Being a crossdresser has shown me how hard it is to be a woman.

Jessica..

I agree....it is hard trying to look good most of the time...sometimes the temptation to " go slob" for a day or two is there for real....

...the trouble is, the temptation to look pretty always beats it for me!!...

I do admire the GG's.....just for being themselves....after all, they are our role models.

Just my opinion,

Grace xx

Hi Jessica When reading your post I was thinking along the lines of Eileen Our male side has spent a life time learning what is expected of us. Most here are able to provide, protect and perform as expected without any issues. GGs have their role and are happy doing it at least my wife makes it look easy but without a doubt it is not easy. Unfortunately I had to learn the hard way My wife was diagnose with breast cancer and went through all the necessary surgeries and re construction process. We just took custody of my 3 young grandchildren ages 8,13 14 OMG These boys inhale food and they are growing like a weed. What ever plans i had with my wife about retiring are out the window and any plans I had with CDing more in the house were out the window also. I will say I learned so much about what a woman and a mother does for a family.I Could never replace the love and openness she has. Its so natural it makes me crazy. I do all the hard stuff I believe, the shopping,cleaning cooking and cleaning she manages to keep track of all the sizes of each of the boys and she notices everything about them. She knows when they are sad, sick, happy she just stairs at them with her cute smile and they know they are loved. Its a feeling she gives off and they gather around her like the old lady in the shoe but she knows what to do. We can only emulate what we see. The true essence of a woman comes from the heart and that is very difficult to emulate because it is always changing. I am still trying to understand WHY am trying to be something I am not . I know in my heart I will never get there but for some reason I still want to try. We are a very cute unpredictable bunch of people that is for sure. I wish you much love good health and safety.

Luv Stephanie

Ok, I hit the "Thanks" button but I've just got to type it out:

Thank you Eileen.  You are a treasure!

💕Lola

Very well stated Jessica. Shortly after I came out to my wife, she asked the question "what are the chances you will eventually want to live fully as a woman?"
My answer was slim to none because: 1. I love the life I have and I don't want that to change and 2. I don't think I'm tough enough to be a woman!
💕Lola

This is a way better post than it immediately appears.
I have gone out dressed and I can pass from 20 feet away from twilight hours on but...
I still found myself thinking ahead about where I would park, is there a safe path to walk...
Plus, getting ready to go out takes HOURS!
I keep my body shaved and hairless so any shaving is no more hassle than any woman would go through. Even at that rate it IS a lot of work.
Men don't have to do anything but throw on some trousers and a shirt, make sure there's no lettuce stuck in your teeth and out the door.
Even to go out formal, shirt tie jacket make sure your shoes are at least clean if not shiny, and away you go.
We go out formally several times a year (covid lockdowns notwithstanding).
We go out mostly for military events but also a few civilian events. In any case it never takes me more than 30 minutes tops even if its a uniform event. I can dress, get my tie or bow tie perfect, get my medals/ribbons straight and give my shoes an inspection level shine all in 30 minutes, taking even that long means I was distracted.
Ladies need a lot longer. As well as the extra daily maintenance they go through keeping themselves ready for daily life.
My wife will begin getting ready no later that 3 PM if we are to be at cocktails for 6 PM.
I will start to dress at 5 PM if its a 30 minute drive to get there by 6 PM.
Jessica, very astute observation.

Hi Jessica, an excellent post.
My wife began a lifelong journey through hospitals, in her early 20's, and as well as being the castle minder, I also had to jump in as the surrogate mother to our 2 young sons, It was a role my dear love seemed to perform effortlessly, and always with so much love and knowledge. I had to learn so much, and each day i visited her, I had a list of "what do I do here"?
I did get the job done, but gained so much respect for her ways, and responsibilities, i could never forget, and hence, she has been on a pedestal in my heart, to never fall.
one cute instance, I could follow her recipes for anything, but it was just never the same, for my kids, until she sent me home with a tiny treasure pail, full of 'Magic Mom's Love". Suddenly, my meals, to them, were delicious, lol, and I used that dust, for years.
Hugs, Regi👸💕