Crossdressing as a Heterosexual

Yes, it is possible to be a crossdresser and heterosexual. I am only attracted to women and have been happily married to my wife for 10 years.  Crossdressjng for me has never been about sexual attraction and or a sexual experience.  Regardless of how I am dressed, I perceive myself as a man, and have no desire to be a woman.

Remember that though our journeys have similar threads, they are each different.

Mackenzie Alexandra

Joanne,

I am in a similar boat as you are.  While I have been crossdressing for years I have no desire to be a woman.  When I told my wife about my desire to cross dress her only concern was that I wouldn't find her attractive or that it would tear us apart.  Once I explained that I don't want to be a woman and that I want to remain a man who simply enjoys cross dressing, she has totally embraced it.  We have brought it into the bedroom and it is very satisfying.  We still enjoy time together in traditional male / female roles.  I still dress on my own but I have given her the option for us both to be pretty.  Letting her have some control over our time together with me as en femme has allowed her to ease into things and each time it gets better and I can go further.

I struggled with the idea of cross dressing for years but after spending some time here I have realized very clearly that everyone has their own preferences.  We are all unique individuals and we all have different needs and wants.  I have become far more confident en femme and the shame I used to feel is gone.  Recognizing that I could be a heterosexual man who likes to cross dress has changed my outlook on life in a dramatic way.

Bottom line is, embrace who you are and count yourself extremely lucky that your wife embraces it.  So many on here have to keep it a secret from their SO.

Hi Becca, thanks for your thoughful reply. When you dress is it completely as a woman, with make-up, wig etc. I have yet to discuss that with my wife. Do you every go out in public dress or have an interest in doing so. I find the thought of being out with my wife dressed as a woman could be fun,but i would have alot of work to look passable. Best of luck to you. Glad to hear I am not alone.

Hi MacKenzie thanks for your reply. I too feel like a man. Best of luck to you. Joanne

Being a crossdresser doesn't mean that you are anything or anyone else. You are still the same person but with a special passion.  Many here love the chance to be the other person and to follow all the feelings, the manurisions ,and actions pertaining to  femininity. I have read that 1 in 10 crossdress and 8 of those in 10 are heterosexual  so your in good company. I look at myself as they say as genderfliud . I love my male persona but there are times I like being  feminine  and to experience that what  a women would  feel and think being Thoughts of being with men have been in thought when dressed up but  only in fantasy. But in real life I'm only attracted to women and likely always will. But as life moves along  so could your thoughts and feelings towards changes , one never knows. Much of us are no where passable while others are amazing, and yes I do find quite attractive. In life who knows. I have a strong relationship with my wife who I hold very dear to my heart. Totally loyal to her and only her. But if circumstances changed and I do lose her for  a variety of reasons then changes could happen and thoughts may circle my mined and my journey could take a different path. Until then I am hetero, I love women and enjoy the world of crossdressing. 🌹

I've been cross dressing in varying degrees pretty much my whole life. I'm married and straight. It's been suggested to me by others that I like to dress like girls I would like to be intimate with. They think I'm a fetish cross dresser. I think they are probably right.

Hi Patty, thanks for your perspective. I have only been crossdressing a short time,sitting her in bra and panties as I type this. I certainly think my feeling are a least a fetish as I feel like a man and not at all like a woman. It is strange to me that I find pictures of CD's so arousing, perhaps its just something novelty but I am anxious to give it a try.
Regards
Joanne

PS Nice looking legs

My wife loved dressing me. I'm straight and non-passable.

Hi Stephanie, very thoughtful and experienced reply. I did not realize so many CD's might be hetrosexual. I am excited about this journey I am on and with my wife's blessing will continue. I was looking online at some clothing designed for crossdresser with so many differenct colors, designs, fabric etc as which would be best for me but this is something my wife has been doing her whole life. I am having fun with this. Good luck on your journey.

Hi Joanne,

Think of yourself as a Sexual Being and not having to fit in any square box such as Heterosexual. Bisexual, Homosexual, or any thing else for that matter. You say you find Cross dressers attractive . So do I.

