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I was trawling the site for interesting titbits when I came across an article written by a lady called Wendy Cross. The article was published in Brina's Corner but posthumously as Wendy died just before she was able to approve it.
I didn't know Wendy, as she died before I joined CDH, but she seemed a very nice person. I won't go on about her as I didn't know her and others will have said all there is to say about her passing.
The purpose of this post is of a serious nature and is about the demise of any of us.
A long time ago, I had an account on MySpace (remember that) and I got to know a young lad who was an artist, poet and general thinker. His slogan was 'Love, Life and the Lost Art of the Semicolon'. I had occasion to speak to him (via the site, not in person) many times and one day, I noticed he had not been active for a while. Some time later, his sister made a special account and informed us that the person, who I had found to be a delight to know, had killed himself; no one knew why he did it it.
While I was very saddened to hear of his death—indeed, I was quite upset considering I'd never met him— I was also grateful that someone had taken the time to come onto a site they didn't use themselves, and inform a bunch of total strangers (to them) that their brother had died.
Over the last year plus, I have come to know quite a few people on here, and while I can't realistically call you friends, since I've never met any of you (something I hope to change this year), I have become quite fond of you all and I hate to think I might pass away and just seemingly disappear from here. It is to this end that my wife and I have had a chat and she has promised, should anyone be interested, to at least to let you all know if I 'wasn't here' anymore. I would like to think that others amongst us have arranged a similar thing. If it happens, there is nothing anyone can do, but it is nice to know anyway.
An example of this is the newly-returned Rozalyn Richards, who fortunately had merely forgotten her password, but since no word had been heard from her, anything could have happened.
CDH is my goto place many times during the day, keeping up with the trials and tribulations of our many ladies, and I hope that if one of those ladies had had the misfortune to meet the Grim Reaper, someone, somewhere, would let us all know.
And now, after this gloomy post, back to the joy: I washed my wigs tonight! 
Becca
xxx
PS It is as a result of that young man's comment about a punctuation mark, that I resolved, all those years ago, to keep the semicolon alive; it's the least I could do.
I saw the same article a few weeks ago, Becca and it did make me think that I should leave my log in details somewhere safe. Unfortunately, I've lost count of the things that I no longer have because I put them "somewhere safe".
Still, like you, I'd hate to just disappear and there are certainly a few friends here that I'd want to know.
I'll now do more than think about this and make sure the necessary information is put somewhere safe...and memorable!
Thanks for raising this.
Allie x
@rebeccabaxter I recently had a health scare and I'm getting up there in years so you have given me something to think about.
@rebeccabaxter Why did I realize immediately upon seeing the title “Demise”, who penned this topic?🤣 And I was correct. The “Bexter”.🥰
Quite valid too. One of the hazards of our little hobby is that it could end at any second for a mulitude of reasons. And I’ve witnessed that already in my short time here. “Regulars” disappearing suddenly. I know, I know….s*** happens. God forbid it’s something permanent. But it would be nice to know one way or the other when it happens, especially if you’ve developed an internet fondness for the person.
We don’t have to meet in person and play in our dresses in order for me to consider some here to be friends. I do “realistically” consider some girls here on CDH my friends, even you BB🤪! We definitely disagree on A LOT. So what? We’re friendly in this venue. We have a shared interest. That’s enough. I don’t order friends and say “hold the onions” with that friend. Ya gotta take the onions too. But I don’t have to eat’em.🥰
GP
A sombre tale Becca.
Strangely what you say about notifying people was on my mind this week and I am going to make a list of those that need to be notified and it didn't cross my mind to think of C.D.H I doubt if my executors will have issue with it.
And to lighten things up; it was sunny today so washed the car and did a bit of gardening!
Morning, Becca,
Something similar has crossed my mind before, when I hadn't told my daughters. My thinking was that I should leave a note in my 'when I pop off'' file that told them to come to cdh if they were confused and wanted some warm and sensible advice as opposed to a clinical wiki article on cross dressing.
Well they know now, so in that sense it's not the same deal. But it would still be nice if one of them found their way here to explain my absence and pass on one last "Goodbye cdh, and thanks for the fish" message.
Oh dear, not a very chirpy cheep cheep post to start the day. Sorry 😕😉
eM xxx
I have written in other similar threads here about how to deal with the inevitable, so you can search for more.
One important thing to do now while we have control is to keep an updated list of our web accounts, IDs, and our passwords. You can do this on paper and / or keep it as a text file on a memory stick in your personal safe.
As for secure passwords, this is what I have learned to do. Pick a long base word in whatever language that you like, I.e. longpassword. German has long words. Do number substitution and capitalization: 10ngPa33worD. Then add a common special character, and add a site tag: 10ngPa33worD-cdh.
Even if a site has a security breach (a new one happened last week) my site tag makes the whole password mostly unusable on other sites, unless a hacker is going to sit down and individually study 2 million passwords. You can easily remember your longbaseword and the site tag is suggested by the site name. This way you don't have to carry a long list of passwords around with you (bad security).
A list of crossdressing sites that we go on may be small, but we are also family, of a sort, so it hurts to see somebody just go silent. A password list is important for our survivors to give closure.
Becca, this has also crossed my somewhat hypochondriacal mind. I can assure you that no-one in my life is going to inform you of Chrissie's demise, as nobody knows anything about her, and I plan to keep it that way. Suffice it to say if you haven't heard from me for a while I'm either on a cruise (from which I've just returned - more in a separate post), or I've shuffled off this mortal coil, in which case please say something nice about me.
or I've shuffled off this mortal coil, in which case please say something nice about me.
I'll do my best 
