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If you’re like me you stopped dressing for a while then started back up again. What started you back up?
I blame it on Covid.
I really didn't dress much before or to a great extent. But the isolation of Covid and the masks got me desiring to dress. Especially in something that actually fits me. Got me thinking just how far and how passable could I be.
Also the excitement of being on both sides of the male/ female spectrum was alluring.
So I really delved into dressing. Each time I would push my boundaries out. Like using a wig, then makeup. Researching every aspect of being feminine.
But always wondering I'm I really some kind of oddity. Or are there others like minded souls like me?
Then I checked out CDH and Bingo I hit the CD jackpot!
Maybe the only good thing to come out of Covid!
Fran 🥰
@love2cross69 Well I haven’t stopped in a long while now but back when I did do this it was the the pure love of my feminine side that is impossible to keep away.
@love2cross69 After recently rearranging the clothes in my closet, nearly all of my drab clothes are harder to find and use. I am pretty sure that I can get away with always using my women's clothing now without ever having to stop.
To make it even harder to stop and to make room for more women's clothing, I am going to have to discard some old clothes and donate some others.
I don't have much history crossdressing enough to start and stop as many times as I think some of you have had.
@love2cross69 I stopped dressing after a separation, resolved at the time to not make the same “mistake” again. I managed to hold off for about a year following the end of the marriage, and the realized I that my abstinence served no purpose.
@kimdl94 Absolutely Kim. And you'd have had such a great opportunity! I should be so lucky xx.
@love2cross69 I've been dressing since I was 4. At 13, I began buying my own clothes, and at 17, began going out in public. Through college I dressed and went out lot. My girl friend liked it when we went out as girlfriends.
Then after college and when kids came along, I took a long break from dressing. When the kids grew and went out on their own, I began again with the encouragement and support of my wife.
Many of the feelings came back. I loved the thrills an excitement again.
@love2cross69 I lived for the last 8 years in a small, very conservative town where I was well known in my male mode. Being recognized as Steffie would have cost me my job and many friends. I have now moved to a large metro area where I may resume dressing. My wife may object and I need to keep her happy before I do me.
@love2cross69 for me my wife was spending alot of time away taking care of her mom. I was alone alot and it just came back hard. that was 4 years ago. these days sometimes it just feels like boredom. Bored of being a guy and it really shakes things up. also stress brings River out as She always calms me right back down. Cheers RC
@love2cross69 I stopped almost a year ago, when my SO found my stash. I knew she would not accept or understand why I like to dress, and the pain in her face and her voice were too much for me.
I have decided not to dress again as long as I'm with her ... and I'm hoping that we stay together for another 26 years
@love2cross69 I stopped and purged the day before I got married.
Last year I told my wife about the need to dress and she was initially shocked but then supportive of Anna coming out of my imagination and into the flesh. I explained it was something I needed to do and didn't really know why.
My wife shops with me, came to my first, embarrassed makeup lesson and photoshoot and helps with working on the Anna look from first attempts at makeup and wig through to advice on going smooth, choosing feminine glasses, jewellery and finding my signature perfume.
For our 25th wedding anniversary, we did a photoshoot with my wife as groom and bridesmaid and me as bride.
Hugs,
Anna xx
My wife and I raised our grandsons after their parents passed away, after they grew up and moved far enough away that I wasn't worried about them walking in on me, the urge to dress again came back. Now it's almost every day that I get to indulge.
When I would purge in the past, I could go a great while without the urge to dress at all. Usually then at some point I would see a beautiful well dressed woman in public wearing a cute dress or perhaps a skirt and heels. I think “ wow she looks amazing!” The image would stick with me for weeks until I finally would give in and dress again
I know that feeling. I think I recently realized that all of the things I’ve ever liked about a woman, I like because I want them for me. Wow. Including your dress. 🤩
Oh, Michelle, there is no explanation for what we do. I truly believe that we are predisposed genetically from birth, and there’s no way to stop. So since I’m not starting and stopping any more, I’ll never be starting again.
