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Hello ladies , We've all read numerous post from our members of those who really bit the bullet and kicked down the door by having the courage to go enfemme dressed to the nines to a high school or college reunion. I personally know of several not on this board. Their comment was “ they all thought it was great!”. I’m skeptical and believe he was in a euphoric state of thick pink fog…believing what he thought was true and wanted to believe 🤔
But there is another side of the coin here.I’ve never read any posts from CDs who later kicked themselves and wished they hadn’t 😔. So if you yourself or someone you know had a disastrous experience with lasting repercussions and long years from now memories from classmates when 20 years from now they look back at those pictures and point out “now this guy came to our reunion dressed as a woman!” 😗 Now let’s hear your true stories!
No. Hated my HS. Never went to any reunions. But I fantasized. OTT outfit makeup and hair. A few martinis. Lipstick on a few necklines and collars. Get told to leave. Perfect!
/EA
Like Emily I also did not have a good High School experience and have never returned.
YES YES YES. Love this reply so much Emily! <3
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Ellie x
Like both of you I had no use for my 20th high school reunion 😡 But that was back in 1985, and things were a lot more conservative and prejudiced back then. Now my 50th college reunion from Art College was a total blast and memorable, together were classmates of the same interest and artistic mindset. Went drab though.
Meghan
I have never been to a school reunion. One opportunity was about twenty years ago but I couldn't go and would have considered going dressed.
I did have a reunion of friends I have known for over forty years, none of whom I was at school with but got to know them in the couple of years outside of school before leaving . No one knew of my other self until a couple were told about ten years ago, I told the rest two years ago and I went dressed to the reunion and everyone was great as we relived some of our times together over the years.
I skipped my 10-year high school reunion. I did not have a good time in high school, and I have very few friends from those years. Too many people I just did not want to see again, and going alone into a potentially hostile environment seemed like a really bad idea especially with my anxiety when it comes to being alone in crowded spaces (sadly, I passed on the one chance I had to have a friend come along with me, mistakenly thinking she was just suggesting it to be nice and didn't really mean it -- turns out she kinda had a crush on me at the time and I'm just totally oblivious to such things and didn't find out until a year later after it had faded.)
My 20-year reunion is coming up next year. I don't know yet if I'll make an attempt to go to that one yet, but the thought of going as Vanessa never crossed my mind.
Just the idea of going to a high school reunion to begin with is scary enough already. But going dressed-up and serving people I hated -- but who have thankfully been absent from my life for decades at this point -- a shiny new thing to harass me about on a silver platter? No thanks!
Only way I can imagine this being any fun is if Vanessa "crashes" the reunion. Just shows up, nobody knows who the heck this girl is or where she came from or how she got there (who is she? did someone bring her as a guest? does anyone know her??), and before anyone even comes close to guessing the truth she disappears mysteriously. The idea of confusing the hell out of my high school classmates and having them talking about Vanessa (without ever knowing that yes, they did in fact go to school with her! sort of) for years to come aaaalmost has me considering it as a possibility... but I imagine I'd have a crippling anxiety attack if I even made an attempt at actually doing it, and whether it would be even halfway possible really depends on when and where they decide to have the reunion (outdoors during daylight hours? nope nope nope. indoors after dark? maybe...) and whether people can just show up and walk right in unopposed or if they have to give their name/ID or say they came with someone to get in. Having skipped the 10-year, I don't know anything about how that might work.
After reading the other posts and thinking abut my reunion last year I think maybe going to a reunion before 20 or 30 years might be a problem. If I were going to a 10 year reunion as Cassie we all would have been under 30 and closer to being kids yet and high school kids can be VERY mean. When I went to my 50th reunion last year we were all so much more mature and more relaxed and forgiving?? I think??
. Cassie
I have gone to all of mine. But I mostly enjoyed school and the people attending. I did notice walls came down after the 30'th with the 40'th being impressionable to me that everyone seemed to be very respectful of each other. That was encouraging. But I am far too chicken to go as Michelle. But I am sure some would be ok, but others would not.
I won't say I had a bad time in high school, but I can't say I was really close to anyone except my ex whom I met in HS. They had an event for an anniversary of the school a few years ago. My ex went, but I wasn't particularly interested, even going drab. I don't think I'd have gone en femme. There was something else planned a few years ago; my ex wanted to go and I didn't really care. But COVID cancelled that event.
The HS was a special school with a non-competitive attitude, so there were no teams or events to attend. The school was also open to enrollment from people outside the neighborhood. So I rarely did things outside of school. My siblings went to the HS down the block from us, whereas I went to this other HS.
As for college, I was in a commuter's college, so again there was little interaction with others outside of class, labs, or free time. I never heard of any reunion (this year would have been 45 years). And since the college no longer exists as a stand-alone entity (it was bought out by another school), going to the reunion of the other school would mean I wouldn't know anybody nor them me. So again I'd be really unlikely to go, no matter if it was male or female mode. It would be an opportunity to go en femme since no one would know me anyway, but I don't think I'd do it. There's no need to share that part of myself with them.
Idk I wouldn’t say I had a horrible time in high school but it wasn’t amazing. My 20th reunion is next year. I still talk to a few people from high school but none of them are interested in going. I thought about it but I don’t think I’ll be going.
Disastrous results , no. Fun at those I went to. The more years, the more folks were willing to mingle outside of their high school circles and be kinder. I never went as Connie and won't for our 50th.
Gee, I've only told one alum - we dated several times in high school - and that "tell" was a literal slip of my fingers in forwarding an order update email meant for myself. 😳. She didn't reply except for "I think this was for you. ??." Anyway, I'll stay with Connie presentations at Ladies socials and galas and "the public" when I go out dressed.
I went to an all boys catholic high school and hated every minute of it. No thought of ever going back but I like Emily's idea of going incognito and causing a ruckus.
I went to one high school reunion a long time ago. I skipped the 45th reunion last year. I don’t have any connections to my high school fellow students. I don’t even know if my best male friend from high school is still alive. The fantasy of going to a reunion en femme is just that. It would be a fantasy. However, one strong memory is being a sophomore wrestler and wishing I could be a cute blond cheerleader in a pleated skirt. That was a strong feeling I’ll never forget.
Kerri
I think every CD here including me has a fantasy of being a Cheerleader 📣 or an Airline Stewardess from the 50’s or 60’s
