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Must ask and please all be honest I’m really considering getting my belly pierced but my SO says that’s way to fem and unacceptable and that she would lose finding me attractive that she can deal with the dressing but that is going to fare is it really that fem to have it done am I just crazy I’m lost i honestly didn’t see an issue but don’t want to cause problems between use my SO knows about my dressing dose not accept but understand and allows it so I don’t know confused 🫤 maybe I am crazy what’s anyone thoughts be open regardless I completely understand thank you all
@erinb I think I am right in this but maybe not. I read that belly button wounds can be hard to heal and subject to infection, so I would consult a couple of independent MDs before going ahead.
I think it is very fem but it is your body.
Best, Marlene.
@marleneroberts Hi I'm Suzi, And I have used Clip-on Belly Rings.
They are cute and If you don't wear them too long they are comfortable.
Also if they don't seem comfortable at first wear it for a short time them take it off.
Temu and Schein has them at a reasonable. If you get a irritation the spot with alcohol.
Thanks, Suzi H
@suzih711 Hi Suzi. I did "thank" but on reflection I thought I should "reply" to better acknowledge your kind comment and recommendations. Best, Marlene.
@erinb Hey Erin, look, I'm completely closetted and would never consider a belly piercing (or probably even ears), but it seems strange if your SO knows about your crossdressing that she would have a problem with this. Hope you manage to find a satisfactory resolution to this hun xx.
@chrisfp99 she knows about my crossdressing yes indeed still dose not accept but she allows when I’m able to she says it’s cause I can take my clothes off and put them back in a box and not be seen but a belly ring well ya it’s always there
Sorry but I did ask about my ears being pierced and she said cause it’s normal that men know a days have there ear pierced and yes she knows why I had mine done
@erinb Are clip on belly button rings a possibility? I have no idea if they are any good or not.
If you are comfortable flaunting your midriff, a belly button ring would be very feminine and add a little bling. I don't have the belly for it so I would never consider it for myself.
@sophie85 have to look into that myself could be an alternative for sure thanks
@erinb yes do this first. We often project and forward ourselves in conversation with SO without them. Take SMALL STEPS! Here’s what I did: I said that I love belly rings. Would you wear one for me? She asks “Pierced?” I said no, clip on. Answer was no and no if pierced. I offered and asked. She relented and said okay. Found some rings that twist-bend to stay on… this pushed with pressure and after a month of having it on, it pushed through ( hid that part) and took it out after a week and salt water soaks. If you get normal clip time, After a few months of it coming off, say “this would stay on if it just pushed through” and maybe you’ll make progress. I’d offer piercing it only temporarily and in house only. Offer something nice for her. Wife wont go for me pierced yet (can’t hide it really so I don’t hold it against the situation or her) but I got from nothing to a clip ring to having dangles (“this would be better if I could feel it more” I said) and I can push it through for a week at a time if I want. I can wear the clip ring ANY time now. Good Luck!
@coloradog1 Yeah, you definitely have to take care of it. I found that out the hard way in 1997 when I had one. I used to work out a lot and swim and I’m pretty sure getting in that swimming pool with all those chemicals and other people being in it advanced the infection a lot lol.
I had to use a pair of vice grips to get the ring out it was so infected. It was oozing yellow pus for a while lol.
Fortunately, I don’t have much of a scar, but the outside of the hole is still there. I talked to a piercer about it who is quite reputable and he said most of the time it’s not a big deal to redo it, but he would have to see it to know for sure. I’m definitely going to get it redone. I had to get an MRI on my knee Couple months ago and I wanted to hold off because I knew it would have to come out when I got it.
But I’m for sure going to go talk to that guy soon. I don’t have a flat stomach, but it’s flat-ish lol. I think they look good. Even on the big girls. 😊😁
@juststevie I held off due to swimming says it take 6-8 months to heel that doesn’t sound pleasant at all thanks for the reply terrible it didn’t work out the first time sounds painful hopefully the second time will do better
@reneea ouch I here that is painful thought about that as well sorry to hear you had complications with the belly ring
i have a male friend, not CD, that has small bar bells in his nipples. I would thing it would be painful getting it done. Best, Marlene.
@erinb Only you can gauge your situation and decide what is the best thing to do based on the circumstances. It is great that your ears are pierced in any event. Cute earrings are absolutely a feminine differentiator.
It's definitely something I have always wanted to do but I just haven't gotten around to it. I'm really not sure what is holding me back...... For me it is totally cute and so feminine.
@lauren114 thank you from what I’m gathering and thank you all my SO is right don’t tell her I said that but yes indeed it’s definitely a fem pricing
Hi Erin,
Honestly, I get the impression that your wife is supportive. If that’s the case why on earth would you want to rock the boat? Most of the girls here would give anything to have a supportive wife myself included. And sadly for most of us it will never happen. My advice would be “leave well enough alone”.
