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A question for the occasional and/or closetted girls here. Would you go full time if the opportunity arose?

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(@chrisfp99)
Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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Hi Ladies. So if your SO suddenly gave you the green light, or you found yourself unexpectedly on your own, would you dress full time? This question has been on my mind quite a bit recently. I mean I'm a man. No dysphoria. I'm one of the lucky ones. But I have this quite ridiculous urge to wear women's things and make myself pretty. I would so love some sort of explanation for this as it's a complete mystery to me but there we go. I'm not alone.

Many of you will know I'm actually less than an occasional dresser at the moment 😢. I've been married 37+ years. It's been a good union and we have two wonderful daughters. But it hasn't been plain sailing. We are total opposites and this is causing some challenges, more so as we age. I would never rock the boat by leaving her, but it's not beyond the bounds of possibility that we may one day find ourselves no longer together.

Perhaps in trepidation I find myself consoling myself that if this momentous event were to occur at least I would be able to get far more in touch with my girly side, rather like some of our devastated members who have lost their SOs. I've always thought that if I found myself on my own my dressing would still be an occasional thing. Maybe once every week or two I would slip into a nice dress and heels. Nice hair. Try to figure out the complete mystery of makeup. But the more I think about this the more I wonder whether my feminine side would assert itself more powerfully. I mean there I'd be lazing in bed (I'm very happily retired) and I might spot a discarded bra lying in the corner of the room. So easy to pop that on and a pair of tights and panties. Then I see my favourite dress on a hanger. OK, just slip that on, and a sensible pair of girly shoes. Look in the mirror. Oh, I need some hair. Then from my dressing table pop on some lippy and eye shadow. Some nice earrings and a necklace and suddenly I'm Chrissie, all in the space of a few minutes. Once in a while I'd go full glam. Shorter dress, higher heels, stockings and belt, nails, and give the makeup the full treatment. I've concluded it would definitely happen. I'd be pretty much full time. And that sounds very exciting.

I'd love to hear the views of you lovely ladies. What do you think girls? 

Hugs, Chrissie xx. 

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Duchess
(@alison-anderson)
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Noble Member     Middlesex county, New Jersey, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 It's hard to say for me. I'm divorced, I live with 2 of my children, and am in various stages of dress in front of them all the time. Anywhere from just wearing a skirt in the morning to full en femme with minimal makeup (beard cover only) to go out for a walk to full glam makeup. I'm not retired yet, but it is coming very soon. But most of my clothing is from the women's department anyway.

I do have to appear as male every night online for religious services (or at least my top half;  sometimes I have on a skirt below the camera (instead of the pajamas meme). And several times a week I am appearing in person, again as a male.

I often run into people I know when shopping, so I probably wouldn't go shopping en femme, at least not usually. Nor do I want to tell my siblings who live within a half an hour from me.

I'm not quite sure how I am going to spend my time once retired, but I'm sure I will be spending more of it en femme when at home, even if it is just wearing a skirt and top or a dress. I would like to find a gym where I can continue some of the exercise classes I am doing at the gym at work, and I'm not likely to do that en femme. So I am not going to go full time, but I'm sure my time will increase.

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(@gina5)
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Reputable Member     Washington, United States of America
Posts: 118

@chrisfp99 I doubt it. I’m a guy that likes to explore my feminine side. It’s a lot of fun, and it teaches me a lot about a woman’s perspective.  I don’t think I could just change full time, but I’m sure there’s many girls that feel that need. If that’s what makes you feel good, then go for it if the opportunity arises.

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Lady
(@kate24)
Joined: 9 years ago

Eminent Member     Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 16

@gina5  I agree.   For me its a hobby and a way to relieve stress.

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
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Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@gina5 

Gina 

Very very nicely said Gina,   

 I very much believe that also Gina ( It’s a lot of fun, and it teaches me a lot about a woman’s perspective.) 

To understand Woman better and how there see & feel about things , understand womanhood better .. A woman life and thinking better  !!!

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Lady
(@sunnyday)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Oxford, Oxfordshire, United Kingdom
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@chrisfp99 - no. I'd dress more often though. Not even women dress like women all the time. There are guy clothes I like, and there are times when my guy clothes are just right. And there are times when I just want to femme-up by myself or be with other CDs. I'd be with other CDs more - whether I was en-femme, or en-guy.

