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Hi Girls, i thought i might owe you all an explanation as to why i have not been as active on CDH as normal. I am sure i posted a similar thing earlier on, but things have happened since. My wife has been seriously ill this year, culminating in Three hospital stays with Three different reasons.
In February, my wife was rushed to hospital with serious breathing problems, eventually diagnosed as pneumonia, the recovery was long.
In August, she was Taken to hospital, having suffered a Stroke, which has affected her short term memory and mobility.
In October, she suffered a heart Attack which has left her very tired and needing lots of care, she has had stents fitted but more work needs to be done on her heart.
As you can imagine, it is all very stressful and worrying, i am torn between trying to be 'me' and looking after my wife, in fact sometimes i feel guilty for wanting to be 'me' knowing how much she has gone through. To make matters even worse, i have no-one i can relate to, or go and see as i have very few friends outside of here, not because i am difficult to get along with, but simply because i cant really converse with them because of my feminity. I would so like to meet someone Femme, just to talk and enjoy their company and help me get through all this.
So... that is how it all stands at the moment. Today is a special day, it is my wife's birthday, i honestly thought that she would not be seeing it, owing to the seriousness of her conditions but she is battling on.
I want to thank you all, for answering my posts and polls, its great to have you all here and talk with and its true to say that you all have been a lifeline for me, keeping me going and giving me something to do as a distraction and keeping my mind off things here.
Love you all!! Fiona-Ann xxx
Stay strong and hope times for you both improve. x
Good morning Fiona,
I know how hard it is being a Care giver. My wife took care of her mom in our home when she had cancer and we took care of my parents when they stayed with us awaiting a liver transplant.
But don't be too sad as you have a lots of friends here and I am one of them.
Any time you would like to talk you pm me and I would be delighted to chat if I am available.
I can give you my email if you wish also
I work Tuesday through Friday.
I don't have many friends who share my interest in crossdressing and I enjoy so much talking about these things or just anything.
You hand in there sweety we are here for you
Patty
Thanks Patty, i try to keep a brave face but it is so hard trying to move on sometimes. That is what i like about CDH, not only is it a crossdresser site but its also a social site as well. Thankyou so much for your kind words and support 🙂 . I really do appreciate it and am so grateful i have friends like yourself here 🙂
Hugs and kisses, Fiona xxx
Hi Fiona I know its not like having a friend there but these are not empty words just give me a shout if you need someone.
Patty
Hi Fiona,
Your wife and yourself have certainly had a very difficult year - I hope things are heading in a more positive direction for you both.
It does help to have friends of which you have many here, but I can certainly understand how difficult it can be to talk openly with people away from this type of forum. I'm lucky enough to have a few good friends but none of them know about Isabel. As you say, this site is a huge support.
All the very best, Fiona - I'm here whenever you need an ear to bend!
Hugs,
Isabel x
Fiona;
I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but it sounds like a tough time for you and your dear wife. My best wishes for both of you.
Being nowhere close to you, as I'm on another continent, I can't offer to be there for you, but I can say that I do appreciate your polls, thoughts and comments on CDH. Perhaps if ever you find yourself in need of conversation in the deep dark hours of the night, you might think of talking with some of us who are 6 hours behind and not being disturbed in the middle of the night. While CDH does not encourage or support distribution of video/audio contact details, this would be the exact sort of scenario where it does make sense.
I hope your wife makes a speedy and full recovery.
-Molly
Dear Fiona, my heart and my thoughts are with you and your wife. Remember to take care of yourself in this time. Caregiver burnout is very real, by the time my mom passed away last winter I was mentally and physically exhausted. So take care of you too, your wife needs you healthy and strong.
Love Heather.
Fiona,
My prayers go out for your wife and especially for you. Being a caretaker of a loved one is a blessing and an honor but emotionally draining as well. I know I took care of my Mom during the last years of her life. She is a very blessed woman to have you in her life. Remember during these times to take care of yourself also.
Hugs,
Carla
I can relate to a certain point. Earlier this year my wife had a blood clot go from her leg to her lung. I ended up putting my plans to start actually dressing all the way to be there for her. Hopefully your wife will get what she needs done and she gets better.
Hugs, Ruby
Hi Fiona,
My prayers go out for you and your wife. You both have had a stressful and traumatic year. Wish I was closer to have some girlfriend talk. It’s great that you’re keeping a positive attitude under the duress.
Hugs,
Alice
Fiona every sympathy with your very difficult year. My SO has COPD and reflux caused by a hiatus hernia so every time she gets a severe infection in her chest the anxiety levels shoot up but fortunately each time it has so far been brought under with anti biotics and steroids so have not had to endure what you have had to this year.
All you can do is to try to be strong to support your wife through recovery.
Rachel
Fiona,
I will keep you and your wife in our prayers. I hope she has a fast recovery.
Angela
Happy birthday to your wife! I will say prayers for her recovery, enjoy her special day.
S0 sorry to hear this, Fiona. Your wife is lucky to have you, and we are lucky you give so much of yourself here.
Lori Stark 💋
