Are crossdresser transgender??

Hi Cara

Just my opinion but I don’t think what we choose to wear necessarily affects our gender. Maybe I’m oversimplifying something some may with to complicate but personally my gender is and always will be male. Don’t mean to offend anybody it’s just I know what I am!

❤️B

Many people confuse the term transgender with the term transexual. While a transexual is a transgender, a transgender is not necessarily a transexual.

Transgender is a blanket term. It covers every aspect of the gender spectrum. Transexuals, Drag Performers, Crossdressers (Transvestites), Fetishists, and every other imaginable variation that involves blurring gender norms.

As a crossdresser, are you transgender? In a word, YES!

Anyone who 'transitions' (once permanently or multiple times) between genders is transgender. The tricky bit is that one who goes through the anatomical and physiological process (HRT, RLE, GRS, FFS, etc.) and has completed the process is now wholly and solely that gender and so are no longer transgender. Just men or women.

Another tricky bit is the application of the terminology to, for example, performers. 'Female impersonators' for example adopt femininity as part of their showmanship and not necessarily as an expression of their personality. Even so, they still 'transition', if for different and differing motives. Actors who wear clothing as a part of the central plot present an alternate gender, so I suppose could be included in a general way.

That's the problem. While 'transgender' initially had specific applications the term is actually too general to be applied to any one case, or to any limited situations. On the other hand, also in a general sense, it is usually meant to have relatively specific connotations. The result has been that some people see being transgender as being some sort of scale but the differences between situations are far too specific to validate that assumption.

Simply wearing clothing defined as feminine or masculine does not necessarily reflect a transition.

Araminta.

Araminta: beautifully said.  I enjoyed reading it several times and still puts me in deep thoughts  thinking of  so many journeys we could be experiencing.

Stephanie 🌷

I have to agree there's a wide latitude as to what is transgender, as much as labels are. That's the problem with them, once one starts to think it through, then the label doesn't fit, so then what am I?

I have gone through a similar dilemma, as we seems to important to many to know what we are.

When I am dressed en femme, and especially out and about, I do think of myself as a transwoman. As I am presenting as female, and I really become Amy. I know I'm the same person no matter what I wearing, but I find I can truly get into character, as it were. Rather than if I'm just trying on some clothes I just got.

Curious difference, but for me its' real, that's when I'm transgender.

Amy

Cara,

I think you are addressing the difference between gender and sex (which seems to be a controversial topic).  I can say that I'm definitely a CD, and socially (in my head and heart) trans.  But with neither hormones nor surgery, my sex remains male, or if you prefer, GM.  Whereas, those who have gone the whole trans route, are now females, although not GGs; because DNA and most skeletal structural differences cannot be altered.

And I think that perhaps we worry too much about all of that.

Hugs,

Betylou

Hi Bianca im in same boat with you girlfriend I was born male and will pass away male but I would not trade my female feelings for anything there in my heart mind and sole so I love trying to dress the part of my other half as Stephanie she brings me joy and comfort which cant be replaced . Im a crossdresser I don't feel anything past that  and thanks for letting me vent I needed that girlfriend .Hugs andkisses

Stephanie Bass

Hi Cara. It is an interesting topic.

I think crossdresser and transgender ain't the same. Life ain't that easy.You can be one. You can be both. Perhaps most crossdressers aren't transgender.  I refuse to label myself. Labels are a burden on most occasions. Labels are a drag.

Even though I am a crossdresser long after I became aware I should have born a woman. I didn't know then that transgerderism exist. So I learned to live my way and I've tried to be as happy as possible. I have met many transgender who experience it in different ways and I would be unable to critize them. I respect their point of view as it should be.  I love to wear feminine clothes and I feel I am a woman although I have no plans for transition right now.

I can tell I wouldn't trade my life with nobody. I have a pleasant life. Let us be free and love. Maybe one day we will wake up in a more understanding and empathetic world.

