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Dealing with Neighbors

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Lady
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(@alis36)
Active Member     Hampshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi all,

how do you all deal with neighbors, either nosey ones, ones you don't want them to know your desires to dress or others that you are open with. Also how have they reacted?

 

Love Ali x

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 Leah
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(@leah63)
Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Make sure your blinds are pulled so they cannot see in, turn on outside lights so they cannot sneak around.

 

Maybe they are interested in joining you?

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(@Anonymous 47410)
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Joined: 6 years ago

Hi Ali,

Not knowing more details, this is somewhat difficult to answer.  You say you don't want some neighbors to know at all about your CD status?  It would seem then that you will have to operate in stealth mode, particularly when leaving and returning to your residence.  Moreover, you probably then don't want to run into any neighbors in town?

Nosey neighbors?  I will smile and wave at them, when I am cross dressed.  Those neighbors that you are open with are always fun, when it comes to showing them your latest outfit.

I am completely out of the closet, 100%.  I dress for my benefit, not for anyone else, so people's reactions are theirs, meaning they own whatever reaction they have, not me. That being said, my neighbors' reactions stretch across the entire spectrum.  Some love to see me, when I am cross dressed, while a very few openly express their disapproval, and everyone else is somewhere in between.

Take Bob, next door.  When he sees me cross dressed, he refuses to even acknowledge me.  Then there is Tammy and Beth, even when I am in male clothes, they will stop and say I want to see you next time you cross dress, you are so cute.  Some neighbors will wave and say hi but not talk.  Most of the males do not know how to talk to me, when I am cross dressed, yet when I am in boy mode, they talk up a storm.  I tell them, hey, I am still the same person but just happen to like wearing clothing associated with the female gender once in a while.

We have an on line neighborhood directory, and I put my wife's photo and mine in the directory, with me cross dressed in the photo, so I guess that will let most neighbors know about me.

Back to your situation, can you do like I often do in public, which is to educate people?  If someone is willing to listen, then try to explain to them what a CD is and what a CD does and what we are and what we are not.

Hope this helps some.

Above all, have fun being a girl!

Hugs,

Peggy Sue

 

 

 

 

 

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Lady
Topic starter
(@alis36)
Active Member     Hampshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi again, it was a RSVP to see how others deal with the various issues with neighbors.

 

Ali x

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(@Anonymous 47410)
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Hi Ali, same as Peggy here, mixed reactions. Some look away in disgust, others talk like we always do and a couple of the ladies like to check out my outfit and ask me questions. I had one older neighbour call the cops on me for cutting the lawn in a pair of short shorts, halter top and sandals, he said it was indecent exposure. The cops just laughed when they got here, the one told me I looked cute. Your never going to please everyone, just enjoy yourself.

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Lady
(@justplainrachel)
Reputable Member     Wollongong, New South Wales, Australia
Joined: 9 years ago

My neighbours on one side have seen me coming and going for sure, so I guess they're OK with it, since they're still talking to us.

Our neighbour on the other side has not only seen me dressed but has come to a couple of the burlesque shows I've performed in, so I guess he's cool with it too 😀

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Lady
(@kmsmst)
Honorable Member     South of Omaha, Nebraska, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Where I live now, I hardly talk to my neighbors.

Where I lived previously, I found out after I moved in that it was a shady area and seeing the police on my street arresting someone literally every day made it less comfortable. And literally the day after I started installing cameras, I captured footage of some of those shady people walking around my yard obviously snooping around with bad intentions. Every piece of footage I recorded ended with those shady people ended with 2-3 seconds of them staring straight at the lens before running away. This went on for about 2 months, then stopped. For the next few years, the only footage I had was squirrels, landlord doing work, package deliveries, and myself. I also noticed that the police weren't around as much anymore neither. I guess word had spread and the thugs that used to hang around had fled far away. Did my cameras really have that much of an impact?

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Baroness
(@ryanpaul)
Famed Member     Outer Eastern Suburbs Melbourne, Victoria, Australia
Joined: 7 years ago

I lived for over nine years with the ultimate "nasty neighbour", so bad I ended up in a psych ward for almost a month. How that happened is not relevant here, but throughout those years I was ever so careful not to let her see me dressed. It was a small rural community and for at least half of the nine years, I was heavily involved in a district wide community issue.

So if that &^%$# female dog knew I was a CD, it would have been all over the place in nanoseconds.

Cut to the present day and now my beloved and I live a peaceful life in a retirement village. But if Caty "presented" around here, the tounges would wag at supersonic speed..

Given me darlin' knows about Caty, "but does not want to know", when Caty emerges around here, (like she did all day yesterday with "the Boss" on a day trip), the blinds are firmly closed and as for going outside, "No appearance your warship".****

The "gos" would not worry me so much, their "problem" not mine. But it would be most unfair on my beloved

 

Happy dressing

 

Caty

**PS given I spent all day in my two period ball gowns, a/. "Marie Antionette" and b/. "Scarlett O Caty" it would not have been wise to go down to the community centre for a game of snooker and a beer!!

 

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