wife's brand new white Honda two door sporty coupe out in the parking lot just outside the busiest entrance to our mall which is the food court entrance.

I walked in with my head held high and a big smile on my face and walked from the food court entrance all of the way down a long hallway. After about half way down the hallway, I could tell that no one in the mall had a clue that I was a guy dressed up like a girl and my confidence just started to take off. So I got up the guts to go into my first shop ever as Scarlett and it was the makeup store known as Sephora. I just strolled in and started to browse for a little while when a female sales associate asked me if I needed any help and I told her no that I was just looking today. Then I told her I was a cross dresser named Scarlett and she was amazed because she had absolutely no idea I was a guy dressed as a girl. She said, "Wow, you're gorgeous! I could have never known you were a guy unless you told me. Don't go anywhere, I want my manager and a few of the other girls here to see you if you don't mind." So I said, "Sure, bring them over, I want to ask them what they think of the outfit and the job I did on my makeup."

So Stephanie brought the entire crew over because they were slow with customers that night and the girls started asking me a whole slew of questions like - Did you do your own makeup or did some other girl help you? It's an amazing job and I wouldn't change a thing she said. Next was from another girl named Ashley and she asked me if I picked out the entire outfit and the suede booties I was wearing or did some other girl help me with that as well. And I told her no and that everything they were looking at was put together by me.

Anyway, the group stayed there and talked with me for about 30 minutes and told me to make sure to come back and visit again next time I dressed up as Scarlett because none of them would have had a clue I was a guy unless I had told them up front or listened to my voice that I didn't try to disguise as a girl's voice.

The same thing happened at my next stop in the mall which was at Victoria's Secret. So the entire night was an amazing experience and I could hardly wait until my wife went out of town again so I could get my girl on as Scarlett and go out and have some girly fun again and when that did take place, the same thing happened and I went to a movie after I finished visiting the shops at the mall.

It took some real balls to go out as a girl the very first time as Scarlett but it was one of the most wonderful experiences of my life and now I can't wait to pick out my outfit that I'll wear next time out in public as Scarlett when my wife leaves on a business trip!

Great question and subject and I hope you enjoyed my story!

XOXOXO Scarlett

I had intentionally confined myself to my home for cross dressing purposes out of fear of the unknown if I were to go out in public. The need to express myself out side of my home kept growing and eventually I compromised and took a long ride in my truck. It was during the winter last year so I dressed for cold weather for the ride around the mountains of New Hampshire. I wore a wool pleated skirt and a colorful sweater. I had tights on instead pantie hose and warm lingerie under my outfit. I did the best I could to look pretty on the outside. The first stop was an hour from home.I went to Dunkin Doughnuts for coffee (drive up) and started to shake when the lady handed me the coffee and change. Next to McDonalds to use the ladies room then continued on my trip to another town and did pretty much  the same thing. Surprisingly no one paid any attention to me as I walked around the parking lot while sipping on another coffee. I made it home about 4 hours after  I started. I felt good that I had accomplished something publicly but still had that void feeling that I needed to let go even more. I'm working on it with some other people who are members of the same Sage group that I am. Eventually all of us will achieve what we're looking for.

Thanks for listening,

Phyllis.

It was actually to a convention, so it was a costume. I was quite proud of myself

The Club Party in Detroit was formal and I, of course, wore a LBD. It was just above the knee, form fitting with a full front, gossamer sleeves and an open back.  That called for a strapless bra (black) and I combined that with black stockings and 3" strappy black heels. Gold rings bracelets and earrings set off my blonde updo (wig).

Fun Fun Fun! Lots of dancing (the guys were great) and getting to know one another.

My first time out was in a blue jean skirt and a cute top.  I didn't have any girls shoes, so I wore some flips flops that could pass.  No one really batted an eye.  I could tell every now and then that someone was checking me out, but it was not a big deal.

Most recently I have been making it my mission to go out at least three or four times a week dress only en femme - all the way from bra and panties to either a cute dress or romper and heels or cute boots.  Nothing male at all, except for me.

I eat at a local sandwich shop and they have been so cool when they see me.  The girls in particular.  I love wearing my high heel leather boots, with shaved legs, and waiting in line.  I love that when they look at me that then smile.  One of the girls told me that my overall dress was real cute!  That made me so happy.  It was the first time anyone that I didn't know had complemented me on my outfit.

The other day, I wore a blue polo type dress that came to my thigh, bra and panties, my leather healed boots, and some blue tights.  The young woman at the shop yelled across to me "I love your tights.  That color is great."  It was such a nice moment.  The guy who was waiting on me smiled.  I spoke with the young woman and told her how much I loved the options for woman's clothes.  She gave me some places to shop and I told her thank you for being accepting of someone who dresses a bit different.  She just loved and said no worries.

It so empowering to walk into a place where you don't know people and to feel pretty and confident.  And to have them be so nice and welcoming.  The customers who are in line never say anything.  A young woman was in front of me the other day, and I could tell she was checking out my outfit, but she was totally cool.

I guess there is a possibility of someone, sometime saying something.  But for me, going to places that I know are accepting make me feel safe and secure.  And to have very pretty woman complement me was so inspiring!  It makes me happy in my decision to start dressing as a woman!

Jennifer

To be quite honest my first time out happened a long time ago when I lived in upstate NY.
I lied about having to go to work on a Saturday and checked into a motel near where I worked.
I'd borrowed some clothes from my live in girlfriend and unbeknownst to her. I had accumulated quite a bit of lingerie and shoes buying a few items at a time and keeping them hid from my girlfriend.
I showered and shaved including any legs then put on some makeup and fixed my wig.
I put on a pair of suntan pantyhose and a pair of white panties and a white bra then put on a black short sleeve dress that zipped up in the back. It fit me alright but not as well as I thought that it would. The hem came down to just below my knees. I put on a pair of tan pumps and I was ready to go out dressed en.femme for the first time ever.
I was in a Sheraton Inn and I had to go down on the elevator to the lobby then walk past the front desk so that I could go outside to where my car was parked. .
When I pushed the button to call the elevator I didn't think that there would be anyone on it when it stopped at my floor.
The chime rang and the elevator door opened and there stood a man and a woman who smiled at me as I stepped in the elevator car with them and pushed the button to go down to the lobby.
I was standing there with them standing behind me when the girl said to me
Your zipper isn't zipped all the way up. Do you want me to close it all the way for you she asked me? .
Yes please do I said in my best feminine voice that I had. She zipped the zipper all the way up to my neck and I told her. Thank you.
When the elevator stopped at the lobby and the door opened I stepped out then started walking towards the front desk. The clerk hardly noticed me as I went by on my way to the entrance of the motel
I went to my car with a new sense of confidence knowing that I hadn't been outed so I must look like a female
After going to a McDonald's for a quick meal I went back to the motel and didn't have anyone question my sexuality and I went back to my room without any problems with anyone who saw me
That was what happened to me on my first time out en femme.

Went to a Jerusalem street party,  then to a house party then to a house party at a village. Everyone loved it because my ass was glorious and it showed with that skirt.  Doing sqauts to get my ass back

I went out fully dressed in ladies jeans, white pull over blouse, long blond wig, black ankle boots with 4" heels, my c cup breast forms, full make upand of course all the nice stuff that goes under the clothes

xoxo Brenda