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Crossdressing and creativity

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(@alexina)
Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
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I decided, last year, that I would learn to play the bass guitar that I've owned, pretty much as an ornament, for some time.

I watched YouTube videos and also took a dozen or so lessons from a guitar teacher.

My progress was slow and tentative until I was practising one day with my head very much in Allie mode and wow! My fingers flew across the fretboard and a couple of runs just happened without me even thinking about it. Now, I've no doubt that muscle memory plays a part but I wondered how much of the improvement is down to shifting my head from drab to fab.

Has anyone else noticed a difference in apparently unrelated and practical aspects of life when in alter ego mode?

I've yet to pick up my bass while en femme that's next on my list of to do's.

Allie x

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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@alexina 

I'm not sure about playing an instrument - I struggle with a tambourine - but doing the washing up, ironing and vacuuming is far more fun.

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(@alexina)
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@jacquelinelarkspur Ha ha, EVERYTHING is far more fun! x

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@alexina 

So true! No undiscovered talents have surfaced for me, but everything else is much more enjoyable.

Denise
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Posted by: @alexina
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Has anyone else noticed a difference in apparently unrelated and practical aspects of life when in alter ego mode?

Yesterday, I went through a medical exam during which I watched the hands of the technician. She was using both hands just like a musician can, but she wrote on paper with her left hand so I presumed that she was sinistral (left-handed).

During a pause, I asked her, "Since you are left-handed, what do you do for creativity?" I am sinistral and know that handedness affects creativity. She said that she was right-handed (another lesson on assuming things), but needed to learn how to use both hands for her job. She played piano, a bit, when young.

 

Bringing this back to crossdressing, I was having my legs' circulation checked for tingling after last year's heart surgery. I was wearing colourful panties with silicone hip pads still tucked into them and my legs were freshly cleaned of hair. This technician covered my whole groin area with a big piece of paper and tucked it under the bottom edge of my underwear, so that she could discretely access the veins in my groin which is also hairless. I am not sure if she ever saw my panties, but she certainly couldn't miss all of that hairless skin. She didn't say a word about it.

 

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(@alexina)
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@harriette Hi, Harriette, thanks for your comments. I, as a 68 years old who grew up in an area where coal mining, heavy engineering and fishing were the main industries, find the current terror of giving offence bemusing. It was the mark of a man to be able to give and take "friendly" banter. Not so much near the bone as drlling into cartiledge, gouging it out and casting it into the fire! Ha ha. However, one benefit, as you have recognised, is a massive increase in adherence to the philosophy of live and let live. So what if a man wants to wear panties or anything else. While not yet universal, it bodes well for us (I hope).

I also hope that your health improves.

Allie x

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@alexina I and a bunch of doctors are working on that.

I have other things to work on, too. Dressing more often and better is just one of them.

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@alexina I find that when I am in stephanie mode, underessed in bra and panties and some earrings and working in my wood shop that I am more creative and more detailed orientated leading to better results.

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@stephaniewyo Thanks, Stephanie, may your chisel never slip!

Allie x

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@alexina Hi Allie

If you read my (overly-long) bio you'll see that as well as having written a book or three I've also illustrated several. In fact, from July I'm giving up my day job as a science teacher to concentrate on writing and painting.

I also play fingerstyle guitar (think traditional Irish music, including jigs and reels, but also O'Carolan harp tunes and ragtime). 

The only reason I'm saying ANY of this tiresome rubbish is that ALL OF IT comes MUCH more easily to me when I'm dressed ... so I totally understand what you're getting at here.

I even have a particular paint-spattered dress that I like to wear when I'm 'arting'.

I also love learning languages ... to the point at which you could say I'm collecting them (French, German, Spanish, Italian) ... and that's ALSO facilitated by a pretty dress and a well-chosen pair of heels.

I have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA why any of this should be the case. It works for me, and I don't feel any need to question it.

As well as your own post, I was intrigued by @stephaniewyo 's experience; it seems to mirror my own.

Hugs

 

Ellie x 

PS. Regarding general changes in behaviour when you're in girl mode, see my previous thread about this:

Do you behave differently in girl mode? – General Chat “Life as it Goes On” – Crossdresser Heaven Forums

 

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@ellyd22 Hi, Ellie, most definitely! Just this evening I had to go back to the car to pick up the phone I left and I found myself almost strutting as if in heels. When I noticed, I smiled and did it even more.

