[Solved] Whose Judgment Do You Trust?

Who are the real experts on crossdressing? 
It seems some think others, but dressing, make-up, and presenting are just part of it. To understand the cross dresser one must understand the psyche of the person as well. Not all of us are alike. While others have a wife help them with makeup, many learn on their own. Some of us even teach our wives a few tricks of the trade. But how many have sat down and discussed the topic with your partner or anyone to their satisfaction? Do they know what is going on inside and why? Only if you let them in and tell them, even then what is still hidden away.
Maybe I am too scientific on this subject and taking the wrong direction.