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During grade school l was an outcast l was bullied. When teams were picked during gym I was second to last or last to be picked. Second to last is the same as last. I was effeminate as a child.
Mostly rebellious. If a subject or teacher kept me interested then I was well-behaved and studious. If it didn't then I was quite difficult. Had occasional changes of hair colour (and punishment for doing so). Besides my natural auburn, I went blond and pink at different times.
Academically, I did enough to pass exams, no more than that unless I was interested.
I enjoyed running and volleyball, hated throwing events and gym. Not interested in hockey or cricket.
I loved rugby, played mostly as a back-row forward, occasionally on the wing. Quite happy to tackle headfirst - my left eye is scarred from mistiming a tackle and getting studded.
I was never macho but I enjoyed playing rugby yet watching it has never interested me.
I knew about Anna even at that age, but also knew to keep her well hidden and didn't tell anyone about her.
Like a certain movie, all of the above. I was a shy boy; no luck with girls. I liked sports but was a terrible athlete. At summer camp baseball games, I was the 'designated out. I was elected student council president for my senior year of high school. I was in the BoyScouts, had a newspaper route. I was smart but lazy. Like another movie character, I was a 'righteous dude'.
Shy. I had people I sat with in High School. the misfits. Bullied to the point of quitting School. It was in high school that I realized Alcohol would ease the pain in the world. I am about 20 years Sober now. I would not suggest that path.
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Bree
I say other I hated school was no good at that either lol if it wasn’t for a joint vacation school my jr sr year I probably never graduated
I was mostly a shy little flower in school, but later on in life, after starting the art of cross-dressing, I bloomed into a beautiful woman and that made me... REVEL! Haha. The Ugly Duckling is my favorite fairy tale. 🦢
Rev 🤍
I think I voted for shy. But on reflection, I don’t think that was the best description, for I did occasionally put myself forward, perhaps for affirmation, perhaps just in youthful learning. Asked for nominations for swimming captain, I nominated myself. Seemed sensible at that moment until the teacher explained how such things work. But, I did become swimming captain and I was always fastest swimmer in my year, the one to beat. I was not confident to be sure and that made me hold back until I thought WTH and gave myself a profile. As for bullying, yes, because of my “RAF” haircut (they will pick on anything won’t they🥱) they did try to corner me. What they didn’t know was that I was an archery champion and my biceps were quite strong as a result. Hounded by 4 or 5, I picked the closest one and unleashed something on him that neither he nor I will probably ever forget. I never got bullied again though.
If you’ve read my mermaid article, you will know I was already hooked by things feminine at that point, though quite in secret for reasons given in that article.
But, by innate persistence, my persona did shine through at school. So much so perhaps that I met my now wife there, and we remain to this day a typical married couple. CD sharing is, I admit, putting a strain on that, but I believe we will win through - there are other factors just as important as silk and satin imho.
Good Q, thank you 💚
@valentina16 Lets hope there are other factors WAY more important than your feminine finery in your relationship VV😊. If I thought Grace was any kind of serious danger to my marriage she would melt like the Wicked Witch and become a memory.
That said, it’s also a strong argument FOR coming clean with your partner about it as well. If it’s a little silk and lace that will make for positive, happy experiences for one or BOTH of you….how is that a bad thing?
@gracepal Absolutely. And excuse me for being a little self-serving, but that is the main reason for me being here, all the Qs, interacting, sharing my stories, just to see to what extent my pleasure is undeniable. Faced with the risk you describe, I too am taking this very very seriously. I owe it to her. She has effectively been at my side throughout all our lives (I first knew her when I was 10). She has both saved my life and given me life, my 3 wonderful children being obvious examples. Defended, supported, counselled, shared all moments (tragic and elation alike). She has been there, caring. Always.
Sorry if this sounds a bit tmi GP, but to reach the right answer, you need to fully understand the question. You, my cd friend, are helping. Bigly. As I am wont to say. TY. 💚
@valentina16 Not everyone has the capacity for self reflection that some do. I have it and recognize it in you too VV. That’s one of my reasons for being here as well, reading about all sorts of variations on the topic. I feel pretty fortunate as I consider myself fairly maxed out in my crossdressingness. I enjoy it on my terms and I control it myself. I don’t “need” to do it. I just want to and that’s a good enough reason. And sometimes I don’t want to. Doesn’t mean I’m giving it up.
I’m vastly entertained by the stories and photos here on CDH and it really is a good filler for many of my girly thoughts. I’ve always known there were many others such as myself…(but not TOO many thankfully.) It’s nice to have them all corralled into one place where I can visit them. And then grab the car keys and take off when I’ve had enough. Don’t want to overdo ya know…
it looked like most of us were shy and bullied. that was in the past. times have changed and we are not in school anymore. it's time to show everyone we are here to stay and show the younger generation they are not alone. we can't let others think they can push us around anymore. we are still people no matter how we dress. let's set a date for February 14. (Valetine's day) the day we all go out dressed. if you never been out dressed before. let's make this your first step out into the real world. if everyone goes out on this day maybe we will see others like us. i know i'll be out anyway. it's my pool night.
I was chubby and unathletic as a child. My two older sisters were great students, so tried to do the same. These were the girls who played dress up with me when I was five. They loved me, but they dominated me.
By high school I was long and leggy. And I discovered theatre. There I met attractive gay men and knew for sure I was bi before graduation.
College costume shops were a gold mine of feminine attire. I would play dress up for hours.
Now I have a gold mine of my own!
I was the shy and very effeminate artsy kid from day one. I knew I was different but there weren't ways to explain that you always knew you were supposed to be a girl. All my friends were girls, and I pretty sure they had me figured out! I now know that I am, and was born as, an intersex female. Being bullied was a very common occurrence. I was one of the kids always picked last for any sports, I was told I ran like a girl, threw a ball like a girl, walked like a girl, and even stood and sat like a girl. It all makes perfect sense now...
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Ms. Lauren M
@reallylauren Thank you for posting Lauren I also sent conflicting gender messages as a child. I was tormented physically and verbally by my classmates. I knew I was different at a very early age and wanted so much to be a girl. I started crossdressing in my mother's clothes at the age of nine. My name is Barbra, and I am a Transgender Woman.
Total band and music geek. Were it not for school band and choir I don't think I even would have finished high school. Had no other academic or social skills so it's a good thing those organizations existed, and I ended up making a living as a musician/music teacher.
I was the shy kid for most of my time in school. Didn’t have many friends. I don’t miss those days at all
I guess growing up I was little bit of everything. I played baseball, music nerd in high school and heavy metal headbanger. Still play guitar too.
This needs to be a checkbox to allow multiple selections. I was a nerd jock in high school.
MacKenzie Alexandra
Extremely shy my first 2 years in high school but my confidence really started growing when I started wearing lingerie to bed. I've always thought that if I were a girl I would have always been a social butterfly.