Trish ❤️
@trish1980 thank you unfortunately she not that supportive she honestly don’t want anything to do with it but when able she accepts and allows if that makes sense
@erinb did I read that you have your ears pierced? Mind explosion! Poof! To me, this is the ultimate feminine expression. It’s PUBLIC. the belly ring is not! I think it’s funny how females see studs okay, but large hoops and dangles as fem. Truly laughable! My SO is same (nothing to do with it) but I have managed certain things forward.
@erinb l will answer this by explaining how my wife and l go about my crossdressing, l am allowed to shave my body on the condition that l don't shave my chest. The reasoning behind this according to my wife is she married a man and l respect that, l crossdress twice a week and my wife is fine with that. If you truly love your wife then you need to meet her halfway and that means if she sets reasonable limits than you need to respect those limits.
@candycross thank you for sharing very to and understanding thank you for the reply
@erinb For what it's worth. There is a couple of posts made after this one about taking The Mile when offered an inch.
Just my thought, I would do what makes your SO happy on this issue. She is giving you so much in other ways. You just can't have it all your way without doing damage to the relationship.
@robertaf indeed completely understand definitely don’t want that thank you
@erinb the belly button piercing is one of the hardest piercings to heal, prone to infection.
but if I can recommend a piercing, nipple the healing time is fast , and have a neutral look could be feminine or masculine. Both of my nipples are pierced and I have had zero problems
Abigail
@abby24 interesting 🤔 I can see that tho do they affect wearing breast forms I be concerned that they possibly could damage the silicone
@abby24 interested indeed no spikes lol 😂 check only other concern is I hear there painful to get done
@erinb I did not find it that bad it’s over fast , most likely first jewelry will be bars ( a little bit long to allow for swelling, then after hearing is done you can change to rings or bars that are shorter)
pm me if you have any questions
You do see alot of them around. But I'm not a fan of them. My guess I'm traditional in that the only piercings I'm okay with is one per ear period.
Call me old fashioned. It goes for tattoos as well. Not a fan. Especially when someone has a gorgeous complexion. It detracts from their beauty. My cis friend said she wanted a tattoo when she was younger. What changed her mind was when she worked as a nurse in a nursing home and saw older people's shrunken tattoos. Yuck 🤮
Sorry to stray off topic. But keeping the peace at home is more important than a some navel bling. Well that's my 2 cents worth! 🥰
@gafran agreed. It’s not traditional or old. Singles are elegant and more attractive to me too.
@erinb My guess is that a pierced belly button is an external manifestation of your femme self, one that would be present even when you are not dressed. One that friends and family will notice.
While she allows you to dress privately she (most likely) objects something that becomes public.
@erinb im going to say something crazy. En homme i never walk belly out, do you? If you dont it should be fine to do a belly button ring. It sounds like it will make you happy and the only one you need to keep in kind when doing stuff that makes you happy is you! You can do this, girl!
@crazycynthia also feel that it would betray my SO thoughts and emotions as well so not really sure if it’s good idea thank you
I find belly button jewelry attractive. I've thought about it. But I seriously doubt I'll get a piercing there. I don't wear midriff baring clothes. The constant rubbing would be irritating. For me, it's more trouble than it's worth.
To each their own. If you want to wear belly button jewelry, go for it.
/LK
Alrighty lady’s i apologize for this form coming across again but just wanted to update you all. Just received my clip on belly rings
first it was a pain in the butt to get on and situated in the right spot
second kinda pinches at first till it’s situated meaning when I would bend over or sit I could feel it pulling
third most thing after all that I do have to say it’s absolutely amazing 🤩 love it 😍 and it’s not permanent so no harm done I would recommend clip on if any lady’s would like to have there belly button faked pierced you can buy them cheap of Amazon take care lady's
Hi Erin,
No you're not crazy, but your SO is right having you belly button pierced is very feminine, at this time it might be a step to far, I think you should just let her think about it for awhile and see what she says in a few months time she may have a change of heart and say it's ok to get it done X
Hugs Rozalyn X 🤗
Hi Erin, don't you know they are always right even when they are not right, it's part of the game they play they let you think that you are right sometimes and then they switch it around so you don't know whether you are coming or going, hugs Rozalyn X 🤗
@rozalyne yes the $#!+ tests! Doomed to fail! Don’t answer is how to beat them. Don’t crumble. This means to answer like a politician… bla blah but they don’t have a definitive anything to gain power over you. Guys, this whole female dominance thing of today needs to stop. Equals are equals. This means power shall not be had by one side, preventing our hobby for example to oppressing them. Be nice and communicate. It is complicated. I don’t expect a girl to be attracted to fem anything so keep this in mind. I need to write a book on this disservice how feelings aren’t coupled to sex ed because this is where it starts.
