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ALONE FINALLY!! How long before you start crossdressing?

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Lady
(@jamietaal)
Reputable Member     DC Metro Area, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

A little bit of "C" and "D". I confessed to my wife 5+ years ago and would only dress when she was out of the house for an extended period of time. As a result, we are in a "don't ask don't tell" agreement. During the pandemic i did not have many opportunities since we were both home all the time. I did approach her at some point and asked if it would be ok if i dressed when i was in my private office while working from home and I would change back if i left the room or would be around her. She was hesitantly OK with this arrangement. I told her she is always welcome to come to my office any time if she feels the need or curiosity. She did knock and enter once but it was at a moment when i was almost finished getting changed back so she saw very little.

In cases when she is out of the house we have agreed to have our "find-my-phone" feature turned on on our iPhones so we can know each others whereabouts and when she might be coming back to the house. I know it sounds overbearing but i genuinely only use it when i am dressing for her own sanity. She will also text me if she is coming home early just to give each of us the peace to now and avoid the awkward situation that we are both aware of but not ready to fully embrace. I will admit, i still startle when i hear a car door close outside our house when i am dressed. I guess old habits are hard to die.

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Lady
(@amandawoods)
Estimable Member     Denver, Colorado, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I am fortunate to be able to dress with or without my wife present. She is wonderful and accepts me the way I am.

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Baroness Annual
(@secretpassions)
Noble Member     Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I chose B, since no one knows but me. Just enough time in case she forgot something. Now that we are retired there is less alone time for Lara so less time to dress. That 15 minutes can feel like hours!

💕Lara

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(@alicent)
Honorable Member     Poole, Dorset, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

I chose B, as that is what I do if one of her friends picks her up to go out for a while; if that is the case I get changed back about an hour before she is due back.

Other times I give her a lift, then go and collect her when she wants; when I do that, as soon as I get home I start crossdressing; I stop when it's time to go and collect her.

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Lady
(@silkydrawers)
Honorable Member     Milwaukee, Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I chose #1 As soon as the key is in the ignition.

My wife knows all about my crossdressing but I don't want her to know how much time I spend enjoying it. I prefer to have her believe when I'm not working I'm doing something productive. he!he!...

I'm really not fooling her because if she unexpectedly is going to be home early she always calls me first. It's funny how she always asks me in sarcastic voice, "What are you doing?"  I always respond "Nothing!" Of course that's not fooling her. I don't know why I just don't tell her I'm playing dress up.

There has been times she has come home and caught me lounging around in one of my dresses or just wearing my nightie and it's never been a big deal. What I don't like about it is she laughs at catching me and I feel embarrassed about it.

 

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Duchess
(@mollyg)
Reputable Member     Alberta, Canada
Joined: 6 years ago

A, and D;

She knows, they know, but no one wants to see it, so although they know it's pretty much a given when the house will be empty.

COVID and the work/study from home has made it more difficult and increased the incident of A

-Molly

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Duchess
(@alison-anderson)
Noble Member     Middlesex county, New Jersey, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I'm divorced, so it doesn't really apply.  Before, I would dress at night (we slept separately) or once or twice a month when I would go to meetups.

I live with 2 of my adult children, and dress often in fronti of them.  In the evening, at night, on weekends, on days I work from home.  I go out for a walk dressed and often stay that way the rest of the day.  So choice D (she they already know) is probably the closest.

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Lady
(@requaljoanne)
Honorable Member     New South Wales, Australia
Joined: 4 years ago

Requal gives it about 15 minutes incase they return because they may have forgotten something.   I always ask how long they will be away and change back about 10 minutes before their return time.   Have been nearly caught out a few times; close but not close enough.

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Lady
(@brandicd11)
Reputable Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

Hi Vanity,

Always wait as my wife knows loaves my crossdressing.

She has come back more than 15 minutes later as she forgot something.

I think she knows I will crossdress but patience is a virtue.

Hugs,

Brandi

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Guest
(@Anonymous 87077)
Reputable Member
Joined: 2 years ago

I don't dress at home, I may try on some new outfits to see if they fit. I dress when I travel out of town.

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Lady
(@josie21)
Trusted Member     Florida, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I'm in the 15 minute camp. My wife is usually very consistent in her actions but one day came home early from work without calling first. I was dressed to the nines and had no recourse but to walk downstairs and introduce her to Josie. Her first reaction wasn't bad but second thoughts from her later made things a bit uncomfortable. So she knows, she doesn't like, I respect her feelings, I wait 15 minutes.

And I get undressed and make up free about an hour before she comes home in the evening. This is a daily routine.

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Guest
(@Anonymous 87077)
Reputable Member
Joined: 2 years ago

I usually get up and change from my nightie to weather appropriate clothes, today pink leggings, floral blouse,  padded bra satin robe wig lipstick and earrings and then make and serve coffee to my wife. (benefits of coming out to her) And I just hope that my adult son doesnt just show up (which he is known to do)  When I am pretty sure he wont be here or just after he leaves I am dressing...10 minutes

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(@bekkierenee)
Trusted Member     Washington, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

I wait until after the vehicle has left.  This is only if I know I will have at least an  hour to myself.  My family, that I live with, still does not know..

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(@frederique)
Estimable Member     Gelderland, Netherlands
Joined: 1 year ago

B.

My husband knows, and I have a separate rack with Femme clothes and pumps, but he doesn't really like to see me in a dress, so as soon as he leaves for work, I get in Frédériqe mode.

He is now in his third week home bound with a cast on his broken left foot, so Frédérique is really screaming to come out and play, but have to wait for another 11 days Depressed  

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Lady
(@florapgh)
Estimable Member     Pittsburgh , Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Pretty much A for me.  I get up earlier than the spouse, so I dress almost every morning for at least my first cup of coffee.  But, when I get extended time. I am 100% Flora as soon as possible.  I am working up the courage to get to D.  The spouse knows that I wear panties 24/7/365.  Almost have to believe there are suspicions about the rest of my wardrobe.  Both retired, so I think eventually we will have the talk.  When I do get extended time, I am usually dressed for the duration and usually will add wig, lipstick, makeup and do my nails.  This isn’t going to go away.  I didn’t start until later in life, but am naturally effeminate.  It just feels right and I’d eventually like to be honest with it at least here at home.  

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