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I plan on doing so grilling on Thanksgiving so today I went out and picked up one of those propane tanks for the grill.
I normally underdress daily with panties and a bra and with forms at times. Today was a bit cool so it was a day of wearing my C forms under a light jacket. I was wearing a womens teal tee shirt underneath and olive colored male pants. I love the feel and weight of my forms as I shop and under a jacket they hardly show unless someone really checks me out which rarely happens. Everyone is busy with their own lives.
The problem came when I was with the store clerk, a female, who was helping me unlock the cage for a tank exchange. I had my jacket unzipped and it hung loose in front covering my breasts. She took out the tank and put it on the ground in front of me. As I bent down to pick up the old one to put away and get the new one, my jacket slipped to the sides and when I rose up my little breasts projected out with a clearly visible bra outline under my tee.
I didn't notice at first until I looked at her and her eyes were transfixed on my chest. After quickly realizing what was happening I thought what the heck she's seen them so just act natural so I didn't pull the jacket over to hide them but walked to my car and placed the tank inside. When I turned back toward her she had a big smile on her face and started making small talk as we walked inside together. I slipped the jacket back in place over my bra/breasts. She seemed very talkative and more friendly than usual but no mention on what she had just observed.
I go into this store often and she has always been polite but now she was probably nervous and was the reason for her chatting so much. I paid and left wondering if I should avoid this store for a while or not. I'm the only old guy with a white ponytail and now known to have breasts that goes in there so I know I'll be checked out each time they see me. Its very close to where I live and I don't want to be the subject of conversation in the community but it may be too late for that. Oh well, I took the risk so I have to live with it and this is not going to stop me.
So, should I avoid the store for a while or not?
Have any of you been caught underdressing in public?
Dear Michelle ,
As I am still in the closet , I haven´t been caught in public.
I only dress in the privacy of my own home so no underdressing as well I´m afraid !
Avoiding the store would be admitting to the store clerk that it bothered you that she found out. By still going to the store , as you always have done , you can at least show her that you are confident about your dressing and that you don´t mind about her finding out.
You will notice yourself how she will react to you in the future !
Of course , I don´t now the community you live in , nor do I know if she is the kind of woman who would tell anybody else about your underdressing.
Love Sylvia.
Hi Michelle,
I am a bit of a chicken 🐓 , so for me I would avoid that place for a while. Everyone is different though, I guess you need to think about how much you care about everyone in town knowing your secret. In my town the word would spread overnight!
Good luck, and hugs,
Lara
Hi Michelle, great story, thanks for sharing.
Well, as I'm retired and dress en femme every day, I'm sure I've been clocked by someone somewhere sometime. I'm not letting it bother me (though it freaks out my wife).
I was at the curling rink the other day and one of the older fellows thought I was a woman as he called me girly while putting his hand all over my back. He had to have felt my bra strap. I don't know if he ever figured out that I was a guy. Certainly some of the other curlers know that I'm male. No one has ever approached me about it and I'm always wearing some femme wear.
Back to your other question, should you go back to the store? Hmmm. I think you sort of answered it yourself. It may be too late and it isn't going to stop you. Yup, I'd go back.
Have a lovely weekend, All the Best, Hugs, Krista.
IMHO, I would not avoid this business now that you've been semi "outed" by this one clerk. She acted completely appropriate, didn't she? Why do you think she'll treat you any less deferentially if you need to patronize that store in the future. So she may have told co-workers about you, but maybe you should put your big girl panties on and own your feminine side.
Great story. I sometimes suspect we want to be caught.
You should continue your normal routine. And if you find yourself in her checkout line, be sure to greet her and smile. I love it when the checkout girl notices something different about me.
Thanks for sharing Michelle,
I wouldn't quit going in the store unless you personally know someone that works there.
I think its fun for someone to know sometimes.LOl
And besides it breaks up their otherwise humdrum day and gives them something to talk about.
Talk is good it opens up minds
If you think about it you are also paving the way for all us other girls to be accepted.
Thank you
Huggs Patty
Thanks to all you wonderful girls who have responded or will respond. I knew I could count on good insightful advice from my sisters here.
It looks like the consensus is that I should keep my normal habits and go back into the store underdressed as usual. I hesitantly agree with this.