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(@gracepal)
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@sunnyday Not even women dress like women most of the time IMHO☺️

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(@sunnyday)
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@gracepal - indeed.

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(@yestothedress)
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@gracepal I love that quote and totally agree!

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(@liza4you)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     MICHIGAN CITY, Indiana, United States of America
Posts: 73

@gracepal I have more cloths and makeup than my wife, she is about as fem as a boxer (thank god she doesn't look like a boxer) but she does have the mouth of a sailor lol I would dress more often also but its too much work to do it all the time and I have advantages to dress like a man and like follow my moods.

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(@nikkik)
Joined: 8 years ago

Active Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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@gracepal Agree. My wife wears trousers and shirt to work. Just about female looking, most of the time. But not what might be seen as "Feminine".

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(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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@chrisfp99 No, I don't think I would go full time. I get a lot of Anna time which I am happy with, but the reality is I have to mostly present en-homme.

I have 1-2 "Full Anna" days a week, with full makeup, wig, jewellery, etc This takes about 2 hours to get ready and involves the odd trip out, I have a couple of very trusted friends who know me as Anna.

I am always smooth (I don't shave my arms, but legs, chest, underarms always are shaved)

Some evenings I will get changed after work, which will involve dress, tights, small amount of makeup.

I wear knickers the whole time, use feminine shower gel and deodorant every day so Anna is always there

If I'm not working I do wear nail polish, never at work. The nature of my job is that anything openly and visibly femme is way to risky.

Hugs,

Anna xx

 

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(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2178

@chrisfp99 

The desire to crossdress is inversely proportional to the opportunity to do so. Discuss.

But seriously (Yeah, right!😂😂😂), and without wishing to appear smug, I do have the opportunity to dress pretty much when I want to.

However, I've never been one for half measures, if I'm going to put a dress on, then I'll want nice lingerie too, and at least a little foundation and mascara. So, occasionally I'll think about it and decide that yes, it would be nice but do I want to spend half an hour undressing, tidying and taking off what makeup I've used, or not bother and spend one minute and  thirty two seconds before falling into bed. It all depends how lazy I feel.

Of course, I truly wish that all of us had the same freedom that I and other lucky girls have.

Good topic, Chrissie, thanks 😊.

Allie x

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Lady
(@emily2626)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Posts: 38

@chrisfp99 Hey Chrissie!  I don't think I would go full time, but I would definitely dress more often.  To me, it is an escape that I just enjoy so much.  I don't want to lose that escape.  I will however continue to evolve.  I am beginning full body (not face) laser hair removal tomorrow and I am very excited about that...I hate shaving!

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 1199

@chrisfp99 Every time I am dressed, I hate to go back to drab mode.   As time has gone on, I have been dressing more and more and have come to the realization in recent years that I am probably trans.   The more this feeling grows, the more I desire to be full time.  I have never been strongly connected to masculinity so this is coming easy to me.

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(@cdashley)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1488

@chrisfp99 This is such an interesting question and I’ve actually asked myself it a few times. If I was alone , would I dress more often? If society was different would I dress as a woman full time? Do I enjoy dressing in a feminine way? Yes I do. Do I want to become a woman and live as one full time?  I don’t think so as I’m not alone and married and at the end of the day i do have a commitment to be “ the man” she married. If I for some reason become alone would that change my decision? I can’t really answer that now. Now I’ve thought about this scenario many times, Do I want to be a “woman” full time or do I just love dressing as one almost all the time. If I was asked this years ago I’d have a quick answer of no I don’t . But since I’ve come out to my wife and others and have to ability to dress in front of my wife I do definitely dress more often ( basically anytime kids aren’t home. My crossdressing has gone full stream ahead since with all the bells and whistles , I dress very frequently and find I get a touch grumpy if I don’t. I do go out in public fully dressed, half dressed ( basically just no wig or breastforms) I’m at the panties and a bralette daily, I do what my wife calls my morning fix which consists of pantyhose , jean mini, sometimes a woman’s top for my morning coffee, which I do have to be careful as kids are home for this. I have my Jammie pants close by if they were to get up as early as I do. I like keeping my toenails painted all the time. As I drive home from work I think if I’ll be able to dress femme after my shower.  I do truly feel more comfortable in women's clothes , it feels 100% like I’m supposed to be wearing these items . What all started with trying on my sisters pantyhose at a very young age has now become a married man who loves being dressed femme. With being one of the lucky ones with an understanding, accepting , very encouraging at times and supportive wife who at first seemed more like tolerating it rather then accepting it has made things much better for my crossdressing. But at the end of the day I still have to respect the fact that I am her husband and need to have him around for her as well. 
So to make a long story short I would at best , dress all the time other than to my work place if I was suddenly alone and do love my feminine side very much. Thanks for the great question as it really made me think. 

