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So I know this isn’t the ideal situation, but does anyone have advice in hiding your stash of the lovely clothes you’ve collected from your significant other who doesn’t understand?
I’ve just ordered a number of swing dresses since they were so cheap, but now I’m loaded with few options to stash them. I’m at least lucky that my wife is not a snoop, but there’s all sorts of problems.
One of the biggest seems to be when I have time to play, I have no time to dig around for the perfect outfit, or the piece I’m looking for to finish it. I’ve kept mine in some luggage cases that don’t look like luggage cases, but short of labelling them, I’m never going to find something specific, or even browse what I want (e.g. pink panties) very easily. It also leads to wrinkles, which, well, you get the idea.
Just hang your investment in your closet, be honest with your spouse, and tell her about the "other you". In all of the years I crossdressed and all of the relationships I had, I have always been honest about this. I know it seems like it's impossible to fess up to, but your spouse can at least respect your honesty instead of being angry because you lied. I pay the bills in my house and I will hide nothing at home!! When I told my SO I was transitioning and would begin living as a woman, I expected her to leave. But I had to be honest, I had to be true to myself in order to love myself and we cannot truly love another until we first love ourselves. I had to give her time but now she actually likes the idea of me transitioning as she likes the new me on HRT better. So you never really know how they will respond until you try and isn't she entitled to the truth? Turn things around, how would you feel!?
Good Luck, Breanna
Don't buy any more Femm for the moment,but slowly keep talking ,If your feelings are so strong ,and she is not willing to find a balance ,then you have some serious thinking to do.Good luck . Py xx.
Then why do you lock up, and hide your clothing in a closet in the basement???
I so agree Bobbi!!! I struggled for a couple weeks when I first began "dressing" again after 23 years. But I struggled with how to tell my SO and I refrained from shopping until I did. But you are absolutely right, there is no reason in the world that anybody should refrain from being who or what they are to satisfy another person. Even a spouse, family member or SO. Everyone has the right to express themselves as they choose to do!
Some problems simply don't have "good" answers; but Bobbi is correct: you should not keep this secret from your wife. The 2nd worst thing which could happen is that you can't do it in her presence. The worst thing is that she could leave, but if things are that bad, she wasn't the right one for you...the CD urge can't be removed and you have to live with it.
I agree with Bobbi, also.
If you hide it now when she finds out it will be much worse.
she will feel lied to and it can cause permanent damage to you relationship.
Patty
I don't know all of your circumstances, but a storage locker might be solution.
Jessica
I have some things, skirts, tops, and dresses hanging in a garment bag along with my suits. I don't have alot and it fits in one bag.
I agree with the others about trying to tell your wife, things would have been much easier with my fiancé and I if he had the courage to tell me. If she ever finds out, it will be worse for both of you. If she finds out she will think all kinds of things and will be so hard. She will go to google for help... which won’t. I’m sure you know a lot of crossdresser sites are all very sexualized which is scary for a spouse. If you can sit her down and tell her, have answers ready for the questions she may have. I’m sure so many of the ladies here have advice on how to do it.
Lucy,
I have a similar situation. I cannot tell my wife and I like everyone else cannot stop. Someone said the worst case is, she would leave you. If you are like me she (and my kids) means infinitely more than dressing and I could not handle that so I stay in the closet. I have been considering ways to make a "go" bag I could grab if an opportunity should arise. I have put some necessities in my purse but it is not big enough to hold outerwear. I am still working on that. I have been looking for something like a book bag or a larger purse.
Love
Melissa
Hey girl I had that problem because I live with my two grandsons and they Snoop around everywhere didn't want them to find and say who's dresses this Grandpa LOL so anyway I ended up renting a storage locker about a mile from my house bought a dresser on offer up and all Jasmine's clothes are there except for a few pairs of panties and pantyhose I do keep close 💋
I am closeted and must hide all of my clothing. I have indulged Annie and have collected many many items of shoes 👠, dresses 👗, skirts, makeup 💄, purses 👛, jewelry and other accessories. Much of it is spring/summer and the other half is fall winter. I keep my seasonal items in the trunk of two cars that only I drive and the off season items in the attic under ski equipment, all nicely folded. Recently I was swapping my seasonal items and had all down. I put winter in my trunk but didn’t have to go fold all my cute summer items as carefully as I wanted, so I kept them down too. It just happened that my wife was rearranging the attic and had I not kept them down, she would have found all my darling summer outfits and we would of had “the talk”. OMG. Talk about luck 😂😂😂
A CD I met not too long ago kept his stash in a crawlspace, because it was a place his wife refused to go. LOL - who can blame her? Any place like that at your house?
The fake Christmas tree storage bag is a great place 11 months out of the year for any other incidentals, shoes, purses...
Be sure to plan ahead girls.
