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This whole journey for me really started a couple years ago when we went to the theater to see Chicago. There was a man there dressed nicely in a black or perhaps very dark blue suit. The interesting thing about him was that he was wearing a pair of white high heeled sandals, like probably a four to six inch heel. Other than the sandals, he just looked like a man dressed to go out for an evening. We saw him and talked as couples often do, but inside I thought to myself if only I had his guts. I eventually came clean to my wife about my feelings about dressing. We talked about that night, and I said how I admired his courage to just let it out there. I mean it was very public. Well, that started it all.
The other day my wife and I went out for our usual pedi appointment and I knew I couldn't fully dress because our son was home, but I was determined to go as far as I could. Underdressing, obvious choice. Getting pedi's, so I needed to have my lower legs accessible so I chose to wear a pair of women's jean short shorts, real Daisy Dukes. Also wore a pair of heeled flip flops, which I always wear to the salon, about a 2 inch heel. On top I wore a peach colored Columbia top, it's a men's shirt, but it's still bright and cute. I also had on eye brow makeup (I almost always wear it anymore, and keep my brows nicely plucked), and a little nude lippy. After the pedi, I had a visit with the skin doctor.
That evening in bed, my wife said to me "do you remember the conversation we had about the man at the theater, and you said you wished you had his courage?" I said I was not likely to forget that conversation, as that was "the talk" for me. She then said "Today was your day showing your courage like him" because I was not presenting as a woman, went to see people who know me as Wil, dressed like I was, just letting it out there. I was so happy she said that, I almost cried right there.
I'm not all the way out there yet, but I'm making progress.
Bridgette
Bridgette 💎 good for you!! I think what you did was amazing! 🦋🌼
Congratulations Bridgette, you obviously have a loving allied in the camp. Pyxx.
Bridgette.
Love the story, love your progress, love you.....
Keep on keeping on.....
Grace xxx
Bridgette,
Well done, maybe that is something you can build upon.
Another notch on the lipstick tube! Yea! Keep it up! The house you want to live in tomorrow is built on the foundation you build today.
❤
Beth
That's so awesome! The only "compliment" I ever got from my wife happened a few years ago. Took a shower after work and when I walked back through the living room she said "wow, you just need to lose the gut and you got it". I just chuckled and continued to the bathroom. OMG I'll never forget this. Although I have zero interest in ever transitioning, this meant the world to me. She still loves me after all these years
Way to go Bridgette!
Alice
I can't imagine being able to do this without my wife's love and support.
Bridgette
Good for you, Brigette, and I agree with you, I could not do this without my wifes support, It is what makes this so special
We are indeed, lucky girls
Hugs, Regi👸💕
We are indeed, Reg! A while back I was dressed at home for whatever opportunity it was, and I had the chance to either stay dressed, but stay home alone, or dress less femme and more androgynously and go out and be with my wife, and I chose to be with her. It just wasn't fun enough to dress alone, at least not that day. I'd rather be with her.
Bridgette
If you felt confident, comfortable, and calm in what you had on, then you are out there, and you win.
Theres no reason to go all out. We don't need to totally change from one social convention (what men ought to wear) to the absolute other end of those similarly narrow minded views (what femme should be).
Pick what you like, and be YOU.
Thats an awesome compliment from your wife.
Olivia
I agree. I'm most comfortable as I've said in some other posts in that middle ground in between spaces. "My" look is androgynous, but I still love dressing all the way up sometimes too. It's all good. Today, I'm wearing a trans pride t- shirt at work, and no comments so far.
Bridgette