Ashley. 

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(@michellemybell)
Joined: 3 years ago

Noble Member     Clearwater, Florida, United States of America
Posts: 614

@chrisfp99 This is a question I have asked myself a lot.  My wife is in poor health and so I face the possibility of being alone at some time.  We have been together for almost 60 years and It's hard to image life without her.  However, she is not very supportive of my feminine side and since I am her caregiver opportunities to indulge are too infrequent for me.  So I often wonder if I was on my own how much would I dress? 

I feel much more comfortable and relaxed in feminine clothes and so I think I would wear women's clothing when I am home most ,if not all, of the time. I am a lazy crossdresser though so probably wouldn't bother with wig and makeup that often.   I live in a condo  and I don't want to come out to family and friends so dressing outside the condo is a bit more challenging. I would want to do that at least a couple of times a month and meet up with some of my CD friends in full Michelle mode.  

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(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 

 Although I have the alone time. I still run the two sides of fem and drab. I'm not out to the all but one who know me in my family and friends world. 

 I  do think about a lot. Most everyday as a matter of fact. 

 It's just one aspect of our complex world feminine world we find ourselves in. The one we can't quite explain to ourselves let alone others. 

Oh the things we girls must endure!

 Fran 🥰 

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(@carlafirst11)
Joined: 2 years ago

Honorable Member     So. California , California, United States of America
Posts: 284

@chrisfp99 

Hello Chrissie,

This is definitely a very interesting topic. Let me start by saying that I am a part time crossdresser, married and hoping that we will get to an old age together.

Although I enjoy very much getting out in public while crossdressing, I really thing that I would not dress everyday if  I were alone, this is something that I enjoy on the side and can go months without having to do it.

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(@sophie85)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     New Jersey, United States of America
Posts: 162

@chrisfp99 I would not go full time but would absolutely dress more often.  I have no desire to completely abandon my male identity and life.  Also, my career and hobbies would never allow me to do this.  I would spend more time outside of these areas of my life dressed and work on Sophie's look and personality.  This would include more evening and weekend time as Sophie.

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(@kimdl94)
Joined: 9 months ago

Reputable Member     Blearmill, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 174

@chrisfp99 I would hope that the two eventualities might not be dependent upon each other.   Wouldn’t it be great if you and your polar opposite SO could find consensus on your desire to express your feminine side?   I know that sounds almost like a fantasy, but some couples do make it work and are better for it!

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(@river)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Posts: 827

@chrisfp99 I can't say When I was only dressing very occasionally I would have said yes to this but now As I have the OK from my SO and have spent alot more time with river lately It now seems after a full day or 2 Im actually ready to just be a guy again, which lasts a week or 2. possibly though its due to all the work involved in turning me into what Im happy with as River. If  looking female was as easy for me as it is for my wife then I would probably prefer that over drab .  I do wish I had real breasts , but if I did would I get sick of that also.  I know Im often bored which is why Ive always had so many extracurricular activities and dressing throws that boredom out the window . but if River took over 100% would I eventually get bored with that?  I just don't know.  but I guess its the same as anything I cant knock it until Ive tried it.  Have a great day RC

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(@danirost)
Joined: 3 years ago

Estimable Member     Central, Illinois, United States of America
Posts: 177

@chrisfp99 This has changed for me a lot. The old saw, "If I had it to do over..." I think I would consider transition. Or at the very least dress a lot more and more completely. Work on the the "things" walk, talk, deportment, all of it. I have what I call mild dysphoria. 

