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Im often worried that if I put too much information about myself that someone I already know may recognize me. but at the same time that would probably be wonderful. I look at alot of my friends for signs. One I thought may also be CD told me of a CO worker that transitioned and I immediately said is she on HRT?. he then said what the heck is that. I immediately thought ah crap, and back peddled a bit to sound less informed. but that certified I was wrong. As he continued to not be so understanding. Ah well. Has anyone ever discovered someone here that they were already friends with or an old friend that you were both unaware of your feminine selves? Or thanks to a comment from @finallyfiona . Come out to someone in which they replied Me Too !! I bet that would be a good story. Cheers RC
In many cases it might be impossible to tell as many folk here do not post photographs and use aliases and generalisations of locations. It is probably only those who are comfortable with any discovery that would post identifying information -- most especially photographs. If someone I know comes on here and finds photographs of me (which they would) they could hardly go and crow about it elsewhere without having to say how they found out, which might raise many questions about what they were doing here in the first place. I don't worry about being discovered, in fact I might even be a little pleased.
In answer to the direct question though, the answer is no, and very unlikely ever to be yes.
Given that the online car forum I'm an admin of has hundreds if not thousands of active members in a similar age range, and I've met at least a couple of hundred of them, there's a distinct possibility that someone else I know from there is also on here. If so, they could even have met me at this house, which is also recognisable from my public photos. Other than that, it's really only the car model, site name and name of my hometown that stand between me and potentially being outed to the entire car club. I've guarded this information so far in public on here, but I'm aware that at least my location could be guessed by sleuthing through my posts.
That said, this summer it's probably going to have to become an open secret. My best friend will hopefully come to stay for a couple of weeks - he was the first person I came out to, last autumn - who's also from the car club, the resident retro-fitting and electronics guru. During that two weeks I am hosting visits to my driveway by other club members from this end of the country to take advantage of his services, which are normally too far away to travel to. But I am also going to be living here as Fiona 24/7 as far as possible - although not for things like getting down & dirty underneath the cars to swap out rear bumpers! Once we know who's coming on which days for which jobs, I'm planning to let them know by private message about my personal situation and to expect to see someone different, but ask them to continue to address me as usual in posts on the open forum. Since I have no male dysphoria, I can also offer to present as usual if they feel they already know me too well, or would have cultural or religious objections. I'll also let the rest of the forum admin team know. With the genteel and progressive nature of the club, I'm confident that there won't be any huge scandal about it. I'm not sure I'd want to do the same thing on a Facebook group for that car though!
I would love to discover existing friends here, but that's an almost impossible dream, since I am the only Panamanian active in CDH and TGH for my knowledge. I forgot the worry a long time ago. And, since I'm somewhat paranoid, for some time I was gnawed at the idea that someone would identify me and that could affect those I love, not so much me, who has always known how to face life. I think I am strong enough to survive. I have already managed to overcome many struggles during my life. But after analyzing it carefully, I knew that someone would have to go to a lot of trouble just to try to ruin my life and I don't see any logic in that. It would have to be someone with a superfluous, meaningless life to do that. However, I am extremely cautious with photographs. Trauma maybe. I once came close to getting in trouble for a private message pic on another site. Although I think I'm getting over it now. In Harrisburg I agreed to have some photos in which I appeared posted online. Pendejadas mías (it means my nonsense, I guess), like they say in my country.
Gisela
I found a couple friends on here form the other site and have been happy to find them. I've only been dressing since Sep of 22 but it just feels so right, normal and natural to me to be dressing as a woman.
I am also a little bit worried about others discovering me but then I had a thought when I was speaking with my counselor recently. I said if they discover me then why are they looking at this site? I figure they are looking for a CD friend or curious. Either way, I am ok if they find me. My therapist also recently asked me “why don’t I tell others I am a Crossdresser?”. I said because of acceptance and the male dominated jobs I have. They might be homophobic and not accept me. In any event I would be ok if someone discovered me here and ask them “ how did you find me?” -Traci
I wonder sometimes if I know someone on here. Maybe a secret CD or an out-open co-worker who came out as trans. I see screen names that resemble their girl chosen name and I wonder.
I discovered that the site's first managing ambassador, Codille, and I had known each other in real life for many years. I become suspicious when I noticed that several of her posts here matched posts she made on Facebook under her real name. It was really a small world occassion for both of us.
MacKenzie Alexandra