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I'm lucky enough to be able to do most of my Cerys shopping in person, in shops.
I do a fair bit of online shopping, usually when laying in bed, wide awake at 3AM.
I noticed earlier, 3:25 AM GMT, how many times I see a pic of a dress or a skirt, and think "That wouldn't look like that on me". I see the young, gorgeous models in the wonderful outfits, and I'm suddenly reminded that I'm a 56 year old man, who is technically obese, and feeling every one of my 56 years on this planet 🙂
Life is cruel 🙂
Cerys
@dazzler Yes I often look at things online and think “yep, that’s for me”
and then reality hits and I realise that “no, it’s really not”.
At least reality hits before buying something more often nowadays than it used to
@lucyb112 and then sometimes, "reality" can be equally, if not more cruel...when you buy it anyone, and find out "the hard way"...been there/done it...LESSON LEARNED...!!! 
@dazzler Many times I’ll see a nice dress or top and think ‘wow, that would look great on me!’ Only to remember I’m probably 3x the age of the model plus a hundred pounds heavier and maybe even a foot taller! I think we can all agree that in our minds eye we are that model and reality sucks!
It has really been a wake up call since I revealed myself to my wife. Being Lisa around her has really brought me back to earth. I have started even looking at youtube videos for ‘make-up for seniors’ yes it’s amazing what they have. When looking for clothing I always ask my wife ‘Is this to young?’ Being polite she will say ‘it’s not your color’ or ‘it doesn’t fit you right’. But we always find something that looks good good and age appropriate. A few times I have found something I really like and show it to her. Next thing I know she’s looking for one in her size! So i give up and I let her buy it and keep looking. That is the price I guess I have to pay for shopping with her. I don’t mind. Lisa and her are the best of girlfriends.
@lisa55 "Next thing I know she’s looking for one in her size!"
That resonates with me! My wife and I both tend to buy clothes in the same shop and our tastes are similar. Yesterday they had a new dress in, and the sales assistant who knows us well said it would be perfect for my wife. I also liked it, so suggested to the assistant that she should hide it from my wife so I could buy it. That was just met by laughter as she immediately took the size to my wife to try on. It is now in her wardrobe and, like you, I will just have to keep looking.
@dazzler Recently, there was a sale of "wool" coats @ Old Navy. I couldn't find the coats in the ad on their web site, since the link in the ad didn't work. The pictures looked nice, so I went to my local store to check them out. When the sales clerk found what looked like the correct series of coats, they were 100% polyester, not wool. When I tried my size on, the sleeves were two inches too short.
Don't judge a book by its cover.
@dazzler I forgot about catalogs too. Love to check out catalogs and see what I like. My favorite is Peruvian Connection (sounds like a 70's movie) and Artful home. Their clothes are pricey but so beautiful. One of these days I'm going to take the plunge and pick up one or two things!
I love looking at clothes online. I even have a Pinterest account where I keep pictures of clothes, shoes, nails and hairstyles I like. Sometimes what I see influences my purchasing decisions but generally seeing a woman in real life wearing something I like is what does it for me.
In my mind's eye, I look as good as the model.
...and then reality hits. Oh well! One can dream.
I hear you Cerys, there has been a movement toward more "normal" people for modelling but it's very slow. I live in the USA now and Walmart has their app & website set up so you can chose a model to view the clothes on someone other than a beanpole. It's better, but still lacks a bit, particularly since, although I am a womens 2X, the only models available in that size are rounder than I. 😀
Hi Cerys,
Life sure can be funny that way.
Alice
To be honest, I prefer to see the chores on beautiful, sexy models.
The ads I like are normal people walking around. Those photo and video ads, I know I will never look like because I'm a guy, and older, and heavier, and taller. When I see the ads, I do wish they would be more declaring that guys can wear those styles too. I was looking at an ad for heels and in the text below it said some style name with the phrase "(Women's)" on the end.... why wouldn't they leave that tiny phrase off and possibly make money of people like me without offending me.
Hi Cerys,
I'm the same but i don't look online for clothes, when I'm reading a magazine or a paper I'll look at the women's fashion pages first and think to myself i wonder if i would look as good as the model in those clothes,
If i looked half as nice as the model then that would be good enough for me X
Hugs Rozalyn X
You got that right Cery, I'm a 67 year old guy and there's no way I'll look anything like that model who's wearing what really caught my eye. Still doesn't stop my love for shopping though, I just look harder till I find what I think will work for me. I wish my wife would help, maybe some day.
Sherri
Women have the same issue; it's not just crossdressers.
While online shopping is convenient, it doesn't allow you to try it on before you buy it. Sometimes things that look good on the hanger don't look as good when you're wearing it, and things you thought didn't look so good turn out to look much better when you try it on.
The color on your computer monitor is not exact. If you have a laptop attached to a second monitor, notice how the color looks slightly different on the two monitors.
Remember the sellers are trying to entice (the royal) you (any consumer) to buy it, and may even tailor the item to fit the model. Photos may be airbushed to make them look better. You can't always tell what the material is or how it feels from a photo.
As with any purchase, caviat emptor.
