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Good Morning Ladies and Merry Christmas!
Well early this morning for the first time in a few months, my SO and I had an intimate moment.
I was a bit apprehensive given my recent grooming habits, and her reaction to that in the past. I'm sure it was that, lack of stimulation (her to me), that contributed to my "reaction", but in the end I could not do anything. I could not get "aroused". (My apologies to CDH, as I do not want to or intend to be graphic.
She took it all in stride, said I could try again later, but she never mentioned anything. I know it was a turn off for her however. But I have to say I'm resolute in my current desires to be selfish when it comes to how I want to be and present myself.
For that I'm happy, we'll have to see about the rest!
I hope you lovely Ladies have a Fabulous Day, today and always!
Love and hugs,
Rebekka!
Intimacy is complicated, and life moving along doesn't help. I hear how many SOs are turned off by their "man" being crossdressed, or those other subtle feminine grooming.
I think us CDs can also get turned off by not being able to be ourselves, or a feeling of depression, shame, confusion, hurt while trying to share a soul connecting moment.
So True, Lea.
Thank you for your thoughts.
Love and hugs,
R
Rebekka, so long as you both love and cherish each other, I would think it will be fine. Love can't just be built on the intimacy aspect. It has to be built on a solid foundation of commitment. Being committed means that your 'house' can weather any storm. You are lucky to be in your relationship. A committed relationship, between the best of friends, will hold back any tide. Love, Michelle
Thank you, Michelle for those kind, thoughtful and fitting words of encouragement.
Love and hugs,
Rebekka.
I've had this happen to me before also. Mine was due to a medication but of course I didn't know that at the time. My heart goes out to you because I know that empty feeling.
It sounds like you're working through it with your partner which is wonderful. I wish you lots of luck.
Rebekka.....There are many books on amazon kindle site that will teach you how to please you mate and drive her insane with pleasure. Do check it out. Yourself, well if you are on Hormone Replacement....this can cause malfunctions....that you will have to live with. Some prescrition drugs will have this affect as well.....if you are....check them out with the doctor.
I wish you the best of luck and if she truly loves you.....all will work out well.
Dame Veronica
Hi Rebekka. As if there wasnt already enough tension and confusion in the relationship dealing with just this simple CD thing, right lol? The problem you refer to can be cased by many things, it turns out that function of the male form is far more delicate than what we may have thought. Stress and meds lead the pack of culprits. At least in this situation your SO seems to be understanding. We(as a couple) have found many other forms of administering pleasure and even added some 'marital aids' for those times. Learning CAN be alot of fun and has actually enhanced our understanding of each other in our overall relationship.
I'm pretty sure we've either all been there or got that to "look forward to".
In that situation, I make it all about her - my SO. There are a lot of ways, as the other girls say, to bring a smile to her face - and often thise same things can help you rise to the occasion unexpectedly.
Sometimes I will make it about Laura and her - I will dress, then utilise all Laura's fantasies and skills as a lesbian... :0)
Almost never fails.
You can't win 'em all - but you can give it a really good try and have fun doing it.
Love
Laura