But life has not dealt me that hand. I will be closeted probably the rest of my life. My SO and I have the DADT mentality. 

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(@jackiebois)
Joined: 4 months ago

Active Member     Oakdale, California, United States of America
Posts: 8

@chrisfp99 Great question. Chrissie. In a way, I do already. My everyday tennis shoes are pink and orange and the mechanic at the tire shop told me he liked them.

All my jeans are women's. A few have back-pocket embroidery. And I do like 'em tight.

Most of my t-shirts have a V-neck or scoop, which accents the chain I wear. Sometimes the message is suggestive like a pink vintage trailer on blue with the words "back that thing up." Of course, women's t-shirts have tighter and shorter sleeves. So that's a give-away.

Of course, underneath there's always lingerie. Sometimes it matches. Other times pink cotton panties and a sports bra will do me, especially when the fitted pads show a little.

If you saw me, would you perhaps notice, or do I have to catch your eye as I adjust my bra strap?

Would you say hello?

One of the new girls,
Jackie

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(@stephanieann)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Posts: 458

@jackiebois 

Lov the Story Jackie,   you do  lov to dress up Gurl.!!!

Your suggestive message is nice addition to your outfit ,lov that idea.. 

A little give away is nice ,  add to Jackie's   style .

Lov the idea to catch the eye ,  I adjust my bra strap?  Nice trick  Honey . 

Very well planed Jackie !!!!!

Huggs

Stephanie👠👠

 

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(@brittney2016)
Joined: 6 years ago

Prominent Member     Cincinnati, Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 907

@chrisfp99; I have fully accepted my femme side since February 2016 and I feel more comfortable wearing womens clothes.

However, my domestic life is preventing open dressing.

If I was alone, I would go full time dressing as a woman without transitioning; except at work, due to the industrial environment and that I have to wear a work uniform.

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(@carloscloset)
Joined: 3 months ago

Estimable Member     Colorado, United States of America
Posts: 110

@chrisfp99 Hello Chrissie,

 I have thought about this many times.  If I were to find myself in a situation where I'm no longer married I don't think that I would start to dress full time, but I know I would be more open about it with select (existing) friends and family, and I would be more open about it with new friends.  I also think I would have female clothing out in the open and look for opportunities to meet with other cross dressers and trans women.

 

In my case, I don't feel like a woman trapped n a male body.  I am a man who enjoys wearing feminine clothing.  

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(@lizk)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
Posts: 3847

@chrisfp99 

Y'all know I'm trans and have been living authentically for several years.  That wasn't the case for most of my life.  Social conditioning ruled my life for decades.  My needs always took a back seat to social expectations.  Consequently, there were never enough times to crossdress....to be myself.

Had I been presented with an opportunity to dress more often, I would've taken it without hesitation.  Crossdressing was the only outlet I had for the dysphoria I'd felt.  Had I been given that opportunity to explore who I am, the dots would've connected much sooner.  I probably would've started my transition ten years sooner, or more.

I don't want to imply that every crossdresser is a baby trans waiting to come out.  That said, I would offer that you can't know who you really are until you've taken the time to let your feminine side figure it out for herself.  Essentially, you need to let her live.

Liz xx

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(@robertaf)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Posts: 1060

@chrisfp99 I'm in a DADT understanding with my SO.  She doesn't like to travel and I do. Our compromise is that she won't mind me going if I won't mind her not. With that said, I take a 10-to-14-day trip somewhere every other month. This seems to work out ok for us. I can take a nice trip, staying dressed the entire time and yet I'm home a vast majority of the time.

In answer to the question, would I go 24/7 if I could? Thats a definite yes, as I enjoy it that much. It just feels so natural and comfortable to me now. Left to me I could certainly do it. 

However, in the real world, I couldn't. I would be too afraid of jeopardizing my relationship with some of those that I love. For me, I think it would just be a reversal as to what I do now. Instead of being Male the majority of time, I would instead be female. Leaving only sometimes having to be a male. 

