Breaking through the barrier

Just do it!

Gloria,

Your words resonate with me as I expect they do with many of us.  Wanting acceptance in the face of misunderstanding;  wanting space to express our feminine side;  wanting relationships to be strong;  wanting to just be able to go out and pass.  What helped me was a bit of patience and having faith that it will get easier.  For me, it did get easier, but still a ways to go.  If you are a reader, I suggest the book “She’s Not There” by Jennifer Boylan.  Her journey is amazing, but what really opened my eyes was the description of her relationship with her wife as James started discovering he was Jennifer.  Understanding through those eyes what my wife may be feeling has helped me.  For now your safety net can be here, as you gradually build one of your own.

Hugs,

Therese

Hi Gloria

Take full advantage of that 36 hour opportunity and take pics so you can reflect on them. It may be that you'll have to MAKE more of those opportunities happen to eleviate some of the depressed feelings, because they will interfere in your relationship with others.

We each deal with our induvidual situations the best we can and need to make decisions based on our needs and the importance we feel towards being in touch with our femme. Its not always easy and we do at least have a partial escape in CDH.

Even for some of the more seasoned, who are more at ease within themselves and maybe do have a responsive SO, there are times when it would be so comforting to be able to visit or pick up the phone with somebody we may have made a connection with. PM's are a pretty good substitute for that.

Let us know when your alone time begins & we can keep an eye out for you.

Have you spoken with a Dr or counselor regarding how you feel.....I did & it certainly helped me .

If you can embrace the time for your feminine self , perhaps add a massage to your appointments , a warm bubble bath with some candles . 🌹🌹

Gloria,

If you need to talk, most of us hear will be there for you. When I get alone time, I try to go for a long walk and clear my mind. I agree things are really screwed up in this world. I am just taking tiny steps, it's the best that I can do right now. Sounds like you need a big hug!

Hugs,

Kay

Sorry to hear that you’re having such a crappy time atm Gloria. As the other girls have said, I’m  here if you need to chat. And as Tiff said, if you haven’t already, try and find a counsellor/therapist; this helped me enormously. In fact without that, and the support of all the beautiful girls in this place, I don’t know where I’d be.

dm anytime

Seraphina xx

Thank you Gloria, for agian expressing what I and many others here are going through. I thank you and all the other girls here for sharing themselves and their insights.  We all find it comforting to see others going through the same things we all are.  Keep everyone sharing your successes and your failures.

Thanks all for  your loving support.

Sandy

Hi Gloria Everything comes with time. The only barrier is what we all create. I assure you we are all great barrier builders. Whenever i feel a little depressed I treat my self too a long hot bubble bath with perfume scented candles. Just to relax. Allow your self to come out and breath and enjoy this wonderful gift of life. Gloria you are a very special person that has been given a special gift that will allow you to feel what it is like to be a very feminine woman if you allow her to come out. I used to have many hours alone when traveling on business. Some times my trips would force me to spend the weekend. I would go out and buy gift make up kits . I would practice putting on my make up. I does take a lot of time to get our make up right. One thing is for sure we are all here for you.We do understand where you are at right now. We have been there and have found many ways to break those barriers down. Take deep breaths and allow her to breath. Luv Stephanie

Hi Gloria, some great responses by the other ladies.  Whenever I am in a funk, which is not that often anymore, I take a moment to reflect on all the wonderful things in my life of 66 years and to be thankful for all the times when I've survived bad moments (i.e. recovering from my heart attack five years ago, somehow making it when my motorbike skidded out of control through a busy intersection during a rainstorm, not falling off a mountain when I came to a steep dead-end and had to make a leap over a crevice).  I also have since realized that I am no longer afraid of dying but rather I will be sorely pissed that I will no longer be around to enjoy all the good stuff in life.  It would be nice to see my three grandchildren have children of their own. Sorry I digress.  I love that I can come onto this website every day and read about how other CDs are doing and share my thoughts on occasion.  Stay healthy, stay safe, All the Best Gloria, Hugs, Krista.