Caught Underdressing?

Trans perspective here.

Outside of work I'm not hiding anything.  At work my biggest concern is boob projection.  They're getting harder to hide even with loose fitting clothes.  I'm starting to question why I'm still hiding them.

/EA

Emily -

Thanks!  If I were a bit younger, I might go down the same path….  I don’t think transitioning is in the cards for me.

R.

Hi Rachel I didn't do much underdressing at work just the odd days of wearing panties and cami tops under my

T-shirts, I'm retired now so don't worry about getting caught out by my workmates, I'm more worried about getting caught out by my wife if i underdressed now X

Hugs Rozalyn X

This reminds me of a family zoo trip with my wife and kids. We were walking behind another family the husband was pushing a child in a stroller and you could clearly see his bra through his shirt. Besides the bra nothing else appeared female. My wife pokes me in the ribs and says there is one of your friends.  I had no response.

I delude myself into believing no one notices my bra, but my SO occasionally reminds me that she can always tell. I feel sure others can tell, but it is a rare person who would speak up. What would they say? "are you wearing Maidenform or Playtex today, sir?"

I recall an incident where a man following me down a hotel hall likely picked up on my male voice. To make a point, in the elevator he pretended to be absorbed in looking down at his phone as he said "What floor, SIR?" I did not have the presence of mind to reply, but wish I had said "Lobby, Ma'am".

I think any who underdress ought to recognize that they are likely read. One has to just adopt the attitude "Do I care? Do others? Does it matter?" Let go and enjoy the feeling. You might even enjoy the thought that others DO know, yet it doesn't deter you from being you. You can own it and be fine.

If really daring, wear a shirt which clearly reveals the bra, walk around the mall, and see if anyone says anything. My  bet is they won't.

So my closest time was when I go to the chiropractor.  If he puts heat on my lower back I have to pull up my shirt and he really try’s to get the heating pad right where the lower back is.  I usually push my panties down but I always wonder if he catches the top of them and can tell!  Also I think one time when I was getting a massage I forgot my toes were painted and so I told the I wanted to keep my socks on as my feet were cold.  I love my feet massaged so I was quite disappointed !  As I get older though I’m caring less if I get caught !

Hi Rachel,

I only wear panties when I under dress, but it’s still a worry. A bra, no matter how thin, would be too noticeable where I work so I haven’t tried that. I hope your coworker was discreet and didn’t say anything to anyone.

Hugs, Jill

I have been caught many times. I wear only panties full time and I only wear thongs. I have had people snicker behind me when I bend over to pick something up at the store, I have had other women approach me and let me know that my thongs was showing. I went to the doctor once and had to have an EKG I think it was, the nurse had to put a sensor on my lower abdomen right at my panty line and had me undo the top few buttons of my pants. I did as I was asked and she went to put the sensor on me and saw my white thong with pretty blue flowers and a blue ribbon on the front, she looked at them and said oh those are cute, and pushed them down a little to make room for the sensor. I did recently have a time when I had to go out and pick up my daughter from a friends, I was sitting at home dressed up when she called me to pick her up, I went and took out my forms but left my bra on, I get there to pick her up and our friend who she was hanging out with went to give me a hug and I am sure she felt my bra straps when she hugged me. She didn't say anything but her hands lingered it that area for a few seconds.

That I know of I've been called three times one time I was dressed at home and I needed something at the convenience store so I just put a black T-shirt on a pink fog morning the head writing on the front and back it was kind of a tight t-shirt I was standing in line and a man asked me do I need to read the front of it to see what it says so he went to the front and the look on his face was priceless.
Then one time I went to the store and I had a thin white short sleeve shirt on and I got a lot of looks at day and when I got home I noticed that you can see the bra right through the T-shirt

Then the last time which was quite recently I had a pad of bra under which I thought was a baggy sweatshirt went in to pick up some food and restaurant and this one lady kept staring at me and I looked at her and she just smiled and I think she could see the lines
Oh well

I do underdress on occasion especially when it has been awhile since I have been about to go out dressed. I always wear panties but sometimes I wear a bra as well during those periods between being able to dress. It makes me feel better. When I do, it is an unlined bra and not a push up as those would be too noticeable. If anything, it looks like I have man boobs which I actually do beaus of my current body type. I don't think anyone noticed. Early on in my crossdressing journey I would go out in a bra that was a more noticeable. I did get looks. I stopped doing that because my roommate ( an understanding lady) asked me to stop because it made her uneasy. She told me that it I was going to dress in public I should be fully dressed (that feels better anyway). Still, as I said, sometimes I want to wear something feminine during those times when I can not fully dress and a bra is the perfect feminine accessory.

Victoria's secret corset tops can be fashion item and used under blazer without problems.

I only underdress at home and then only panties.  There was one day when I was wearing panties under my sweats and we needed to go to the store.  I was going to change but my wife said we're only going to be gone for a short time so don't bother.  As far as I know she is unaware that I wear panties at home (if she does she hasn't said anything), so off to the store we went.  It felt good to be out underdressed.  I think about doing it more frequently but can't seem to find the courage to do it.  On a side note, I went to the gym once (something that doesn't happen very often) and when changing in the locker room went to change socks.  When I took the one pair off I was reminded that my toes were painted a fire engine red.  There were only a couple people present and nothing was said.  There was another time I went swimming and when changing I didn't even care if anyone noticed my painted toes or shaved legs, their problem not mine.  Anyway I'm getting bolder in what I do but little bits at a time.

XOXO
Suzanne

I went shopping once in the early morning underdressed, this included a bra. I had a heavy shirt on as it was cool outside. I think a couple of women saw some strap/adjuster/back fat from behind me and I had some weird looks shot my direction but nothing was said. I stopped wearing bras out at that point. Might start again with a loose fitting sports bra. May even try a Tank Tshirt over it to camouflage things more. I came very close to getting busted by my wife one day, but it was only a close call. I was going for a long walk. As part of my waist training regimen I had on Tight hi cut panties, control top tights, Spanx over those, and I had a tight fitting black one piece swimsuit over it all. I also had some stretchy boy jeans on which have a high waist if you pull them up. An untucked loose heavy woolrich type button down over everything. My wife was visiting a friend and I went there to see her quickly. She made a comment. Your butt looks really nice in those jeans! and pulled my shirt up. I know she quickly saw the one piece. I had to think quickly. I went for my walk, went home and changed. I had a black Duluth trading tshirt that was similar material. I put that on and with male underwear I pulled the jeans back up with shirt tucked in. Luckily I had an excuse to have them pulled up high. the legs were longer and i had to prevent them from dragging on the ground. When i saw her the second time, she looked again and saw the tucked in shirt.

Thankfully Syndee, I think those in the medical profession are aware that "girls like us" exist. Might even be part of their training, I don't know for sure, but it seems logical.