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Big town vs small town girls

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(@Anonymous 76954)
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So envious of big town/city girls who dont have to worry to much about being detected while underdressing.  You probably dont know the person who found you out and will never see them again.  Not so easy with us small town girls, where everyone knows everyone or knows someone who knows you.  a slip of a bra strap, a pantie line or panties showing a bit could very well be a social disaster with unknown and potentially devastating repercussions.   Thats why stephanie usually comes out when traveling to other towns.  Still like to underdress but am very careful.

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(@Anonymous 76954)
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As a woman who has lived in Houston and retired to a very rural, northern resort area, I have experienced the difference first hand. Obviously it’s so much easier to be anonymous in a big city and there are many more TG friendly venues to enjoy. But when I decided to retire up north I made a commitment to introduce myself to the community, one person and place at a time. I’m happy to say that I feel safe and welcome here,
And can live as I choose.

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(@debbiedd)
Noble Member     los angeles, California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

All valid points and that is way so many of us took refuge in big cities which made coming out so much easier and convenient .

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(@jennyjstoned)
Reputable Member     Ypsilanti, Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Speaking as a big town girl you'd be surprised how often you just bump into someone you know. I have seen a few people at my work sharing my apartment complex, a few more that go to the thrift store and such.

 

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(@mary)
Noble Member     Sydney, New South Wales, Australia
Joined: 4 years ago

I live in the Australian outback. Our small property is a mile long.

I was helping a neighbor repair our boundary fence yesterday. When i come back inside I realized i was wearing light blue stud earings.

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Baroness Annual
(@dianna)
Estimable Member     Alabama, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

I have had similar experiences to Jenny J. When I lived in Pittsburgh full time as a woman (during my first transition 26 years ago), I was always surprised by whom I’d run in to, literally nose-to-nose. It was the same in the 7 cities over a million population that I’ve lived in.

Been there, done that. I own all the T-shirts, and I’ll print one for you! I now live in small town America, on a farm, and I’d never trade it for anything, ever.

I’m suspecting that there will be something of a nuclear bomb blast when I transition FT. But, that’s the resilience of our world; we will all survive, and be all the better for it!

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(@ria)
Reputable Member     Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada
Joined: 4 years ago

I lived in a small town most of my life so I had to become adept at underdressing; now I am in a city and nobody cares.

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(@lauren114)
Noble Member     Connecticut, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

I was always a small town girl so I take my show on the road.   I do dress andro while in male mode in my town but full femme is reserved for other places.  It's a shame since my current town has pride events and I would love to dress for them!   Maybe I need a cute pair of big sunglasses!

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(@kdmon)
Reputable Member     Fort Myers, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I can totally relate to the small town vibes.The town I grew up in was 700 people and there's NO WAY anyone could find out about my crossdressing or even my thoughts about how I was feeling.I would have immediately have become a target of scorn and suspicion.

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

My head is all over the place on this post. I live in a small town, pop 1300. Have not been involved with people in town to much,worked 2 jobs for over 30 years (sometimes over 80 hours a week). Since just before covid was down to one job, seldom over 40 hours. I have walked around town many times as Cassie, specially when I walked daughter's dog. Have gone to the local bar only 3 times, only go early evening as I get up before 5 am daily. I am 'partially' out at my Church. My earrings and half inch lavender nails give a BIG hint. Have had no negative reactions from anyone. In fact I would love a little level headed discussion about what is going on in my head and heart.

. Cassie

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(@jaydelabelle)
Estimable Member     Tallahassee l, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I've been in the same small town for 46 years, after having grown up in another small town.

My male identity was set in people's minds in the first few years for many.
I worked in ag related jobs almost the whole time and feared the consequences of being outed.

Sine I've retired, my social circle has changed. Small though they may be, I'm doing things I'm doing things that would have petrified me before.
Lots of "new people" have moved in; I can meet them as the free me.
I have some GG friends who know and I do my little bit of "fixing up" and underdressing when I go to the nearby larger city.
Counseling, lunch at the same sit down restaurant, and grocery shopping.

New people meet me in the 21st century.
Most older acquaintances see me in the 20th.

I'm much freer than I've ever been, but a new,larger city would provide even
more freedom.

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(@Anonymous 76954)
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interesting way to put it.   I suppose I also have one foot in each century, in terms of my interactions with people.

Having lived in a big city and out on a daily basis, I can’t think of one time in a span of years when I bumped into an acquaintance…unless I invited them out for dinner and drinks.  Honestly, I never really even gave it a thought.   Now days I still meet friends for dinner and drinks, so that hasn’t changed much.   I will admit that I somewhat miss the variety of activities and venues that I used to frequent when I lived in the big city.   But I am older now and I wonder how often I would feel like hitting the clubs now.   Probably not very often.

 

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(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Since coming out a few years ago I've lived in a small town.  The neighborhood I live in the houses are close together so teh ability to go outside in the yard dressed is not there.  I do underdress in panties but not a bra.  There are too many situations where hugs are involved so the possibility of a bra being detected are too great.  I hope one day to be able to travel where I can have the opportunity to dress, will have to see if that happens.  I'm content being able to dress when at home for now.  A few years ago that wasn't even a thought, then only when home alone and now pretty much when I want.  Only time will tell what the future holds.

XOXO
Suzanne

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