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Hello lovelies,
I don't mean to make light of 'coming out' to nearest and dearest. It can be challenging and traumatic to say the least. I certainly felt that when I came out to my daughters and some close friends.. But it's in my nature to laugh instead of cry. I do enjoy the silliness of life.
So daughter number one texted me. As a result of showing her some photos of me at a make over, she announced she was inspired to go for a make over of her own. What on earth is going on here?
No, nothing of major import. She went to a little festival, and came across a stall advertising retro hollywood make overs. And she's giving it a go and has booked a session in August. It seems to me it's going to cost an arm and a leg compared to what I paid for mine but that's just the parent in me, so I kept schtum.
Will it be Marilyn Monroe? Marlene Dietrich? A Dita von Teese look maybe? I don't know. But bless her, I can't wait to see the outcome !
There has been some other laughing moments too in my coming out but I'll leave it at that for now.
So a question for those who have come out. Did you come across any unexpected reactions too?
Life is for living. Enjoy it while you can !
Emma xxx
Hi Emma, love your name. Emma was my mother's name. As I have said before on many posts here it was almost 5 years ago now that I accidently let my Ex find out about my crossdressing and then I admitted everything. First thing she did was to tell our 3 grown kids and threatened to tell my 4 brothers and my mother. I ended up telling my brothers myself, sadly to say my mother passed away before I could tell her. The most suprizing thing for me was the acceptance/ tolerance I have found all around. I am even fully out at my Church and have presenting there as Cassie fully since Sept.
One of the things for my was when my 17 year old granddaughter invited me along to pick out her prom dress a few months ago.
Cassie
Hi Cassie,
Thanks Cassie, I'm growing into Emma as a name, hopefully it will stick.
I have spotted a fair few of your posts. I realise I've been lucky so far with the people I've shared with - I have some friends and family who definitely won't get 'the talk', well at least not from me. Otherwise I'm still quite private, so I've yet to encounter much in the way of negativity.
You must have been so pleased to have been asked to go prom dress shopping !
Emma xxx
@emmat Looking back I think the only unexpected reaction was that there wasn't one. In other words everyone I have encountered has (so far) been completely accepting. I have yet to come out to family which, for various reasons, I am a bit cautious about doing. However I would be surprised if there was anything but acceptance there too.
When my son was in his late teens he had a habit of going round the house singing (in the most unmusical droll voice you can imagine "Always look on the bri-ight side of life ...". Good advice for us all, and the cue for us all to look for the fun and positive sid of whatever reaction we get to our crossdressing.
Rebecca xxx
PS - just thought I would look up the full lyrics of the song before hitting the Reply button; I love them!
ha ha, wasn't the song in the top 10 tunes played at funerals in the UK once upon a time , Rebecca?
"Life's a piece of '****, when you look at it ..."
Love it!
eM x
Unexpected reactions?
Surprise and dismay? Not totally unexpected, though. That's probably the best way to sum it up.
I would have more surprised if she embraced crossdressing. One can only hope.
That's a tough one, Harriette. Is there someone else you know who might be more accepting?
No, not really, but I am not out to too mamy people. If anything my wife is less femme these days. She is a beaitiful woman, but does not put much effort into it
She rately wears make up, and only wears nice lingerie if I ask her to. Part of my dresses is to see, wear and do things I wish she did more. If she is not going to.wear pretty lingerie and a dress, I will.
Yhe only other thing has been my wax technician who knows and has seen me en femme. When I first started with her she had broken up with her boyfriend, and has now started a relationship with girlfriend. She has been very supportive of my dressing and I of course am very suppprtive of her new relationship and it is fun to catch up while she is ripping the hair off my legs.
If anything my wife is less femme these days. She is a beaitiful woman, but does not put much effort into it
She rately wears make up, and only wears nice lingerie if I ask her to. Part of my dresses is to see, wear and do things I wish she did more. If she is not going to.wear pretty lingerie and a dress, I will.
@jjandme Several years ago, I used the same reasoning to dress more openly around my wife because she was dressing less. She never bought that. But I did realize over time that my dressing is 100% about me and not her, not others, not the society.
I will never understand all the fuss some women make about not wanting to dress feminine. I think they are lucky to have an acceptable choice to do that.
Virtually all the reactions I've gotten have been good. I'm out to a lot of people but I don't take everyone's positive reaction as meaning they all 100% accept my trans life. I'm sure some just tolerate it but everyone has been polite & respectful.
Seems a sensible approach to me, Fiona. There's a lot to be said for tolerance, it's the glue that keeps a society together.
