Who are we?

I am bisexual and bigender. I am comfortable as a man or as a woman

Straight male who only loves one piece swimsuits. Although I use breast forms with them, I have no interest in surgery. And I am still only attracted to natural born ladies.

I love women and all things feminine, but have never wanted to be one, just to dress like and be with as many as possible.

Slight rephrase required... I am happily married and take my vows seriously - I keep myself to my wife, but friends are a different matter entirely.

I'm pretty sure it's a gender dysphoria thing, as I'm repelled by men and most male things, body hair, football, boxer shorts (never worn them!) - took me a long time to adjust to the taste of beer. Still not keen.

I suppose I'm a very girly kind of man, because there's no questioning my biological gender - but I've never been effeminate.

One happy, happy memory that comes to me is the time I was in a school operatic performance at a local theatre. I arrived late, and my singing teacher collared me on the way in, reprimanded me, and said that the boys were right down the corridor, the girls changing area was nearer, so I would have to go in there.

She practically dragged me, but I couldn't believe my luck!

It was a sizeable room - there were a great deal more girls interested in singing than boys, and I found myself surrounded by girls who wanted to talk to me as I changed - and as they changed!

Obviously no-one went further than underwear - but being in a room full of girls, probably 30-40 - and stripping down to my own underwear was delicious!

Even though I was 15, it wasn't a physically arousing experience, it just felt right. Beautifully right.

And, of course, after the performance, my clothes were still in the girls changing area, so I had to go through it all over again.

This time I was surrounded by some of the older girls, and let's keep it clean, but they did look amazing in their underwear!

I wished I could wear the same underwear and pretty dresses - and yes, for a few moments, wished I could fill a bra like that too!

I could probably be happy with breasts, but I'm happy without them, so no biggie!

Love Laura

I am in a straight loving relationship and am strictly monogamous by nature but now find beauty and attraction to those of any particular associated gender.

I am a straight male crossdresser. While mostly interested in the clothes, I'm just as comfortable presenting fully as a woman. I am in a monogamous relationship, but my SO hasn't been interested in many years so I'm not active. The relationship is hanging by a thread which is about to be cut. I have no plans to start another relationship at this time.

I chose “I am a straight male crossdresser” and “I am not sexually active” and “I am not interested in a sex change.”

I echo the 1st, 3rd, and 4th paragraphs of Laura Lovett’s reply. But I have no SO, understanding or otherwise, to contend with. And I certainly never had a memorable childhood experience as she describes!

That said, I support 100% Tiff’s “change of wrappers,” and I hope she keeps everyone at CDH fully informed of her step by step transformation.

I only chose "I am curious about a sex change".   As I have aged, I have become less interested in sex with women to the point of becoming sexless.  When I am out and about in my vanilla male-drab world, I frequently look at women and think "Would I love to be her" or "Wish I had breasts or curves like her" or "She looks fabulous dressed in....".  Yet, in this same vanilla world, I am not checking out men in a homosexual way as I don't identify as someone interested in male-on-male relations.  But as Anne, I find myself attracted to a good looking man and have enjoyed sex with a couple other CD's (I viewed them as men dressed in women's clothing, nothing else).  This goes back to other labeling discussions on other threads.  As Anne, am I really acting out in a heterosexual way...identifying as a woman and only interested in men as Anne?

I'm not only curious about a sex change but I am convinced I would already proceed in that direction if not for my fear of being ostracized by those close to me in my circle of family and ultimately losing contact with my grandchildren whom I love so dearly.  It's a daily struggle.  I give Tiffany Alexis a mountain of credit for moving ahead in her life journey...to accept herself and take steps to become the person/the woman she truly identifies with.

I consider myself gender-fluid, comfortable as a man but have about 20% female feelings. Am in a very good marriage with a woman that understands my dressing & haven'y been with a man but as a female I do find some attractive & maybe.....

I'm bisexual and consider myself a lesbian when I'm with my wife, which really turns me on. I would love to have a sex change and look like the person I am, but can't due to health issues, my heart couldn't take it.

Answered as a heterosexual crossdresser but there is a lot of gray area for me depending on the day, mood, state of dress. For surgery if I could get away with breast implants I’d consider it, nothing overtly large but something for additional shape and volume. In probably have some latent gender dysphasia that needs addressing.

I don't know where 'we' fit in the community Jennifer?  I don't even know where I fit 'within' the community?

If there is a lable for those who take pleasure in looking and feeling sexy without the hang ups, guilt or unhealthy fantasies I would like to be in that one please 🙂

Sally x

As a bi cross dresser I've always had an eye for a beautiful woman and an handsome man, I've also been wondering what it would be like to actually have a woman's body and be seen as a woman, I'm a married man and my wife has no idea I'm a cross-dresser or that I'm bi, when I'm out and about i always eye up the women not in a sexual way but to look at what they are wearing, some women look fabulous in the dresses they wear and I'm not just talking about the younger ones some older women can look sexier than the younger ones, i suppose if things were different when i was a lot younger I might have gone down a different route and plumped for a full sex change xxxxx

I completely agree with you Sally. I would like to add that I feel special and very much at home when I login at CDH. It's a felling like " I get it".

Gay crossdresser.  Boom.

But one of only two?

Uummmmm....i know that stat is highly highly dubious, but, everyone is free to vote as they wish, of course! 🙂

Honestly, the volume of "straight crossdressing" that occurs is something i learned from this group and it just astonishes me.

I had no idea before joining this group...then again, yeah, I think the numbers here are a bit dubious nevertheless.  It's way more gray (or gay) than the lopsided totals thus far.

xoxoxo

Jenny