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(@liza4you)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     MICHIGAN CITY, Indiana, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 No, I'll tell you why, if you have the ability to move freely between both worlds why would you give that up again? I don't want to feel committed to either when I dress as a man I feel normal, I love my wife I have advantages as a man, why would I want to give that up? When I dress as a woman I feel like a woman (or at least as closely as I can imagine. It would be nice if my wife were to take more interest in it that would help me understand a woman more), imitation is the greatest form of flattery I happen to love the way a woman looks and there are times I envy her. I made a mistake and when I grew my hair it actually looked and handled nicer than hers, it had the curl hers lacked and she paid for and I never understood the problems she had with hers, mine was almost as long and I had a lot more grace in high heels they didn't hurt my feet, I liked corsets it was almost like she started feeling threatened for some reason so toleration was what it more or less is, I don't push her, been together for 30 years we are now fairly open to let each other explore themselves but I am still trying to get out the front door as my fem self. but for now I am just exploring the landscape as Liza she has been with me through high school, through 2 marriages, 3 kids all grown up and moved away on their own. I want to let her out but I don't want either to control who I am and who I can be. To me living free to be who I want to be when I want to be feels better than to let something define me as abosulte.

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(@elguapo)
Joined: 9 years ago

Reputable Member     The Villages, Florida, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 I think I would be 24/5 en femme. There are some things I like to do in male mode - like golf with my buddies for example. We have great rapport on the course and I'm sure if I played in lady clothes it would change the group dynamic (no need for red tee jokes).

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(@liza4you)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     MICHIGAN CITY, Indiana, United States of America
Posts: 73

@elguapo That would be nice to have friends and co-workers that would not loose their marbles if they found out I was a cd, No that anything would be different about me other than that knowledge, its a very male dominated establishment and no room for anything but. And I am sure they would feel like total idiots as I am the boss and probably the smartest of them all....lol Its kind of sad really they are all good guys bot fools none the same when it comes to anything cd/gay/tr ect.....

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(@loneleycd)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Posts: 2150

@chrisfp99 Well, for me this has happened. I am now retired, a whole month and have only worn women's clothes. I think I would be very comfortable going back and forth, full male mode today then full fem the next 2. BUT I fear that some people would feel more uncomfortable that way than if I were full fem all the time. Since I am comfortable presenting as Cassie full time I do it even though putting on minimal makeup gets to be a pain sometimes.

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(@chrisfp99)
Joined: 2 years ago

Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
Posts: 1709

@loneleycd Cassie, I'm retired too and loving it. Hasn't done anything for my dressing opportunities though 😢. Interesting take on the subject that some people you know might be less comfortable with you dressing part time rather than full time. Whatever, you're making me very jealous girl xx.

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(@liza4you)
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Estimable Member     MICHIGAN CITY, Indiana, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 I cant wait till I retire the first thing I am going to do is go full dress and have a run around this town, I have only kept it hidden due to the issues it would cause at my job, a few more years and they can all go to hell....

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(@Anonymous 100045)
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@chrisfp99 there was a point in my life when I was living completely on my own. I had separated from my ex-wife, but hadn't started dating my current wife yet, and was living in an apartment without any room mates. I had been a very occasional dresser up until that point in my life, but I quickly adapted to my new found solitude. Without even realizing it, I was soon dressing every day after work. I was sleeping in nighties. I was spending the entire day on Sunday en femme. Pretty much the only time I was in boy mode was when I was at work or when I had visitation with my daughter. And the funny thing is that it was never a conscious decision. It just kinda...happened.

I met my current wife a few months later and Brie ended up going back into the corner of the closet.  I love my wife very much, and the life we've built, but I do miss those few months I had to myself.

If I had the opportunity now, I would absolutely dress full time!

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(@chrisfp99)
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Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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@brieanne Hey Brieanne, that's exactly how I imagine it. It would just be so easy and natural every morning to dress en femme without having actually planned it that way. And now I'm retired there's none of that pesky work nonsense to get in the way. How are your dressing opportunities with your current wife? xx.

