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This might seem like a simple and obvious question, but what if it isn't?
Who, in your opinion, is the expert on crossdressing: the person doing the crossdressing, or can someone who has never done what we do be even more of an expert?
I need some opinions besides my own, so thanks for voting!
@buildoe Clearly those involved are going to be experts on their own crossdressing, but possibly without much exposure, not have much experience outside of that.
On the flip side, I'd certainly consider a therapist or psychologist who had spent years working in the field as an expert.
I'm not sure why there needs to be an "either/or" angle to this.
the crossdresser that can pull it off is the expert. one that you can look at but can't tell if it's a real woman or a crossdresser. i guess i haven't gotten to that level and probably never will, but i do my best. so you'll have to live with that.
my 2 cents don’t mean much and don’t take it personally but I feel no one is an expert there’s always something new to learn everyday this world changes and so dose everyone else there will always be something new to learn this world be learning new things since the 1st century but again I’m just a closet dresser hiding away under the covers TC
Maybe the so-called expert would know more about the psychology of crossdressing, but not so much about crossdressing itself. Only someone who indulges can really understand.
Lacy
Hi,
I can't answer this poll. I think it's too generally stated for a simple binary response.
If you asked me who's the expert to make me up, I'd pick a cross dresser, on the balance of probabilities, over a counsellor. Unless that cross dresser was me 😉
If I needed to explore coping strategies then it's not quite so clear. There's some (but not all) very savvy cross dressers out there. But advice such as that is the bread and butter of counsellors' work.
If I needed advice on what I could or couldn't legally do, I might ask a knowledgeable cross dresser first. But my final point of call would be a lawyer.
emma x
EXPERT!
An "ex" is a has been and a "spert" is a "drip" under pressure.
In case it does not translate, drip used to be Oz slang for a "not so bright" person.
Just trying to add bit of levity to your day.
I'm old enough to know all I need to know about CD'ing.. Tho early days, yes, I did see a counsellor who fitted to above description very well.
Caty.
I don't think there is one answer, because crossdressing isn't a singular activity.
Another crossdresser might be able to tell you how to cover facial hair or where to get such products. They may tell you where they bought large size shoes, or gaff styles, where to buy a corset, or about advantages and disadvantages of different breast forms.
A non-crossdresser may be able to teach you how to do smoky eyes or use eyeliner to make cat eyes, or perhaps contouring. They may know what styles work or don't work with your body type. They might have experience in what is appropriate for different situations.
I think the answer is "someone you can trust," and not "are they or are they not a crossdresser."
Interesting poll and replies.
I can't select either one of the choices as I think both apply. I know what I like to see women in and what I think looks good on me. My wife helps me with my make up, selecting outfits, shopping and other things related to my dressing. My therapist helps me to understand my dressing. Outside of the ladies here no one else is aware of my dressing. I do watch You Tube videos for tips on make up and other things related to CD'ing.
Personally I'm not worried about being an expert, all I know is I enjoy getting dressed with make up, a pretty outfit, stylish jewelry, a nicely coiffed wig and shoes to match the outfit.
XOXO
Suzanne
Define " expert"
While a pwrson can be an expert in any field and not necessarily be part of that field...an hosorian comes to mind.
Thay said, only crossdressers have the experience of crissdressing and therefore have a different perspecrive and understanding that non dressers.
I don't think there is just one answer either. If someone has a supportive Wife/SO, they maybe the best options. A GG will give you real life perspective and if they are a good true friend, will tell you the honest truth
There is no right answer because there are too many variables and what looks good on one lady may not necessarily look good on another lady.
Maybe I'm an expert at knowing myself. I'm just sure of that. Well, almost sure. Although others add a few things to my knowledge. The women in my life tell me that I've always had good taste in dresses that look good on them, to the point that they often ask me if something looks nice on them.
I choose what I wear and take into consideration the opinion that the mirror gives me, even though it is an altered image of those who will look at us.
Gisela
That's a complex question if you go deep. If it is about the crossdressing aspect and not the psychology as to why then to me both parts apply.
A non crossdresser could be defined as a makeover artist who is not a crossdresser but can make whoever come through the door into a lovely female image. It could also apply to another person with knowledge and life experience who can offer valid advice to improve your dressing such as a friend who has a good eye and can also help create a nice image.
The crossdressers themselves who have achieved what they consider to be their perfect image could have suitable experience and knowledge that is value to others could also be considered an expert.
Usually experts are those with qualifications and letters after their names but someone without such qualifications but have good experience and knowledge are often sought out.
I definitely take all my clues and advice from all the ladies who crossdress or have transitioned.
I trust myself but I'm fortunate to be married to a wonderful woman who used to be a dancer. She is my second opinion when I'm not quite sure that I'm dressed appropriately. I don't always follow her advice but I do listen. She has a great grasp of colors and styles. Marg