I have been with my wife along time. But as Stephanie said if something was to happen that it was no longer the case. It would bee interesting to se what my next relation ship would look like. The fact that you find a CD attractive just means That you have a good eye for beauty where ever you see it.

Amanda

Howdy Joanne! Welcome to CDH. Feel free to explore our site and chat with the girls. We are all willing to assist you to become a part-time girl. It is not as easy as it might seem.  Sizing for lingerie and outwear, shoe sizing and make up, female mannerisms and what not is difficult. We can refer you to web-sites that are cross dresser friendly and helpful, while maintaining you privacy. Word of advice here. Like it or not...females (real) are very curious......keep your cell phone and lap top out of their reach and preferably locked. This will save your info from your wife and save future problems....unless she is already OK with it.

Being a part-time female and male the rest of the time.....is OK and perfectly normal.

Lady Veronica

Thanks Joanne,

My dressing began with wearing pantyhose when I was 4. As years went by, I began wearing more things more often until through numerous events I began dressing at home everyday and a lot in college, mostly for parties. I think back then, while it was a lot of fun it was very erotic and sexually driven.

After college and not dressing for 22 years I began again. I discovered Femme Fever on Long Island and began going to some of the events. it was fun and a rush to not  just be dressing again, but dressing with others.

Yes it is thrilling but not sexual and erotic like it used to be. Now I just love wearing the clothes and how I look and feel. I love showing my legs in my nice shiny pantyhose with my sometimes too short dress and too high heels. It definitely is the way I liked girls I was attracted to to dress, hence the fetish.

I think the reason why we find beautiful CD's arousing is we are men and visually driven. When we see a beautiful girl dressed the way we like, we naturally look and desire her. When we see that beautiful CD, we are thinking, sexy girl we want and desire. That's our visual stimulation. But we know it's  a guy dressed as a girl. We are straight. How can this be? It doesn't make sense. But it does. We are seeing a girl. That's the emotional part. That's the way we have been most of our lives. But this is a guy dressed as a beautiful girl. It's only clothes. I'm not attracted to men at all. That's the rational side. It's confusing and a conflict. I want something I don't want.

When I was in college I dressed very sexy and slutty for parties. My pantyhose was always nice and shiny. My dresses were always too short. My heels were always too high. My breasts often too large and my hair usually too wild and free and my makeup overdone. That was my look and worked hard to get it. It was me being my fantasy whore. The fetish. But I was really just a guy presenting a feminine illusion, just like those other sexy CD's you see here and elsewhere.

When I would walk around I could see guys eyes following me. If I got close enough to them where they could see the mesh of my pantyhose, they had that red faced longing look on their face and squirmed uncomfortably. I knew they wanted me. I would say something to them. "I'm sorry I came over here to say hello to (someone) or get a drink or food (whatever it was) and I walked right in front of you". They had that "I want you so bad I could die" look on their face. I knew it well. I had been where they are countless times when dealing with a sexy girl. No one ever told me to get lost or called me anything nasty or derogatory. They were always courteous and often complimented me on my costume and how I managed to look so good. They knew I was a guy but I looked like their want and desire. They were confused and conflicted. Their eyes told them one thing. Their rational side something else.

I don't think you are unusual at all Joanne. Just maybe a bit new and trying to make sense of something that doesn't make sense. Just enjoy yourself in what ever way that might be. Grow some. Expand your dressing. Maybe find some local CD/TG meet up group and join them. Chat and post here on CDH and other sites. Learn and have fun.

Thanks for responding

Patty

PS - Thanks for the legs compliment. That is a glamor shot. It proves conclusively, if you take enough pics of something you will get one that looks good eventually. Appreciate it though.

Not only is it possible, the vast majority of us are heterosexual. (Not that there's anything wrong with being gay or bi).

I've been dressing for 45 years now. As a teen I thought if I liked to dress like a girl, I must be gay. So I convinced a gay friend of mine to fool around with me. I found out rather quickly that I wasn't gay. I then did some research and learned that nearly 90% of cross dressers are straight, and most are married. So, enjoy exploring your female side and be thankful you have an understanding and suportive wife. I didn't.

I feel like a post-adolescent 17-18 year old myself. Its a real turn on for me and i feel so sexy. It would be great if i could look half as good as i feel.