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(@Anonymous 100045)
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@chrisfp99 getting better, recently.  My youngest daughter left for college in September and my wife is currently working two jobs so I have a decent amount of alone time in the house.  My travel opportunities for work also look pretty good for the next couple of months, so I’m looking forward to that.  The biggest obstacle right now is finding enough spending money to replenish my wardrobe 🙂

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(@chrisfp99)
Joined: 2 years ago

Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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@brieanne Brieanne, I'm glad you still have some girly opportunities. I have sufficient money for a femme wardrobe but absolutely no opportunity to wear any of it 😢 xx.

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(@gemmalovegood)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Lexington, Kentucky, United States of America
Posts: 75

@chrisfp99 Without a doubt, yes!! If, and that’s a HUGE if, I were suddenly alone, no wife, no family, I would absolutely dress a majority of the time. For all of my life, I’ve stuffed this desire, and I would love to set her totally free for an extended period. Years even.  Just to experience that. 

I love my wife, and though life is hard sometimes (and especially now with elderly parents in our direct daily care), I would never leave her side. But, she also ONLY knows me as the provider, and very masculine me. She doesn’t know Gemma. That is my fault, and my burden for carrying it so long without telling her.

But, were that to change for some reason, I would definitely explore more of these thoughts. This would also probably necessitate a move.

It’s a dream, but one with horrible realities that would make it possible. 

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(@candrew)
Joined: 1 year ago

Eminent Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 14

@chrisfp99 Super interesting topic.  I'm in a pretty good place right now.   My SO knows I wear panties exclusively and the occasional women's jeans.  I went through a phase where I bought a few bras but that didn't really do anything for me.

I'm able to express who I am pretty much as much as I need right now (this site is a great help).   Not sure I would change anything else. 

I don't think I'd ever go out as a woman as I have a beard and don't plan on shaving it.   I'm lucky in that I'm happy with my ability to express myself  in my marriage.

Off topic, if you're into VS, they're having their semi-annual sale right now.   I think it ends tomorrow though.

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(@joanarbour)
Joined: 9 years ago

Reputable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
Posts: 169

@chrisfp99 I’m not sure about full time, but almost certainly 90%, at least on the outside. I live on a nice piece of land so there are plenty of jobs to do that require more manly outerwear, especially in the Montana winter. It would be lovely though to look in the mirror every day and see Joan smiling back.

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(@astridt)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     London, United Kingdom
Posts: 89

@chrisfp99 Always wonder how far would I go. Definitely a lot more me time during the day, but I would love to wear nightgowns any night.

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(@sailor2000)
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Reputable Member     Houston, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 164

@chrisfp99 In a heartbeat if all the stars aligned that way! OMFG YES!

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(@katherineboesemann)
Joined: 5 years ago

Reputable Member     Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa
Posts: 189

@chrisfp99 For at least half my waking time, I daydream about being a complete woman (and so calming and relieving is my time spent in female mode that I always feel some resentment on having to return to my male life). 

I have even gone through phases of wanting (or trying) to grow breasts and I am hardly ever able to be in the company of well-groomed "feminine" women - comfortable in their skins - without experiencing intense envy.

At the same time, I have a keen intellectual awareness of the relative advantages and disadvantages of being either gender.

I am also aware of the multiple social contexts and roles in which I daily find myself and where I am able to interact as a man more easily and comfortably.

On balance, I am probably better off as a man - with occasional or regular forays into the feminine.

There are those who might characterize this as rank hypocrisy - since I get to choose my gender in order to evade certain social pressures - and perhaps it is.

Then again, this is possibly merely a deficiency of the narrow Western dichotomy in which only two genders are acknowledged and accepted.

Many (if not most) non-Western cultures recognize a "third gender" and celebrate it.

If I were to relocate into a community where this latitude is allowed, I would instantly become one of their two-spirited people, whether Muxe, Hijra, Sekrata or Bakla.

