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Hi Ladie's,
I am soo happy tonite! Yesterday I came to realize that there is no reason for me to feel so fearful about my desire to crossdress. I have walked around paralized with fear too afraid to purchase anything at the store and especially tell my SO. (She once told me she would leave if I ever wanted to crossdress, not knowing my history). Well, at 5am while getting dressed for work this morning, I said to myself, screw it, and I told her. Told her my whole story, my history, my desire to crossdress now and even told her about the site. I felt like a ton of weigh was lifted off my shoulders. I was confident and direct while talking to her and took the time to answer her questions. At first, she thought I was pulling her leg, joking with her as I often do, but she quickly realized I was serious. We went outside and continued talking for a bit while I loaded my truck for work, and then she came up to me giving me a hug and a kiss and told me she loved me. I melted, I love her very much and we have so much history together. I did not want to loose her I explained that I wanted to hire a professional make up artist to do my make upl get dressed and take some pictures and shes all for it. I was floored, I really thought she would be turned off by this and want to leave, and I would have understood. The whole day I've been on cloud nine! On my way home from work I stopped, all by myself and purchased a pretty blond wig at a wig shop. Then I stopped by the drug store purchasing $200 in make up, lashes, nails, ect andi set the appointment with the make up artist to come to my house to feminize me. Unfortunately I have to wait until after the holidays as she has no available time. (I will post pics) But that will give me time to buy my breast forms, lingerie, a couple dresses. I can't wait!!! And I'm so excited!! I now have a shopping partner and I don't mind buying one for me and one for her😀😀😘 I don't know if you gals realize how much support I've felt from you since joining the site. Thanks so much for listening to me ramble on without judgement. Thanks for the advice and Thanks for just being there. You're all great and I Love You All! Hugs & Kisses, Brenda
Your courage is an inspiration to me Brenda! Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. Congratulations mi amiga.
This is a pretty amazing story Bren! You go girl! Happy for you! Can't wait to see the pictures!
Mx
Thats Huge!, and yes it feels so freeing. Be sure to thank her of her acceptance and allow time for some thought on her part, its new. Continue to communicate and have some fun shopping together. Having an involved SO can be fantastic.
Bren, I am so happy for you I am in tears!
You deserve this, girl. You are doing everything right - by being true to yourself you are spreading the happiness and love and I am so happy!!!!
Gosh, I feel soo girly right now - thank you!
Love
Laura
Dreams do come true.
Treat your wife carefully and with respect. You have both taken big steps recently. Small steps reap rewards.
Lacey x
You make an excellent point!
To her, this is new.
Her first reaction is amazing, but she may well think it over and have many mixed feelings.
When I properly discovered I wanted to dress like a girl for real, in my teens, I wanted to kill myself rather than live with the shame, or admit it and be a target for bullying.
I've rejected and accepted more times than I can relate - so give her space to come to terms with it, and reassure her that she has not lost the man she fell in love with and married, rather she has just discovered a "super side" of him - and maybe a new girly bezzie into the bargain.
The big thing I am trying to learn since "the talk" is to try not to make this all about me.
It's hard, as I am frequently overjoyed with my new freedom, and pamper myself quite a bit - but I am also pampering her. It's the feminine thing to do, and it feels better than good!
Good luck!
Laura
Well said Laura Lovett
its a huge change for both of you. Don’t go headlong into this thinking it’s all good from here. Reassurance and patience is key. My Wife accepts Lacey to an extent. If I am full on girly girly girly. I get the stop sign. Do not passgo. Go to jail scenario
you have waited this long. A little more caution to learn her limits will be time well spent
Lacey x
hi bren, that is the best news ive heard so far today 🙂 I am elated for you. to have that kind of weight lifted from you is akin to winning the lotto! I am so glad you have found your feet and that this post is a positive one, as you were very unsure in previous posts. ohhhh bren, that is fabulous news! well done! I wish you an amazing happy future ahead of you xxx
fiona xxx
Congratulation Bren!!!! It's a new world for you now 🙂
Lisa
Wow Bren! Congratulations and so happy for you! Thank you for sharing this with us! Very inspiring to hear!
Hugs,
Michelle
