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Haven’t posted anything recently but figured I’d post about my run in with a guy a few days ago.
I had to take a trip to Walmart to buy a new router and Ethernet cable for my PC. That day I was wearing just a pair of cute leggings my girlfriend had gotten me, not really dressing fully but being comfortably and in a state where I felt I was truly a balance of my normal make self and Tonya. Well while standing trying to decide what type of router would be best to get. I have a very obvious redneck of that nature, think he was planning on trying to steal something behind me the way he acted but that’s not important... but after two GG’s who were obviously with him showed up. He decides to make a comment (something along the lines of) “nice pants, fag” with more words thrown in and I here one of the girls he’s obviously trying to show off for tell him he can never be move or whatever basically thinking he was “manly” or whatever.
as I’m standing there the comment didn’t even really strike a chord, as I’ve mentioned in other posts/ comments, that type of reaction I expect. My amusement to the situation though was my thought as he said it and scurried off at me not flinching, my exact first thought was, with my training, from the marine corps and my martial arts training it would have been amusing for this “fag in leggings that would allow him to move even better, to make this “manly” redneck asshole look like a ragdoll in front of the girls he’s trying to impress....” I was fairly proud of myself for not reacting to him and for not being bothered by the comment except for the chuckle I got from the situation.
it was also a reminder to myself that you never know someone’s background so what’s the need to be nasty to people of any gender, race, creed or whatever...
sorry for the long rant. Especially after being Mia for awhile.
love you ladies
Tonya
Bravo Tonya, way to show the a**hole how a lady behaves - if he doesn't take the hint then you can introduce him to his own intestines - well done you for keeping your cool under such circumstances.
Diana
Way to go Tonya, Its the best way to deal with things...provided they do indeed move on.
I've had those other similar thoughts as well. I wouldn't look for a physical confrontation, but nor would I back down. I hate wrecking my clothes lol.
No matter the outcome, they would still be losers. Ew, big man! beat up a girl, OR the more likely and entertaining, Tough guy idiot got his arse handed to him by a girl.
I always found the thought that, this woman, just made you look like less than a man in front of those girls you so badly wanted to impress.
I can definitely say the fact that it didn’t get underwear my skin has a lot to do with the conversations I’ve had on here. It helps to keep your cool with those types when you are more comfortable with yourself. I can guarantee I am at this point more comfortable with it than he probably is in his own ego. I mean... he had to have checked out my legs, which look amazing in leggings btw... lol if I do say so myself... since he had to make mention of me wheeling them 😁😎😉
Sorry that happened Tonya, 🌺
people fear what they don't understand and when they fear something they sometimes make fun of it or lash out in order to protect themselves. Like you did, it’s best for us to just ignore them, or better yet, give them a little smile. 🧚🏼🌸💐
Not gonna lie I wanted to give a quip about him liking what he saw but bit my tongue and smiled at the fact that I know, 1) I look god in leggings, 2) I was comfortable, and 3) if he’d made a move towards violence... I wouldn’t be the one looking like a... well I would rather not use the many words that come to mind 😉
I understand completely! 😆
💐🌸
Tonya,
I’ve often believed that restraint is the best demonstration of courage. You didn’t run and hide, but you kept your cool and showed restraint. There IS a time for violence, but that is only when you need to protect yourself or someone else who is weaker/more vulnerable. You also showed humility without allowing yourself to be humiliated.
I often think that men who make such comments are overcompensating for their own lack of masculinity. Masculinity at its best shows courage, calm, protectiveness, vision, provision, leadership, and selfless service. I’m guessing that guy has none of those traits and tries to make up for it by lowering others. You showed the best qualities of both masculinity and femininity with your response.
Bravo/brava!
God bless,
Steph
Well done Tonya for not raising to the bait and just ignoring the guy, the best thing to do is to just ignore them otherwise if they get a reaction that's what makes them happy and they just don't let go,
Hugs Rozalyne x
I agree 100% and him not saying anything until he had his female friends nearby proved he only wanted to look “cool” or whatever to them. I’m gaining more respect for myself throughout my transition of becoming openly more Tonya. And I feel it helps both in drab and en femme.
That clown isn’t worth your time. He is a loser trying to make himself feel better by putting others down. Typical bully move he kept his mouth shut until he had an audience. Cowards like that will never say something outside where he might have to deal with the consequences of his words. Glad you didn’t sink to his level and get into a confrontation, verbal or otherwise.
It’s hard to bite your tongue sometimes, but also it’s nice when you can get a smile out of comments because you know something drew their eye in your direction. And for me I’m sure it was my legs
"underwear my skin"
Probably the best auto-correct I've ever seen!
LOL 🤣🤣🤣🤣
ove Laura
There are times when violence is both warranted and necessary.
This was not one of them.
I hope that when this situation arises with myself ,
that I react in as mature a fashion.
May the day find you well
Catherine