 

Love, 

Katherine

 

 

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(@nikkik)
Joined: 8 years ago

Active Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 4

@chrisfp99 For most of my working life, dressing "En-Femme" was a hobby. A way to feel comfortable and less stressed. I managed to do so most weekends to some extent. Less so when I got married. Took a bit to come-out to my wife. Continued, still only occasionally as the children grew up.
When they were teenagers, I had a long, serious, talk with them. Then did then dress up more often, when at home, and go to various local fetish and dress-up-parties.
Since I have retired, I wear feminine underwear, panties, stockings, suspender-belt etc, full time: Day and night. I often dress up full: skirts, bra and breast-forms, pretty, pink, silk or satin tops etc.  
I just feel that is more me.  
Often wondered about going to whole way. Had bouts of seriously considering it.
But long ago decided that I can live with my dysphoria and accept what little I have of masculinity and mix it with my feminine side.
Very grateful that my wife is accepting and calm about it, if not exactly encouraging.

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 Lacy
Duchess
(@rholtman96)
Reputable Member     Lincoln city, Oregon, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Probably, I more or less dress everyday now unless I'm going to town and then I'm underdressed.

Lacy

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

Unlike Lacy, I tend to fully dress ONLY when I'm going to town, although I do wear a skirt in the evenings because it's more comfortable.

Would I dress full-time? No.

I would dress a lot more if I could get out and about in the village (I'm working on that) but the thought of having to go through that whole rigmarole every, single, day—makeup, wig, underwear, etc.—just wouldn't appeal; sometimes it's quicker, easier and more comfortable—especially in the summer—to just chuck on a T shirt and a pair of shorts.

In the springtime, I do a lot of digging and planting in my large garden and the fewer clothes I can wear while doing that, the better.

I like dressing up, but I have to have a reason to do it and a reason doesn't come along every day.

And that's me.

Becca

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(@coloradog1)
Honorable Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

given the opportunity to become Natalie full time meaning clothes, wig , heels, makeup , I would not. I don’t it in me to be a woman or even an imitation of one. I just love to play dress up. I enjoy living as a man and being masculine in public life with no dysphoria. It’s exciting to me as a part time escape and not something I would want to do every single day. That being said I think women’s clothes are superior. I think they compliment my body more than men’s clothes and the fabrics are more comfortable to me. I’d say if there was zero social stigma about it I would most likely be in a skirt or dress most days instead of pants. I think when we cannot dress we begin to fantasize about full time life as a woman. I had some thoughts like this as a kid. But now that I’m on my own and can pretty much dress when I want, those wants have all but gone away. The occasional 1-2 day adventures as Natalie are enough to get these feminine feelings out of my system for a while

-Nat

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(@Anonymous 100045)
Eminent Member
Joined: 2 months ago

If given the go ahead I definitely would. I feel so much better as Alexis. When I go back as my male self I feel something is missing. As Alexis I'm more sensitive and compassionate and in tune with other people's needs. I see everything differently. I also enjoy being a girly girl. Like to cuddle up  with my SO and enjoy a good girl movie. It's to bad how society judges us it would be simpler if we all could accept people for who they are,and not who they think we should be. I love my feminine self

Alexis Grace 💋 xoxo 

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(@dovemtn2016)
Joined: 1 year ago

Honorable Member     Tucson, Arizona, United States of America
Posts: 307

@alexisgrace I’m with you Alexis.

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 2100

@alexisgrace you are so right

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@heels234)
Prominent Member     Mesa, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

Given the opportunity,if all was right,I would jump at the opportunity to go female full time.YES,YES,YES.

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(@Anonymous 100045)
Joined: 2 months ago

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Posts: 28

@heels234 I second that

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(@aliceblack)
Honorable Member     Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I would dress up more frequently in my home and look for more meetups with girl friends. But I do not think I would do it full time.

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(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

@chrisfp99 Hey girl! As I think I've noted previously my GF of 10yrs is 100% on board - I can be Melodee as much as I like. That tends to be 3-5 days/month

I was on a walk some days ago with her and we were talking about the process of getting ready. In thinking about it I said, "If it took me no more time & effort that it takes you (me ~2hrs, her ~40min) I might stayed dolled up for quite long periods of time." After some discussion, I said a month straight easy...possibly more. Of course, this would be in some alternate universe where I didn't have to work, but the discovery for me was that I could easily see being in girl-mode for long stretches.

In reality, it the shaving and the extra layers of makeup and the nails that make doing it for extended period untenable. My longest stretch was 5 days at Keystone last March, and I was more than ready to give it a rest.