I’ve cross dressed since I was about eight years old, but I’ve never went out of my way to present as feminine. In the late 90s, I trained in martial arts and I was in really good shape and had a nice flat stomach. I got my bellybutton pierced And later, even my tongue. I did indeed do it because I thought it was feminine, but I met several guys when I lived in Las Vegas, who had their bellybutton pierced. These were masculine guys. Masculine guys that presented as guys and didn’t look femme at all.
Mine ended up getting infected, and I had to take it out. I’m planning on doing it again. I’m going to go and talk to the piercing guy and have him take a look at the old piercing site and see what he thinks about redoing it. It doesn’t feel like there’s significant scar tissue there, but you can still see where the hole was.
I definitely think can look feminine and it’s really hot, especially with feminine looking jewelry. You could go with something much more subtle that would not appear very feminine. A lot of men have piercings these days.
My partner is very accepting and she doesn’t have any issues with it fortunately. The healing process is tricky though and you need to take care of it and keep it dry and don’t do things that would irritate it or get infected.
I think with a standard ring or a regular bar, it can have a unisex look to it. You can definitely get really feminine jewelry and I will probably get some middle of the road to start with at least until it heals up.
That’s the tough thing if your wife has issues with stuff like this. It might cause a lot more. I could confidently argue that it is a unisex type of piercing, but ultimately you’ll have to decide whether or not it’s worth a rift and keeping the peace.
@juststevie thank you truly definitely a hard decision truly thank you for the response back
@erinb I’m sorry I edited it right after I wrote it. I kept thinking of things to add lol.
You could do a quick Internet search and show your wife that lots and lots of masculine men have piercings these days. Everywhere lol.
at the same time, though, keeping the peace is priority number one. It could be an instance of better to seek forgiveness than ask permission, but the last thing you want is her flipping out about it. Especially if she is tolerant of your dressing and doesn’t demand you stop.
Maybe approach her on the tact that many men get piercings and don’t push too much and see if she may be negotiable on it. Of course, she knows why you want it though lol. That makes it kind of hard.
i’m glad you get your ears pierced. I finally broke down and did mine a year ago. Lots and lots of men have both ears pierced these days so most people won’t even give you a second look. I’ve since got another set right above the first ones. I really want to get one on the top of my ear, but the Cartlidge is a painful piercing that takes a while to heal. I think a little ring on the top of the ear on women looks super hot though. Ultimately, I’ll probably do it lol
I wish you the best with it😊
S.
@juststevie thanks I will have to do some research maybe I can talk her in to it inappropriate the replies dearly
I wouldn’t mine doing another ear piercing that definitely sounds interesting for sure sorry I forgot to add to last message
@erinb yeah, you’ll just have to see what happens. Maybe you will get a good opportunity and she may be favorable under the right circumstances.
I wish I would’ve gotten my ears pierced a long time ago, but I’m glad I did it. That and getting real women’s glasses in my own prescription upped the game for me big time. I think those two things really enhance the way I look and feel when I’m dressed up.
Especially the glasses
Good luck with it post up how you make out☺️
@juststevie thank you for the reply your reply is so touching as well I’m so glad for you it’s amazing what little things besides outfits bras and panties and everything else that makes use feel like a lady hopefully makes sense if not I apologize hugs 🤗
@erinb Oh, you definitely make sense. I’ve come to find that the accessories really make the outfit. All of the little extras. A purse or handbag, earrings or other jewelry, glasses and now that fall is here, coats, scarves, hats and definitely boots lol
I could say over the last year I really refined my style and I’ve come to love accessorizing everything I wear.
if you’ve seen any of my pictures, you will notice I have a lot of tattoos lol. The big block on my left arm. I would really like to cover up and I’m thinking about doing something feminine. A lot of guys do flowers these days so I don’t think it would look too wild, but I really don’t care lol. it would probably be expensive though. I could imagine into thousands of dollars if I based it on the last professional one I had done which was also a cover-up.
i’ve seen some gals on the site that have some really pretty tattoos that are very feminine. I really like the contrast myself Between my masculine, tattoos and feminine clothing.
Sorry to go off the rails lol. I hope you can convince your wife to let you get the piercing. But I also understand that it’s important to keep the peace. Nobody wants to be miserable at home. I’ve definitely been there and done that more than once lol 😊
@juststevie we shall see I’m have a gut feeling it’s a definite NO lol 😂 good luck on the tat I also wanted a few more but the price is insane today
@erinb Yeah, I’ll be hoping for a miracle for you lol😁
You never know…..
Tattoos are straight up ridiculously priced now. I will have to look into it, but for that kind of money I would probably rather spend it on a lot of other things first lol
I wish you the best of luck Erin. I hope it works out.
