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Confidence Restored!

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(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

Yesterday, I posted about the confidence pendulum, where I get occasional lacks of confidence.

Today, I was determined to banish this lack of confidence.

I got up, showered and shaved. I spent longer than usual putting on my face. I took extra effort on my hair. I then put on an outfit that I think I look good in, and gives me confidence. I looked in the mirror. Confidence started rising. I looked good! I felt good!

I put on my lovely fur lined coat with fur collar. This is a great coat. One I love wearing. Confidence rising.

Rather than take the car into town, I caught the bus!!!!. It was a very busy bus. Nowhere to hide. I took a seat next to a woman. 

By the time I got into town, my confidence was back to it's usual spot. I'm Cerys. I'm a crossdresser. Like it or lump it!

I went into a shop to by my wife's christmas card. I found a great one. Normally, for just one Item, I would self scan, but this time I joined the queue for the cashier. My turn came. I handed over the card with "To my wife" emblazoned across it to the cashier. She scanned it, I paid. She didn't comment about me buying a wife card! From there I went for a coffee. I had a chat with the barista as he was preparing my coffee. He never once smirked or looked at me in any negative way. 

From there, I visited a friend who runs one of the christmas market stalls. He commented on how good I looked. Better than normal. His words were it was "like I was going out for a night on the town". He complimented me on my make up and hair.... He never does this. He usually takes the p*** 🙂

Confidence pegging the meter!

Time to go home. Again, I caught the bus. This bus was rammed!!!!. A lady moved her bag so I could next to her. I thanked her, and we started chatting. Chatting like two people chat. Not necessarily like two women chat, but we were chatting. She said nothing negative. She got off the bus a stop before  mine. We wished each other happy christmas.

I got ff the bus. The confidence meter was shaking with stress. The needle was bending!

I popped into the corner shop where the bus stop is. I bought a few things. This a new shop with new owners. I've not been in there before. I asked the guy behind the till where I could fnd something. I went and got it. I asked him how the shop was doing, and welcomed him to the street (The shop is at the end of my street). Nothing negative said.

The confidence meter just blew itself off the wall!!!!!

I'm home now! Really happy to be back to my old self. The pendulum is well and truly back where it used to be!!!!!

What causes these wobbles in anyone's guess. Reading the replies to my earlier post, I can see that I'm not alone! I guess the pendulum will swing back one day. I'll just have to ride it out when it does.

Cerys

 

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
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Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
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(@annaredhead)
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Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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@dazzler I'm glad that you've had such a fantastic day, hugs, Anna xx

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Lady
(@harriette)
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Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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@dazzler There ya go!

Time heals all wounds, Cerys.

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(@lauren114)
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Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
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@dazzler That's a great Bounce Back day Cerys!  Good for you!  Hope you have many more experiences like this.

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
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Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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Duchess
(@jennconn)
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Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
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@dazzler I’m not surprised that you had a great experience.  I did see your public photo, and you look gorgeous.  Nobody would complain seeing such a pretty woman.  

Its so nice to read this post after your last one.  You are a lot more brave than I am. 

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Lady
(@lanam)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 36

@dazzler Wow!  What a great day!  Thank you for sharing. ❤️ ❤️

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 Lea
Lady
(@lea-jhene)
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Noble Member     California, United States of America
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@dazzler That's great you got your confidence back!!

I find just going out, being out, doing normal things, builds up my confidence when I'm feeling nervous. Nothing like 2 hours of shopping, hitting up as many stores as I can, and then I start to feel as bold as Super Girl. The Pink Fog descends and I try to get to new heights. It's exhilarating. It feels so me.

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Duchess
(@joannat)
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Reputable Member     Gwynedd, United Kingdom
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@dazzler Sounds like a great day for Cerys!

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(@Anonymous 99388)
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Really happy for you, sounds like you had a great time.

Alexis Grace Smile Face  

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(@Anonymous 99388)
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Cerys,

Oh yes the meter...  I began reading your post and my elation meter started going up!!  Your success had my soul getting increasingly happy as I kept reading.  With your words, I saw the whole day.  I'm so much longing that I could do this.  Thank you very much.  It is vicarious living for me, and you have jolted my mood way high, and added a few more little pieces to the foundation, the confidence, and the backstop of my progress as a woman.

xoxo

Dani

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Duchess
(@lizzy89)
Reputable Member     GreaterManchester, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 months ago

What an inspiring post Cerys I do wish I had your confidence to show Lizzy off to the world.

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

And that's how to banish those demons in style Cerys. Keep glam and carry on...

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

My wife hasn't mentioned Becca for a few days now and I'm not sure Becca is welcome at the moment so I've dialled it back a bit. However, after reading your post and the fact that my wife is at work tomorrow, I think I'll just dress and go out to try to get some of my own confidence back too.

Good to hear you had a lovely day, and I trust, many more to come.

Becca

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(@rebeccabaxter)
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    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1335

Posted by: @rebeccabaxter

My wife hasn't mentioned Becca for a few days now and I'm not sure Becca is welcome at the moment so I've dialled it back a bit. However, after reading your post and the fact that my wife is at work tomorrow, I think I'll just dress and go out to try to get some of my own confidence back too.

Good to hear you had a lovely day, and I trust, many more to come.

Becca

Further to the above. I took my own advice and went out shopping en femme in the Christmas crowds today and I feel so much better for it. My confidence is back up and running.

Thank you, Cerys, for this little nudge.

Hugs

Becca

 

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Lady
Topic starter
(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

It's great that you've managed to get out. It really does boost your confidence, and mood ! I was out today.. put on a very smart (for me) outfit just to feel good. In amongst the Christmas shopping crowds. No one cared. All too busy getting in with what they were doing. Met a friend guy coffee. Chatted for a few hours. Walked home. A very nice few hours out. It did meet the world of good. There's a pic off my attire in my public photos. 

Cerys

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