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D E I hire??

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Duchess
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(@loneleycd)
Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

On Monday I start a new temp job at a big box store. I interviewed as Cassie and was offered the job the same day. It happens to be the same store where my Ex and son work. A couple days ago my Ex spouted out that because I am trans that I am a DEI hire. I think she is is partly looking to start an argument, but she may be partly right also.

Myself, I don't care what she thinks. I need a part time job and if I did get it as part of a DEI  program I'll take it, otherwise I think I might get a little job discrimination because of my age (70).

Anyone else had anything that looks like it might be DEI???

Cassie 

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(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1119

@loneleycd 

 I think that you were hired for your ability, availability and reliability! Don't let the merchants of hot air live in your head!

 Show'em the Girl Power of Cassie! 🥰

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 Lacy
Duchess
(@rholtman96)
Joined: 2 years ago

Reputable Member     Lincoln city, Oregon, United States of America
Posts: 198

@loneleycd Who cares whether you're a DEI hire or not, you got the job.

Lacy

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 Lea
Lady
(@lea-jhene)
Joined: 9 years ago

Noble Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 1098

@loneleycd More than just getting the job, do your best, show them how good you are. If you were a DEI hire, it got you a look, but it was you that got the job and it will be you that does well in it. You go girl!

P.S. Your ex sounds jealous.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3998

@loneleycd Based on your past posts, I fully expect you to do your best and show your employer that their trust in you was fully rewarded.

Go get'm, Cassie!

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(@juliarey)
Joined: 6 months ago

Trusted Member     East central, Wisconsin, United States of America
Posts: 36

@loneleycd The way I see it, you got a job as Cassie!  That's great, especially at our age!  As for what the ex thinks, just keep your head down and let 'em eat cake!  Good for you.

Jules

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Lady
(@prettytoes)
Joined: 2 months ago

Honorable Member     alfred, Maine, United States of America
Posts: 294

@loneleycd they hired you because young people don't want to work or don't know how to work. they need bodies. you can go just about anywhere and get a job. if you have a heartbeat than your hired. when all us old people retire the world is going to go to hell.

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(@caroline2k)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 607

@loneleycd Congrats on the job Cassie 🍾

I wouldn't take the accusation too personally, it sounds like her sour grapes, and labelling is a convenient way of demonstrating it without looking like a sore loser.

I don't want to overstep the political line in the sand (again 🤭) but let's face it, 'DEI' is just another label that the bigots can use to blame and 'other'.

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Nothing personal, but all you need is a pulse to get a job at a big box store, so if you are smart and competent, which I ha e no doubt you are you got hired for that reason.

In my nearly forty years of practice, I have hired at least 50, but probably more, people. Looking back, I hired just about every type of person imaginable, including old, white males. If anything, they were the DEI hires, but this was long before DEI was a concept. I hired people to do a job, and beyond that qualification nothing else mattered.

I never intentionally hired anybody because of some DEI trait, in fact most of the time I did not know they were anything other than human until long after they were hired and volunteered such information on their own. I never once ask a question about such traits. Looking back over the years, I am rather proud of my track record. Which, is a reason I find the whole current anti-DEI so abhorent. I would never hikre somebody because they fitt some DEI category, anymore then I would not hire them because they fit some category. All DEI does, or at least should do is encourage such people to apply and then be treated fairly.

For the 30 years we have lived at my current address, excpet when rebuilding after the fire, we have had neighbors of many races, religions, genders and sexual oriention, including mixd marriages, and I neighborhood has been better for it. I certainly am better off knowing such a diverse group of people. I can't imagine living any other way. When I visit my friends in The Netrherlands or Austria, I am always happy to get home to my mixed population state. Being around that many  white people just gets weird

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Posts: 2150

@jjandme I am sorry I got your Ire up with my post. Just with the talk about some places maybe??? putting certain groups ahead of others that this might cause resentment in some. I was informed today that in 2 weeks my Ex is only scheduled 31 hours, but I am scheduled 40 hours for the duration of this remodel. 

Seems she only needs a small push to go ballistic. 

Cassie 

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 J J
Lady
(@jjandme)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 2172

@loneleycd 

Not a problem, my Ire(sp?) is not up. The gact you are getting more hours says you are a better employee than you ex.

While I hire based on skill and apptitude, I honestly don't have a problem if two candidates are otherwise equal giving the DEI the job is not unreasonable. For nearly all 250 years here in the US. And longer around the world, white males were always given the preference, even if they were the inferior candidate, so I have lettle synpathy for the bleed heart anti-DEI people. Maybe it will make them realize what an advanatage they have had all these years.

I am a 67 year old white guy and it has gi en me plenty of advantages, hence why I make it a point to hire the best individual, period.

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(@mirandam)
Estimable Member     Bay Area, California, United States of America
Joined: 3 months ago

If you feel you can do the job then I would just ignore any sentiment otherwise.💕

for myself - anyone brave enough to do what you are doing (especially in this enhanced  anti-trans / misogynistic bro culture ) shows resolve and courage.  I’ll take that kind of employee any day.

 

go show them what you are made of!💕

 

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
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@mirandam Thanks

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Lady
(@mary)
Noble Member     Sydney, New South Wales, Australia
Joined: 4 years ago

Sadly. One of the side effects of D.E.I is it can detract from competency. 

I can see why you would want be hired on skills and ability. My advice is, if it is a D.E.I hire, prove your ability and skill set is far and above what is expected for the job.. 

As you said. You need this job. Take it.. and run with it.

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(@valentina16)
Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 weeks ago

In my sheltered UK life, I admit I had to look up DEI. Diversity, Equity, Inclusion. As much as I think this is deserving of having its own Amendment, I somehow doubt it would make it to first base. Say no more. 😔

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Cassie -

Congrats on getting the job. What I have seen is that those who complain the most about DEI and other issues are worried about their own inability being brought to light. As was pointed out you're getting more hours than her and that in and of itself speaks volumes regarding ability to get the job done. Don't worry about what others think or do, your employer sees your worth and that is all that counts.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Posts: 2150

@cdsue Actually in this case they have no idea what kind of job I can do, it is just that for this particular job it is temporary to do this remodel. I am so hoping I will be able to do it well. At my age, I can't do as fast of a job as I could 20 years ago. But I do have a tendency to dogedly follow though assigned tasks. 

Cassie 

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 2100

@loneleycd good luck to you hope it works out for you

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@shawndyglitterfiend)
Estimable Member     Detroit, Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

As a manager by day, I have had a lot of people that have worked with me. Giving equal experience and qualifications I would hands down hire any one of you ladies for one reason. Ya’ll have empathy for others!

ya’ll have empathy for others!

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