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Baroness Annual
(@secretpassions)
Noble Member     Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

In a perfect world I would definitely be full time! I have taken a couple of surveys that were linked to forums on this site that found me somewhat dysphoric. I have told my wife about this side of me, and that I wish I could live as a woman. She has been amazing! She suggested that I get my ears pierced, so of course I did.  Although she is not ready to see me in heels, forms or makeup, I do wear skirts, and dresses most evenings. I also wear leggings, and ballet flats when I am home during the day. Makeup is still very much a mystery, but I would love to spend some time working at it. 

I would most likely lose most of my friends, and alienate most of my family if I did go full time, so Lara is a homebody, but life at home is pretty good!

Big Love Eyes

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(@daniela1965)
Eminent Member     La, California, United States of America
Joined: 3 months ago

If I could I would definitely do this so I could always be me 

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(@rozalyne)
Famed Member     Shrewsbury, Shropshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi Chrissie, if i was to end up on my own sometime in the future I would be Roz 24/7, all my drab man clothes would end up in the charity shop and all my fem clothes would be hung up in my wardrobe, at the moment though I'm just a part time CDresser whenever the opportunity presents its self, 

Hugs Roz X 

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(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

The advantage of being a crossdresser rather than trans is that we can pick and choose. As a rule, I prefer dressing as female. 

Since losing my job a few months back, I have been living as Cerys, occasionally dipping back into male mode when necessary. The past four days have all been in male mode. Cerys takes a lot of effort in the mornings. After weeks of being Cerys, I decided not to bother. I might put a skirt and top on for around the house, but if going out, I'd go back to jeans and a shirt. I'd not bother with bra and boobs, or hair and make up. Going mainly full time is great, but it's also great to go back to male mode occasionally. Being a woman, or at least presenting as one, is hard work!

Cerys

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Lady
(@lisadouglas)
Estimable Member     Indiana, United States of America
Joined: 6 months ago

Hi Chrissie,

In 2019, I found out if Lisa might like to dress as a femme full-time. Lisa emerged every day for two weeks while my wife toured the United Kingdom. I discovered that I only dressed up from the early evening hours through the following day until after breakfast. For the next eight to ten hours, I reverted to my masculine side. By the end of the second week, I had reached burnout, and I needed a rest from the work it took to be Lisa. However, if I had an SO who FULLY supported my dressing up in any way I wanted, her participation would significantly affect my desire to dress more. In the end, I need to divide my time between my masculinity and my feminity. Both sides are essential to who I am. 

Lisa Ann

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Lady
(@krisburton)
Prominent Member     The Hub City, New Jersey, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I'm an occasional dresser - a recreational dresser if you will. For me, the ability to switch back and forth at will is exactly the point. To be able to present and pass fully as my feminine self is my ultimate, altho likely unattainable, goal. On occasion I have allowed Kris to be the dominant psychological presence for a few days straight - like at Keystone -  but I always return to my male self when the time comes without too much resistance. I don't see that changing, even if the opportunity arose. I wouldn't mind the chance to make the switch more frequently tho.

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

An interesting question and replies.

I get to dress pretty mush everyday in the mornings while my wife is still sleeping. I put on lipstick but no other make up due to the time it takes to put it on and take it off, I would love to wear make up if it wasn't for the time factor. My ears are pierced and I wear earrings 24/7, studs and hoops most of the time but fancy dangling ones when I dress at home. I just recently started going out in drab while wearing panties which feels wonderful. In answer to the question - yes. I would wear female clothing exclusively. There are enough things in female attire to be able to go out and blend in. I would wear dresses and skirts when the opportunity arises. While I understand what some have said about the time involved in presenting female, personally, I don't see it as a hinderance. Yes a certain amount of make up would be needed but with time and practice that wouldn't take as long to put on. I am a man and will never be a woman, however, that doesn't mean I can't allow my feminine side to show itself. I would love to be able to do as others do and go out en femme from time to time but in my current situation that isn't possible. If I were on my own I would. I admire those that can and those that dress androgynously.

I think for many of us our dressing has evolved over time so do what you can, have aspirations to reach for and enjoy your journey.

XOXO
Suzanne

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