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[Solved] A Big Step

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(@Anonymous 95926)
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Hey all, 

In our therapy session, I brought up the subject of posting my pictures on CDH to my wife. Since I came out to her, she hasn’t given me the green signal (not that in need her permission, but wishes need to respected). 

I told her that I need to be part of a community and wanted to share my pictures will like minded people. She told me that she was afraid that I would be posting on sleazy website. I reassured her that CDH is safe place. 

Today, she saw my position and agreed that she was fine with me posting my pictures. even though I have posted a few, I have always felt guilty, but not anymore. 

This is a huge step for both of us. Will be sharing my pictures with all you on a regular basis from now on! 

Saleena

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Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
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@saleena79 

I'm looking forward to seeing more Saleena.  You're gorgeous!  That's obvious!

I love hearing stories like yours.  Small steps but huge nonetheless.  Building bridges.  So happy for you Hon!

/EA

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@emilyalt thank you so much. It’s a learning process. The therapist walked us through the mirror process today. Rather than agreeing or disagreeing, she told us to mirror what each other was saying. It made it easier to talk and understand each others needs.

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Noble Member     Staffordshire, United Kingdom
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@saleena79 

This is lovely Saleena.

So pleased for you that your wife is slowly coming on board. And the bonus for us is that we’ll get to see even more of your beautiful photos. 

 

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@lucyb112 thank you Lucy! Very excited to share my pics, feelings and thoughts without any guilt.

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(@alexina)
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Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
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@saleena79

Hi, Saleena, thanks for sharing this, I've yet to tell my wife that I have pics here, I'm not sure how she'd react and I don't want to spoil a good thing.

I agree with the other comments, you look great in your pics, I can only aspire to getting anywhere near that 🙄.

If I may make a suggestion, I post mine in the private section, that way only members can see them. That might help your wife to accept them better. 

Hoping all goes well with your therapy.

Allie x

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Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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Saleena, I think if your wife is at least partially on board, she needs to understand how safe and non-judgemental CDH is. Is she prepared to have a look around? Maybe even join the forum for SOs?

The pictures question is a difficult one. Private photos are safest. As with everything online, public photos are out there for everyone to see. I'm probably the most closetted girl here but I'd held my secret inside far too long and just thought sod it, I need the affirmation of fellow CDs. Of course you have the advantage that your pics are gorgeous 😉.

Hugs, Chrissie xx. 

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@chrisfp99 thank you so much. We are taking it slowly. In due time, she said she might see my pictures but for now she trusts that won’t be posting my picture is anywhere else and trusts me to make the right judgement. 

And, thank you for the wonderful compliments!

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(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
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You did it the right way Saleena as keeping your wife happy will keep you happy I am sure.

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@ab123 yes! It’s a slow process of reassuring her of my commitment to her regardless of my gender fluidity.

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(@leah63)
Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
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Saleena, Great that your wife is on board and being supportive...and hopefully continues with this.  We try to not put so much dependence on our So . GF or wife in regards to our dressing...but I know for me...it is HUGE to help me reduce my guilt and shame and for me to work on acceptance of my feminine side.

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@leah63 thank you! I was honest in my feedback. I told her that it’s suffocating not being able to express this side of me. She understood and was empathetic. 

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 Leah
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Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
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@saleena79   good for you to be open and honest with her.  That is a good perspective..."suffocating  to not be able to express this side of me"  Keep up the open communications.  You might be surprised how things do change when you have the support, understanding and encouragement to dress.

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