Putting on shoes, even fluffy mules, I cross my legs now rather than bend double.

Allie is much more chilled and, yes, softer all round. 

Once, I may have been concerned about this but now I luxuriate in it.

Allie x

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@alexina 

Hi Allie,

Oh yes, this is definitely me nowadays.

I find that I’m strutting around more and just generally behaving in a much more feminine way than I used to, even in boy mode, and like you, it used to concern me. I even recall having a conversation with Ellie last year about how not to do it so much, but nowadays it just makes me smile too.

Lucy x

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@alexina Allie, I haven’t tried drawing while en femme, but as soon as I can dress (hopefully next Thursday) I’m going to give it a try. I have a drawing that I’m working on and nearly done with, I just need to shade her (it’s a beautiful woman, go figure) in which can be very difficult to do properly. And as Ellie mentioned, I’d like to get back to studying Japanese and see if being all dolled up and in a different frame of mind will help me pick it up any easier. Thanks for the fun and interesting question!

Hugs, Jill

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@jillannquinn Thanks for your replies, Jill. Please let me know how it goes then.

Hugs back x

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@alexina I  dont know if I sound any better when river is playing the guitar and singing but Im confident It feels better which usually results in a better performance. plus I turn on the strobe and disco lights as well. Tearing down the walls when playing can result in an amazing return.  Cheers RC

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@river I'm beginning to find a blurring of the lines between Allie and my other personas and I like it. When playing the bass, for example, Allie's patience and attention to detail (alien concepts to the rest of me) has definitely improved my playing and improvising.

I've said this before but it's worth repeating, lucky lucky us 😊

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@alexina Blurring of the lines is right.  How amazing would it be without these specific line's.  something ro daydream about.. Cheers RC

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Absolutely Allie! After all creativity is considered a strong female trait. They create life after all. I’ve noticed when I’m in my pick fog I’m much more inspired to be creative whether it’s doing my makeup, putting an outfit together, or enjoying my hobbies. 

 

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@leainvancouver Snap! 😊 x

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In recent years, I have learned to appreciate works of art by visiting local art galleries, and as the warmer weather approaches, I will once again be visiting local gardens, especially when they sponsor events at these places. 

A big advantage to visiting both of these type of venues is that a lady dressed very nicely never looks out of place and is treated like a lady. 

The beauty and creativity of crossdressing would seem to have sparked an interest in me in art and the beauty of flowering gardens.  Who would have ever guessed?

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    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
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@catgurl That's a good point, thanks for posting it 🙂  I have membership to the National Trust, that looks after many historical and stately homes and gardens (as well as some landscapes and other architectural rarities) in the UK.  Even if I've not seen all that many well-dressed ladies when visiting NT properties, the clientele is generally towards the more polite end of the scale, so that's a good possibility for excursions en femme.  Two or more gurls together, even better.

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@finallyfiona I wonder how the NT would react to a group visit? Knowing how conservative they can be, I'm really not sure ...

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@ellyd22 You can just see the minibus screeching into the carpark and the gaggle of rather animated girls emerge and totter towards the reception on their 5" heels can't you 🙂  At least we could aerate the lawns for them? 🤣

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@finallyfiona Part of me soooooo wants to do this ...

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@ellyd22 

We could combine it with a murder mystery.

"The Mysterious Case of the Malicious Clubbing in the Medieval Castle"

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@jacquelinelarkspur Are you suggesting that many crossdressers should miraculously combine in a murder-committing malicious clubbing ... maybe committing multiple crimes while munching canapés in the medieval castle?

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@ellyd22 

Maybe. Could more crossdressers meet clandestinely, making complicated moves covering more crazed murders, calmly musing criminal masterplans?

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@jacquelinelarkspur

Mmmm.

Can members consider murderous crimes? Malevolent crossdressing motivations causing multiple corpses?

Mayhem?

Call me.

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@ellyd22 

Creative minds can model cunning manipulations continuously. Machiavellian constructs may contain many clues.

Meet covertly, my colleague.