I've purged several times over the years but it never lasted very long. I guess I'm a weak willed individual or maybe I just have a strong willed lady inside me.
@michellemybell I don't think you are weak willed - that is such a negative view of yourself. We all have different needs and you evidently have a strong need to dress. Do you purge because of others?
Michelle, I stopped for 35 years after I got married. I probably didn't think of dressing every single day but it was never far from my thoughts. Then a combination of 'If not now then when?' and my wife and daughters holidaying abroad for 10 days brought Chrissie back in a girly whirl. Of course I'm still nowhere near where I need to be xx.
When I was having trouble in my marriage, I agreed to stop dressing. While I needed big changes from her, I asked for something trivial. She did what I asked for one day, then went back to making excuses.
I knew at this point the marriage was over. She didn't want to change in the slightest. There was no way I could up the ante and ask for the big issue.
After this continued for a month or so, I decided that if she's not going to keep her promise (and it was really not much an imposition), there was no need to keep mine, and I started dressing again. Within 2 months I found a transformation place near me, and that event changed my life.
unfortunately at times life gets in the way and you have to step away and then the fog hits hard down the road and we purge for sometime then flatlines out to your comfort zone I went years with out dressing even tossed all my items away but then one day I came out to myself and said this is the life I enjoy and girl I purged hard ever second I could I dressed know I flatlined out and only dress when the opportunity is available
I stopped for about a month because, life, I got sick. I felt the need for a week then had an opportunity last Saturday. So I got fully dressed. Nice skirt and top. I felt whole again. Then my wife said we had to go get prescriptions, to the dispensary to get my "meds" and then to the dollar store. So much anxiety. I told myself you've done this before. No one cares. Just go shopping and relax. Once I was out and about I was fine.
I stopped for quite a few years after a divorce and about a year later found my current love of my life, (coming up to 25 years).
For about the first 7-8 years with my new love, I was like "reformed addict", and "never touched a bra or panties".
But as we all know, "it all comes back".So for the last 14 or so its been full on (when I can). We are in a loving DADT relationship, (she knows but does not want to know). Rather than go into any details on the above, just check out my articles and photos here on CDH
Happy dressing
Caty
Hi Michelle,
I never told anyone about the secret girl living inside me, including the girl I was about to marry. A month before our wedding day, I purged everything and slammed the door on Lisa's face to start a new life. I kept on the straight and narrow, and while shaving a year after our nuptials, Lisa suddenly appeared in the mirror. That night, I told my bride about the other woman in my life, and she accepted her better than I could ever have imagined. For the next forty-plus years, the three of us got along famously until a year and a half ago when she abandoned Lisa. Why, I have yet to learn. My life with Lisa overnight flipped into the dreaded DADT relationship. When Lisa returned a year after I married, I pledged to never dump her like that again. I'm keeping my promise.
Lisa Ann
@lisadouglas Lisa, I am so sorry how things took such a frustrating turn with your wife. I hope you can find out why and maybe sort things out. Good luck. Hugs Christine
Lisa,
Some of us say "25 years without dressing, then it came back unable to stop". Everybody's different, though. Maybe the testosterone of youth along with having companionship made the difference. Then, we age and the wife does, too, right? Hormones disappear - his & hers, the physical longing simply evaporates, abusive parents die, who knows what happens. Spouses suddenly recognize they're nearing autumn years of life, and ask, "Is this all there is, I gave up everything for this person I married, and this is it?" They forget there was a time they desperately needed that person.
In the USA add in since the 1970's & 1980's, the totally unanticipated appearance of no-fault divorce and social media with that great understanding guy they met online. It can be tough for relationships.
Dani
Like fortunate others, I am able to be at least partially em femme, for hours. Days. Then weeks, and now months. I think the last time I wasn't wearing something of Dani's was 3-4 months ago. In fact, with the cold weather, I'm wearing panties, bra, pantyhose/tights, and a top all the time.
Dani
