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Hello Ladies,
Following up on my last topic - I was thinking if you have been caught crossdressing are you really a closeted crossdresser?
Hugs,
Brandi
It depends on who saw you and if the word gets around then you are now out. If it is someone who doesn't and nothing happens the door is slightly open.
Closeted for many years but mostly out, there are those to whom I don’t present enfemme, but yet if I were to run into those who may not know me as Carla, well they will just have to deal with it. Funny, as I was walking my dog, very early one morning in my neighborhood, I ran into and had a nice conversation with a neighbor lady who has likely never seen Carla, but could not have missed my bright red nails. I wear nail polish so often that I sometimes forget, but do remove it when it might be appropriate, but didn’t realize it until picking up after my dog. Oh well, a little farther of the closet if accidentally,
I think others have kind of hit on this point. I go out walking through my neighborhood, even shopping locally on occasion. But I'm not out to family, except for my kids who live with me. And I'm not out to others in my community.
I don't think it is an either-or situation, as I can be out to some and hiding it to others.
Brandi -
What an interesting follow up question.
To the best of my knowledge only my wife and therapist know that I dress, that being said I would consider myself a closeted crossdresser. I do on occasion go out underdressed in panties, wear earrings 24/7 and my nails are painted (clear pink tinged clear gel on my fingers and color on my toes). I've received compliments a couple times about the earrings I'm wearing and had a couple ladies ask me if I had a manicure. When I told them that I did they liked that I did that and wished their husbands would get one.
My at home dressing has gotten to the point where I can on occasion dress with my wife at home sometimes. I do go out on occasion underdressed in panties. Also I do wear knee high nylons and ankle boots out at times (with my wife's knowledge and approval) and never had anything said.
I think it is an individual decision to decide if you are closeted or not and how deep in the closet you are.
XOXO
Suzanne
I've never actually been "caught". My mom and boyfriend both know I dress and even though I am technically closeted it doesn't feel like I am because I can dress at home whenever I want to and don't have a desire to dress in public anyway. Hope that answers that question!
A lot of good 😊 replies myself as a closet dresses is one that never ventures out staying behind closed doors keeping the secret 🤫 from all my SO knows but dose not support so I stay hiding 99.9 percent of the time in the dark closet I feel that all even the ones that adventure out in miner fem items are still in the closet when one leaves that safe space they clearly make that decision to go all in dressed in fem just my thoughts tho do understand that the word Closet can mean many different meanings TC
To me, I am still in the closet, as family, friends, and neighbors don't know. However the closet door is no longer nailed shut, since my wife knows. She has been wonderful! I can dress most evenings around the house now.
In my opinion, if you're hiding it, your closeted. My wife, and I am pretty sure my daughter, knows, but I still hide it from them and the outside world. I would argue that, even if you're dressing at home with a SO, but you're not freely walking the streets dressed, then you're closeted.
Hello Ladies,
Thank you all for your of your responses.
It sounds like to Brandi that no one is a completely closeted crossdresser. The cat is out of the bag for the majority to at least someone. More like the exception(s) to the situation is more the norm.
Brandi must CONFESS for the SOs or other individuals that know and are fine continue to express yourselves - more power to you!!!
Hope all had a Merry XMAS - happy holiday season, and have a Happy New Year to all!!!!
Brandi XOXO