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@jacquelinelarkspur 

*Reading back over their posts, Ellie begins to wonder whether she and Jacqui were separated at birth*

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@ellyd2 Sounds like great fun 😊👠👗

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(@lauren114)
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I'm in such a pink fog lately that I am having a hard time focusing on my interests and hobbies.   Of course the exception to this is makeup and my wardrobe.    I love thinking about the next things to add to grow my feminine appearance and experience.

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It has been my view that bringing out your feminine side releases a lot of those feminine traits that have been hidden. Clearly you have found another.

I love going around gardens here in the U.K. as in the warmer months summer dresses are de riguere along with tea and cake on the lawns...

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@ab123 Hi, Angela, I agree with you. Although I have crossdressed, on and off as is often the way with many of us (how great it is to say us, and to feel belonging, by the way. Not at all like drab me), it is only this past six months or so that I have fully accepted this gift of femininity. And, even given "her" a name, Allie. 

I do notice that I, and that includes my male aspect, have become more caring and empathetic towards others the more Allie is free. 

Regarding going around gardens, wearing a summer dress, that sounds wonderful. x

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(@laurynvalentine)
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I love to draw and by the opinion of some, I have a bit of a gift. One wish is to be part of a CD/Trans art group and get together and chat and see if being in the femme ups my art desire and creativity 

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@laurynvalentine Hi, Lauryn, I see crossdressing as an excellent example of creativity. Putting together nice clothes, jewellery etc, giving expression to our female "selves" can certainly be seen as art.

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(@caroline2k)
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I'm a musician and I play various instruments (including guitar, bass and keyboards) and play in a band. When I was at school I was very artistic too and went to art college after, although I dropped out and don't do any of that stuff anymore 🙄

I also like to build 1/35 military vehicle kits - an outlet for all that repressed 'art'! 🤣

Having said that I work in audio/visual, producing and editing video, so it's almost creative!

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I haven't recognized any artistic talents within me. What has amazed me, is the female mannerism's that just come out of me. When my brain gets awash in femininity, my body mechanics soften and I find myself displaying feminine traits that I didn't know that I had. 

Letting this come out now has been so rewarding emotionally to me. 

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@robertaf 

I feel the same. It just seems to come over me. Like moving more gracefully and slowly, sitting properly and generally feeling calm and self-assured. Traits which don't often make an appearance otherwise.

Denise
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@robertaf Same here, from crossing my legs to put stockings on to the way I sit.

 It’s lovely x

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@robertaf Hi, Roberta, thanks for your comments. I have never been truly happy with myself until now. Giving Allie her freedom has made me feel complete, she is the yin to male me's yang.

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@alexina I think it takes a lot of us a long time to feel happy about ourselves, it certainly did for me, but when it finally happens it’s a great feeling

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@lucyb112 Hi, Lucy, yes it is! Now, of course, I wish I'd embraced Allie earlier but wishing is akin to "shoulda, woulda...."

The fact is, here we are so let's enjoy! As I say, lucky lucky us 😊

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@alexina Oh yes I’ve definitely thought that way myself, but it is what it is, and as you say, we’re here now so let’s make the most of it.

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@alexina A therapist asked me once, "What's it like for you when you are dressed". After thinking about it, I said " It's like finally coming home". When dressed I'm in my happy place and it feels more right than when I'm in my regular clothes. 

I used to think that I was an imposter when dressing. I've come to realize that it was actually the other way around,   

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Allie -

Thank you for this post.

I started playing guitar a few years ago and find it to be relaxing. I've had a couple opportunities to play while dressed and it was fun. I also do diamond dot art (like paint by number but with colored plastic dots) which is fun. It is something I wouldn't have done before Suzanne but now even in drab mode find it to be relaxing and enjoyable.

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@alexina)
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Hi, all, thanks so much for your comments, I have certainly noticed more feminine traits and mannerisms since I welcomed Allie into my conscious life (clearly she's been imprisoned in my subconscious all this time!). I think, for the first time in my life, I feel complete. Lucky lucky us!

Allie xx

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(@firefly)
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Thanks for this post, Allie. 

I think I'm very creative all the time. I value art a lot. Maybe I'm a little more emotional in feminine. It takes me longer to shop for women's clothing and accessories. I think I have learned to be more open. My masculine and feminine minds are increasingly mixing and it is not so easy for me to separate them. It must be a natural process I guess. After all I have only one brain and I think it works well for me. I live and let live.

Gisela

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