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Thanks for the question. A lot of good responses.
Accept myself for who I am and not be what others want me to be. I can't really complain about my life as I accomplished many things. I was not happy for most of it as I was trying to live up to expectations of others rather than what I wanted. At the time I didn't know any better and wanted to please others. In the end, looking back, I am sorry I didn't do what I wanted to about many things - not just dressing.
XOXO
Suzanne
@cdsue Aww, I want to give you an big embracing man-hug my friend (sometimes femme-hugs just don’t cut the mustard). There’s a lot behind your words, my empathetic self can tell a country mile away. Feel free to share, in a PM even, for I have a reasonable listening and supportive ear. In return, I promise not share with you my ‘Boy Named Valentine’ reflection in which I actually wished that my father had left home when I was three, another dark story.
@cdsue This really resonates Suzanne. A good friend always tells me to make myself happy because nobody else can.
Say to myself: You're beautiful and I love you, my heart is at peace. Go for it darling and don't ever look back. It'll be the most fantastic journey you'll ever take. Get your breast implants, now. Don't wait, or you'll never do it. Stand tall , be proud, keep your lipstick fresh!! Love ya.
Grab it while you can, kiddo. The longer you wait, the harder it gets to present even barely convincingly.
And it gets even harder to resist the urge.
I know, it would have meant abandoning family and friends and possibly moving to another state and starting fresh. But imagine how you could make yourself look if you had the luxury.
The die was cast when you first began trying things on. There's no turning back from there, just a constant battle between your two sides. Most of the time your masculine side might be in control, but your feminine side still needs an outlet.
It's better to make peace with that side even if you don't want to be full time feminine.
It's better to indulge that side while you're young enough to take full advantage of it than look back with regret that you didn't.
And you'll discover things that took me decades to realize.
Embrace yourself because your feminine feelings will never go away. Accepting yourself at a very early age will certainly make your life so much more complete, life is so short don’t avoid being your true self.
@shelly-lynn Wise words x
And what a beautiful part of the world you live in. We spent Christmas near to Gaylord a few years back. -15c! Happy times. 💚
Girls, there's such a common theme of regret running through the replies here. I'm there in spades. Dabbled in my early twenties but didn't have the confidence to pursue it further. What amazing times I've missed out on 😢. Trying to restart now that the kids have fled the nest is proving nigh on impossible. And of course the need to present our female side just tends to grow as we get older. Sigh!
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
@chrisfp99 there's a saying about regret hun, it's better to regret something that you have done, than regret something that you haven't done...🤔
@leslienix well I don't regret what I did when I was younger, but I do regret not doing more of it!
@chrisfp99 On the other side of the coin though, in my case at least, in my younger years dressing was minimal and infrequent, so I had no real idea how it might develop to the gargantuan levels in my 60s. I feel another Q is in the making for this coming Sunday (my self imposed 1 per week ☺️)
Valentina
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@valentina16 Valentina, I'm with you in experiencing an earth-shattering need to dress as I get older xx.