Gisela 💄

I think it depends on with whom you are speaking about the subject.  If you consider transgender a sort of spectrum of different levels there are many things that fall in that category.  Then there are folks that have gone through probably horrible experiences in their feelings of being born in the wrong body and consider transgender to be solely their description.  I haven’t experienced it, but have heard of out right hostility of those folks on crossdressers, which I guess if your life experience is awful enough is understandable, sort of a, you haven’t and won’t experience what I have line of thinking.

I would think one would want as many people on their side as possible to help effect any societal changes that should come about, but that’s just me.  I should say I think there are many that also view it as a spectrum from both sides of that coin.  I could be totally wrong though, just basing that off of what I have seen.

Yes, a xder / CDer is person who on occasion dresses in the opposite gender's attire for fun.

A transgender is a person who really feels he or she is trapped in the opposite gender's body. I fall into that group since early childhood I had many more girls as friends, my best friend from 1st grade thru 7th grade was my next door neighbor daughter 2 months younger. We walked three blocks to and from school together. One day just after 2nd grade started she asked to play with her in her new play house her dad had just building.  Isaid okay Karen let me tell my mom first you go home first I'll follow it my mom says okay, it was a hot Friday I had on seersucker shorts and a tshirt,   and sneakers mom says okay as long as you're home by 6pm. It's now 330pm. I walk to Karen's backyard play house she there she says let's have girls teaparty,  she's in a frilly SUNDAY school outfit. Shiny Black shoes, says to attend a Girls teaparty Jammie you should be dressed as girl , here try on this old pair my SUNDAY school shoes, they fit me well  but a little b bit tight then she great now pull on this old School dress of mine over your head with its buttons on ur back my mom dresses me on Sunday morning,  then me button u p just as my mom does. Now pull on my old SUNDAY school petticoat underneath the dress skirt to complete the look. Then twirl around twice to fluff up the petticoat to make the dress stand out wide,  then takes my hand says now Jamie's a girl we can have our teaparty. We finish teaparty after 30 minutes Karen says okay how about take turns playing on my swing next thing I know the wind from swing is blowing the dress skirt and down as I sat on swing. Then her mother came out Karen where is Jamie his mom called said time he was home. Karen says Jamie is here on the swing wearing my old SUNDAY school outfit we had a girls teaparty thus he should be dressed as a Girl mommy. Doesn't Jamie look nice as a Girl I always wanted twin sisters just like friends Susan and Nancy they are twin sisters. Her mom says yes Jamie does look stunning as a young girl, did u dress him no mommy just button up the back button after telling how to put the dress on just as utold me

Okay Karen playtime is over its 530 I call his mom back to say he will be home in 15 minutes both u come in I want a photo of both of you. Then I will help take the dress off I'm sure his mother doesn't want him wearing a dress at home. But if you want over after breakfast for few hours. But he won't be able to wear your dress tomorrow as we have to be somewhere by 1PM. So he needs go home by 11am.

What happened that afternoon is another interesting story why consider myself being transgendered Girl trapped in a man's body

Sounds like a good life to me, Bobbi.  I'm happy for you.

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Bobbie,

How brave u are,

Hi Cara That is totally up to you. Only you can define yourself. That takes time  and a little honesty with your self. You are asking the right questions now find the answer using honesty as the base.  Luv Stephanie

Cara, Stephanie is sooo right on this.  Only you can determine where/who you are and want to be in your life.  There are now so many labels and compartments and boxes that we put ourselves in or other people do it for us without our permission, it is hard to keep everything straight.  You can be a crossdresser and be straight, or bi or gay.  You can also be a crossdresser and not transgender, and even be transgender but not in transition, etc.  It can be so confusing it will make you crazy if you let it.

Just be you, that's all that is needed.  Be happy with yourself and how far you have come and look forward to moving even further in your journey.  Don't let other people lump you in somewhere where you won't or can't be happy within yourself.  This is your path of discovery.

PaulaF