Did my lack of confidence with women help bring out Bri?

Interesting comments. I  definitely was always very shy and lacked confidence around girls. The prettier they were the more awkward I was.

Having started with wearing tights at young age it wasn't until teenage years I stated dressing as such. Was also about time started feeling awkward around girls so possibly connected?

Omg, yes, the more prettier I thought the girl was, the more awkward I became as well!!  And looking back, I imagine everyone could probably tell that I was acting awkward as well, because normally I’m not a very shy person.  I usually had no problems interacting with people, except for the pretty girls, or people I’ve put in high regard, like my boss or maybe a celebrity or something.

I’ve always found it so weird.  Such a mental road block that has been hard to overcome all my life.   I don’t know why..

I can relate. I’ve lived in the friend zone for much of my teen and adult life. I always found it easy to relate to women, maybe because I grew up in a female dominated house. I certainly lacked confidence around women until I reached my 30s.

Dressing up like a super heroine role model makes sense to me. I’ve always been a fan of Xena, though I don’t think I can do the corset and short skirt.

xoxo, Dani

I was never listed as a ladies man while younger, I certainly liked them enough but normally ended up just in the friend zone. It was a total lack of self confidence, one even told me later in life that had I been a little more forward with her back then, "heavens gates would have surely opened for you". When I found and accepted this part of me at 55, my self confidence grew from it and apparently showed. Women and girls whom I'd really liked but had  been 'just friends' with in the past, were now more openly interested.

C'est la vie!

Liv

Olivia

Awkwardness around girls is something I find really relatable, even to this day, even now that I'm well into my 30's. I've had similar thoughts about my CDing as well. Even though I think there is a lot more to it than this, something that contributed to me heading down the path of CDing was probably that I never really had a constant close female presence in my life.

I have a theory that most, if not all guys experience, at least on some level, the same curiosities about women and their clothes that led me to start CDing. It could just be that for most guys, being in a steady relationship with a woman lets them satisfy that curiosity, maybe sub-consciously, by being able to closely observe or handle women's items without feeling the need to get some for themselves.

I had never really thought about it, but you do have a point. I never had much confidence when I would try talking to women. In high school I got laughed at just for asking the one out like an idiot, and that pretty much ended it for me. While I have had women check me out from time to time, it never went past that. The friend zone was where I was and still am for most if not all of them.

What you say makes sense to me, maybe in some way it has helped with my fem side?

hi Bri I believe both boys and girls feel very awkward and unattractive during those young teen years. Its a very confusing time for both sexes. I do not remember having any difficulty with a relationship with girls. I do remember being jealous of how they looked in their cute shorts or bathing suit. I wanted to look like them. I remember always saying it was not fair that she looked like that and I did not, So I began my young life trying to fit in, not sure what was right. I always preferred being around the girls but "society" [ moms, dads, uncles, aunts teachers] guided me towards the boys so easiest thing to do was learn how to fit in with the boys. If there was any awkwardness toward girls at the time, it was I wanted to look like them and could not tell them.

Stephanie

Hello Bri!!

Makes sense. I think the reasons vary. I have always been fortunate when it comes to attracting, getting, female attention. Confident yes, but also a result of other male friends saying things like, "I'm not going to ask her out/to dance, she will turn me down." I always had a "I've got nothing to lose" sort of attitude, and it worked.

Now that said, I will say when I see a woman who knows how to wear her cloths and looks fabulous in them (whether casual, dressed to the 9's or otherwise), I think, "I'd like to wear that outfit". So I'm influenced by that, how nice womens clothes are and all the variety. Not to mention the wonderful materials they are made from.

Love it all!

Love, hugs and fun dressing!

Rebecka!

When I was young, my interest in women started my curiosity about the things they wore and did to look like women. As a kid, not knowing why, I paid close attention to the details of women I knew and saw, clothing, nail polish, lipstick, shoes, hair, it all stood out to me as interesting, intriguing, wondering.

I think trying CDing was at first part of my exploration to understand women better and it led to my realization that part of me, deep down, loves feeling feminine. The more I accepted being a CD, the easier and more confidence I've gained in talking to women, understanding them.

I'd rather stay in the friend zone now, but I've noticed how some of my female friends in the last few years seem to gravitate to sharing their deep feelings with me.

An interesting recurring theme... many of us mentioned how we start with an admiration and respect for a woman, not just a sexual feeling. We then proceed to get to know the woman, and eventually see if it stays in the friend zone or grows into something else.

Wow, isn't this the goal that many women want from men!!

lol, so i would think that is what a woman would want!  but then again, i feel like i've been very bad at picking up signals from them, if there were any signals at all - most likely not.

i do wonder some more if WHAT IF i had more success with women/girls if that would've either lessoned my curiosity and fascination with dressing up as one..

Growing up as, and still being, a straight male, I had little confidence in my ability with women, mostly having to do with not having a drivers license and having to compete with upperclassmen and college guys for the best looking girls. Getting a drivers license changed it totally.
I remained confident and able to attract women with little problem for years, around 2 marriages. The last 5-10 years has not been so.Many women around here are drawn to money, as this has become an area with wealth.I'm out of luck there, last divorce and 2008 recession put me down hard.The last 2 girlfriends I had ended up cheating on me and leaving, so I've said to hell with it.
easier to recreate myself as my own ideal girlfriend!