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So I have dressed since a young boy. Often through the years I struggled with it, I would buy clothes then get guilty and throw things away. So often in my life I have felt different than everybody. As my title says, alone in this world. I married my wife 15 years ago and have two children. I love her and am attracted to her. We get along great. However I still feel alone, like something is missing. I came out to her about my dressing last year. She was devastated but understanding. It has not been discussed since the initial dialogue. It's DADT. The first thing she asked is if I was gay, I lied a little saying no. I am bisexual, I haven't told her that and don't think I can because of what it would do to her. I hid this, she didn't sign up for it. My life is in a great place but I just feel like something is missing. Just not sure what to do or where to go from here. Part of me embraces Chelsey yet the other part wishes she would just go away so I can live a "normal" life. Thanks for listening!
Hi Chelsey,
Welcome to CDH. Perhaps, you and your wife might speak with a therapist with expertise in marital counseling and transgender is.
Alice
Hi Chelsey as Alice has sugested is a great way to get things worked out .. Hope you and your wife can survive this and keep your marrage strong good luck girlfriend..
Stephanie Bass
I have a friend now stricken with Alzheimer’s, But he at one time was known to be one of the best marriage counselors in the in the country. When we were friends I was not married, but he mentioned to me one day that there were two keys to a successful marriage, very simple: 1 never insult your partner with Bad intent or Swear words, it may destroy the marriage forever. 2. Marriage love has to include ones desire to help and support your mate to become everything that they want to be on their own terms. It seems people change a lot overtime, this requires some real love. That was it.
I should add, this is why I was married and divorced three times. Neither I nor my partner were capable of performing these two rules.
Chelsey, you’re not alone. But you have some difficult decisions.
I hope you can find comfort and solace here.
Much love,
Raquel