My thinking was that if I didn't go back for a while then maybe the turnover of employees would be all new people who didn't know my secret. Its a Dollar General and they have high turnovers. Problem is I think the girl who saw my breasts was the manager but I'm not sure of that. I feel like she probably did tell her coworkers because I've never seen a CD out in my area and now I'm the oddity. Theres another Dollar General just down the road where I've bought makeup before in male mode and gotten a free unwanted end of days sermon from the female cashier as she checked my stuff out. This is a southern religious community... ugh.
On the other hand, as someone said, it could be an opportunity to make a connection with someone who may be curious about our lifestyle... idk. But we know females mostly don't like CD's so maybe I'll get stares and giggles from everyone... idk. This is a conservative community and I may be outed more than I think. As noted from the daily risk I take underdressing maybe deep down I wanted to be outed. If the wife knew of this incident she would freak.
So I've decided I'm putting on my big girl panties and going in there next week and will be wearing my same C cup forms under my jacket just like last time. Maybe I'll let the jacket be a little open showing the outline of my bra and I'll know how things stand within five minutes. I may even wear clear gloss polish on my fingernails. If I'm seen as a freak then its a no go zone. If not then its a place I can shop knowing its not a problem and could even buy makeup there... hope.
Wish me luck... I'll let everyone know how it went.
Dear Michelle ,
I hope everything goes well at the store next time.
I am really sorry for that female cashier at the other store.
She had no right at all to give you a lecture !
The customer is king ( or queen 😊 ) and she should treat you with kindness and courtesy.
Love Sylvia.
Getting caught is one of the risks we take. At times I think subconsciously we may even let our undergarments be seen.
I've accidentally exposed my undergarments many times and there has never been any negative repercussions from it. I actually find these accidents quite exciting after the fact.
I would think that now that she knows and it seems doesn't have an issue with it, you would be excited to return and shop there more often.
Any time I have gotten positive reactions to exposing the fact that I am a crossdresser I want to come back for more.
Once I went shopping at J.C. Penny's and found a nightie I really liked and it came in 4 colors. I couldn't decide which color I wanted. I bought 2 of the colors. When I got to the checkout the checkout girl smiled at me and said "Those are just your colors" I did not even hint at the fact that I was buying them for myself but the fact that she knew excited me so much the next day I went back to buy the other 2 colors and looked for her again to check me out. Sadly she wasn't working that day.
Wearing pretty feminine undergarments makes us feel good and if we accidentally expose what we are wearing to someone who doesn't criticize us, that is a wonderful feeling. I personally would want to go back for more. I would probably even wear a blouse that you could see my bra under it and flash her when I checked out.
We don't get positive responses like that very often, so take advantage of it.
In a perfect world, one in which each person's differences are not only tolerated, but also celebrated, returning fearlessly would be the only choice. We do not, however, live in that world. Everyone's community is different in terms of tolerance level and acceptance, each must make their own risk assessment.
It is easy in retrospect, and I'm sure I would not have thought of it in the spur of the moment, but the best course may have been to take a chance on the employee and acknowledge that you know what she saw, ask her to keep your confidence and, perhaps, a relationship in which you could share some aspects of your femme side. I would like to be in such a place someday.
Hi Eileen.
Yep, I agree with you that a man should be able to buy cosmetics without a sermon but by it happening shows just how conservative and religious this community really is. That wasn't the only time I've had a negative reaction when buying female things in male mode.
No, I haven't noticed any other CD's in public here but the really passable ones could be around... idk. There aren't any clubs or places at all around here for CD's to safely go. A CD club did open up a few years ago and was quickly picketed and shut down by a church group. Any CD's living here have to go a distance to a nearby city to find CD friendly clubs.
I'm going back to that store next week wearing my bra and C forms just like before and hope the girl is there so I can see how she reacts. I'm not very hopeful of a positive reaction but who knows. I don't really care what the employees think but don't want to be the talk of the community.
Hi Kimmie.
I could have acknowledged what she saw and addressed it but as I said she was smiling but nervous chatting as we walked back inside. I didn't want to embarrass her so I just didn't say anything about it. I'll know her reaction next week. If it wasn't so close to my home I wouldn't think much about it. If its a negative reaction then I'll avoid that store maybe forever but if positive that would be really great. We will see.
Good luck Michelle!! I think you are making the right choice in going back and being yourself. If, as you said it goes south, you can classify it as a no go zone and move on.
BUT... if it continues to go well, as it did the first time, fantastic!! Having a place to go as yourself is sinply priceless - and it emboldens you to do it again.
Fingers crossed for you hon! 🙂
Stevie
