Anyone else frustrated at times ….

I too get frustrated. One for suppressing female side for so many years and for not having the courage to come out and tell my wife about Liara.

Hugs, Liara

Hi Alice,

No, 44 is not too old, it's certainly too young to think 'if only'. Swapping roles with your secretary for instance is something I've never done in life and never will. The last thing I want to do is un-retire ! But you're right in one sense. Life can be frustrating, for any number of reasons.

Marti xxx

Constantly... Mostly by the double standards that allow women to dress in pants, T shirts and sneakers whenever and however they wish, whilst if we CD's put on a dress, a nice  lacy blouse and a pair of heels, that is "wrong".

Same goes for nightwear, they wear pj's and it's Ok, we wear a silky feminine nightie and "the world as we know it" comes crashing down.

Frustrated male me is gunna have another beer and cry in it.

Caty.

Frustration is one of a number of negative emotions I experience related to my gender dysphoria.

The "experts" declare and after 61 years of experience I have come to believe it -  Gender Dysphoria / CDing will not go away.

Thus managing the negatives in a positive manner is the challenge for all of us.

CDH and the support and understanding of those in our community is an excellent management tool I have found.

I suppose that is why at 1:20 AM my time I am here. Knowing that I am able to reach out to, be helped by, and perhaps help others by my presence here really helps lower the frustration of not being able to sleep in panties and a nightie.

Hugs,

Charlene

Alice.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing!!!...there's not many who can look back and not think, gosh, why didn't I do that???

Try telling a crossdressing pensioner/ retired girl that 44 is too late!!!!!

Be optimistic, look forward not back and make the most of what you have now........while you still have it!!!

Huggs, grace xx

Hi Alice.
In my opinion, life itself is a constant frustration, little, or big. We cannot change the past, so I don't stress over it, I just live my life and make the changes necessary to move forward as emotionally comfortably as I possibly can. I am lucky, in that I can be and am, Regine full time except at work, so I am not quite in the same boat as you.
However, I began this journey at 63, so, you are in no way too old at 44, I never wish what if, in any situation, never have, as I said, what was, was, and what is is.
Hugs, Regi👸💖

I agree with Caty about the double standards as far as our wives can wear my shirt but if I wear her blouse to the supermarket, all hell is let loose. I thank my lucky stars that after 36 years of marriage I can now dress whenever I like ( the rules seem to be lessening). The biggest frustration is it took that long for Katie to be accepted and now I’m on the wrong side of 60.

The past is truly something to learn from, so use it and move on. Enjoy what you have now as these days will also soon be in the past.

You do realise that your role-swap forms the basic plot for half the stories on Fictionmania?

You lucky devil.

Connie

xxx

Definitely get frustrated at times when the desire is there and the opportunity is not.

Unfortunately I'm unable to dress openly or often at moment. At 44 you have ample time to explore your feminine side. Just needs you to take it further which is not always easy depending on your situation.

Alice,
It’s hard not to have regrets, but it’s better and healthier to have a glass-half-full attitude. Drink up the future! 😘

Much love,
Raquel

Hi Alice!

I got femme-deep at 56: lingerie, fine hosiery, LBDs, stilletos, mascara (even in boy mode), lipstick, you name it. And, best of all, I look 30 years younger! (imho... .)

Looking forward to the rest of my life!

Hugs, Barb 👠

HI Alice

I do get frustrated at times I didn't discover patty sooner (in my early fifties),but I am thankful I did discover and enjoy my femme side

Huggs Patty

Hi Alice. Frustration and regret is common stock in the CD world so don't feel alone at all. Glad you got to go dressed enfemme for Halloween. I know it was a thrill and a lot of fun. Now think about how you can work that into your daily life without causing problems. There are many things we can do stealthy and have that connection to our fem side.

Speaking of Halloween. We're going to a friends Halloween party Sunday and I asked the wife if I should go as Michelle and she said... "No, that would be too obvious." On second thought, these are our friends and there would be too many questions. Maybe I'll go as a devil.