If i could have my belly button pierced i wouldn't have it done yet as I've got a bit of a spare tyre round my waist and i don't think it would look nice at all, I've lost a bit of my weight with the diet I've been on but i need to lose some more and start exercising to tone up my abs so it's a lot flatter,
Hugs Roz X
As my so says. It’s your body, do what you want. It’s hard to do that with dressing but if I was younger I would definitely consider it
@staciebobacie is my body but could lead to consequences thank you for the reply hugs 🤗
This post brought back a ton of memories... Isabel used to have her belly button pierced before Isabel was fully formed. Unfortunately she no longer does - but I'd probably be worried about catching it on a dress or something if I did!
Was it an early sign that I was different that I didn't recognise at the time? Maybe.
Thanks for the memories xx xx
@isabelcross definitely is concerning catching on something hopefully it was good memories thank you for the reply
If you love your wife and she say's no then I would hold off for a few months and ask again later, she might change her mind. If you go ahead and do it now, you might just end up alone, but you do you. You don't always get what you want but you get what you need. Good luck
Lacy
...just my opinion, to me navel piercings are a definite touch of extreme femininity. You often see a lot of younger trans girls with them, which is okay as they're living as women. I am a transitioned intersex female, living and working 24/7 as a woman. I've thought about it but that's as far as it went, LOL, that part of my body would do it no justice at this stage of my life...that's why we wear shapewear, LOL
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
@reallylauren thank you for the reply hope everything going well for you thats gota be more exciting then a belly ring so happy for ya 🤗
I have used the Clip-On Belly Rings and they are fun. The problem is getting them to stay in and they start to hurt after a few hours. If you get irritated at that spot put some rubbing alcohol on it. Also keep the rings clean and wipe alcohol on the ring before putting it on. Temu and Schein and Amazon have them. Very inexpensive.
SuziH
I have often thought about having a belly ring that is so feminine. The problem is I love high waisted jeans so I know it would rub and cause problems during the healing process.
@shelly-lynn thank you for the reply definitely would not be a good thing to cause issues with the heeling
unisex, intended for use by both males and females, I have not got a belly ring, but nipples and ears piercings
@leslienix thank you how bad was the nipples to get done if you don’t mind me asking I hear there painfully
@erinb Everyone's pain tolerance varies, I just felt a brief pinch, the main thing is to go to a professional piercer for hygiene and after care, it can take about 3 to 6 months to heal
She's right, it's far to femme. I've thought about it for years now but have hesitated for that very reason. Like any ear piercing it would need to remain in for healing which if the same would be about 6 weeks. It would need to come out any time those not in the know are around like summer and swimming.
If there is a clip on alternative then try that, I might just do it. Don't sacrifice love for a temporary item like this. It's not that important.
@cherylt so true i do believe on Amazon they do sell clip ons I checked Walmart and they don’t sell anything like that
My wife is supportive to a point, if I feel she might get upset or might not understand I will talk with her. After we talk if she says ain't no way then that's it. Will not rock the boat been happily married for thirty-two years.
My wife was always against me getting my ears pierced. I wanted it fine for many years. One Saturday morning a couple of years ago, we were lying in bed and she asked if it had any plans for the day. I said that I didn't. She then said "I thought we could go into town and get your ears pierced". This shocked me. It came from nowhere. She was always risky against it. That afternoon, I was proudly wearing a gold stud in each ear. I now have a very large connection if earrings.
Roll forward 18 months. I mentioned to my wife that if like to have a second set of piercings in my ears so that I could wear two earrings in each ear. One dangler, one stud.. she went bonkers!!!! No way. If ok had it done, she'd have a tattoo.... I hate tattoos! She doesn't want a tattoo, but she'd do it to pss me off. Absolutely dead against having a second set. I don't understand the logic behind this objection, but it's very deep rooted. I broached it again a week or so ago. She didn't speak to me so night!!!!.
Sometimes it's best to be happy with what you have. My wife is fully supportive. I practically live as Cerys these days, but my wife does have limits. I'll stick to them as I know how lucky I am!
Cerys
@dazzler thanks for sharing and so true unfortunately my wife don’t support my CD so things that are permanent that are fem is completely out
@dazzler Mine just asked why when I had my second piercing in my ears. I told her I like the look of studs and something dangly when dressed. She said, yeah, that is a nice look.
Only 2 people ever asked about the doubles. One a boss and the company rules prohibited wearing more than one pair (male or female) so I told him that's why I didn't. He dropped it. Another was a coworker and she just asked what I wear in the empties.
@cherylt never thought of doubles myself nor where would I place them interesting tho
That could be interesting.
Actually I'd rather have my nipples pierced, but only if I had real breasts. Still Dreaming ...
@cherylt thought about that myself never have I hear there painful to get done then i have to worry about popping a boob
LOL...I don't think they go that far that you'd have to worry about something bursting.
@cherylt indeed my apologies when I said popping a boob I was referring to my silicone ones if they would tear the back of them
