Do they notice

Yes the sales people do notice. At first my wife helped me buy lingerie in retail stores. I'm much bigger than her and when checking out, the cashier who is usually a female, would see the 40 band bras and large panties and look at me with a slight smile. One of the first times I was so nervous I gave myself away and the cashier actually laughed.

In thrift stores I became used to going through the racks of skirts and tops while the wife stood by and I would notice GG's looking with a knowing expression on their faces. Sometimes I would hear a giggle. The wife quit shopping with me because I think she was embarrassed. I shop alone now and don't give a flip what others think. Its no ones business what I buy.

I'm not brave enough to take stuff to the fitting room. I just get the wife to take it back later if it doesn't fit. ha ha

Amy sweetie, they definitely notice, or suspect anyway.
If they are professionals they won't say a word or at least they should not anyway, that's sarcastic.
Your just another customer or in reality cash in the bank.
Little exercise for you sweetie, pick out some panties or tights and just walk straight up to the counter and pay. For all they know you buying them for a female friend, and if the think to themselves I wonder if they are for him, you are only one who will know the truth.
We have all been there, and many girls on here have, including myself shop openly with an bother at all.
Happy shopping sweetie,
Lol Amanda xx

Hi Amy,   I shop in person, in drab really focused on hunting down close-out bargains. I am usually elbow to elbow with all the other ladies who are also flipping through the sales racks. Not a care in the world for this old gal. First one to the bargain is the winner!

It’s nice that fitting rooms are opening up again. I’m still getting used to the idea of  making use of the dressing rooms for my lady things but am very much glad to have them available. I wouldn’t use the women’s dressing room dressed as a man.  That would just make everyone uncomfortable. Instead I’ll just carry my selections across the store and try on all those pretty things in the men’s changing room.  No problems with that. If shopping en femme, I think I’d use the women’s.

Also, a lot of the thrift stores have unisex changing rooms and for these I am grateful. Saves so much time not having to return ill fitting clothes.

Clara’s thoughts on shopping.

Hi Amy...

Do they notice, does it matter...the way the world is at the moment, they are just glad of a sale..I expect they notice most of the time, but would say nothing just to get the sale...if they laugh afterwards....who cares.....out of sight, out of mind.

Grace x

Hi Amy,

There's plenty of intelligent shop workers, hard to imagine they are all clueless!

I guess one 'joy' of capitalism is that nowadays any workers whose attitude to cd'ing causes lost business or bad press is risking their job, at least in large organisations.

I'm getting into personal shopping now that fitting rooms are opening up after the lockdowns. I had a good trawl in Marks and Sparks the other day, picking out a few items to take across the store and try in the mens fitting rooms. No one seemed bothered or interested. I only bought one pair of nice leggings in the end - which of course was an item you don't try on, but the cashier was friendly, "nice colour / pattern, blah, blah".

Same next door at Matalan, where I did buy a few bits and pieces - I trawled the shoes and actually found some that fitted me. The cashier seemed quite young, and I did detect a quizzical look, but I'm sure it was old hat to her older colleagues if she said anything later.

Oh god, don't I sound nonchalant? I'm not, it's still early days for me and I travel slowly. There's still a 'what to say if ...' edge, and I'm still a bit iffy in the lingerie section - but comparing how I found and purchased clothes pre lockdown, and pre CDH, well ... no comparison.

Marti xxx

I shop while dressed alone and with my wife. I don't think they usually even suspect. No odd looks or comments so far. I really enjoy the hunt for the perfect bargain. I also shop in drab. I have had a number of clerks comment how nice the clothes would look on me. I just laugh. I told one that I was sure they would. I guess I don't care what they suspect

I have bought one dress in person and the rest online and had no issues. I have bought bras also with no issues in person. I buy a lot of panties in person and either get no comments and sometimes nice comments. I have only had one sarcastic comment on panties I was buying and I asked the clerk if she made that same comment to women making that type of purchase and she shut up and did her job.

I get most disapproving looks from GGs also trying to shop in the same space (I’m in the south, after all).  Store personnel may look and wonder, but have probably seen it enough not to care. It’s probably more of a shock to GGs who don’t have regular contact with CDers.

Never had one compliment or even comment.

I'm pretty sure they know. Female shop assistants seem to have a special radar for spotting CDs. Or maybe all ladies have this power? Or am I just paranoid?

You girls who have the support of their SO's are so lucky - cherish them.

Connie

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If your experience is like mine Raquel, they’re just trying to grab that bargain blouse before you do! Who knew shopping could be a full contact sport? And then of course, when one of the other shoppers pulls something off the rack, holds it up in front of her, admiring herself, you think to yourself, “ oh, Honey, I’d look better in that than you do”.

C

Hi Amy:

I recently got a pair of 5" fuchsia coloured Jessica Simpson shoes at Value Village (a nationwide 2nd hand store in Canada). I had them dangling from my fingers while standing in line to pay for them ($20 bucks and still brand new, WOO-HOO!). All the cashier said was, "Those are nice! Do you have your points card with you?" Yes I do!

However...

Back in the late-70s when I was driving through Regina, Saskatchewan (only two tall buildings at that time), I needed my femme-fix and went to The Bay (our national department store - still around) for some nylons and a couple of see-through tops. The cashier picked up the 4 pairs of nylons like they were playing cards and began punching the amounts into her cash register then stopped abruptly when she looked me. She put the nylons down and said, "I'll have to speak with my manager". I asked, "Why? Is my money no good?" I got cashed out without another word!

Oh, that shopping rush!

Barb :B

I only shop in drab and purchase most of Annette's clothes this way. I order very little online.  Yes, I do notice that as I'm moving through the racks looking at dresses, bras, panties, etc. women will keep their distance from me or move to an aisle farther away.  In turn, I have learned to walk around the women's department away from any woman shopping; waiting until she leaves the aisle I want to shop in.  I rarely get any looks that I've noticed.  And rarely will a woman shop in the same aisle I'm already in.

Several things I do for shopping is I try to shop off-hours when the store isn't busy.  Usually during a weekday, early in the week and either just as the store opens, at dinner time, or close to closing.  I also carry a piece of paper in hand giving the impression that I have sizes written down and I put my wedding band on.  For trying things on, which I usually do, I'll grab a pair of men's jeans or a shirt from the men's department first.  This way I can usually place Annette's item under the jeans on my arm; then I go to the men's fitting room and try everything on.  This has saved me often from having to return items.  I've never had a problem trying things on this way.

The only incident I had was last year.  I had just started working from home due to COVID.  Since I would be dressing every day and all day, I needed to get more bras and panties.  So I went to Kohls a few towns over.  I purchase 2 bras, 5 panties, and also two pretty short sleeve tops.  The cashier, probably in her 40's, maybe early 50's stated to me, "I was doing the shopping that day."  I just responded with a, "Yes."  She was very nice, had a very nice warm smile, and cheery disposition. Told me I could get one more panty, which were on sale that day for just a dollar or two more.  Since they weren't busy she said it wouldn't be a problem if I wanted to run back and get another pair.  I declined.  She asked where I was from in which I blurted out my town.  She was so nice and I was so very relaxed talking to her I answered truthfully.  She then said she has two girlfriends from my town that she visits often. She like going there since it's a nice town.  During this time she also kept saying how pretty everything was.  I'm positive she knew just from the sizes that I was buying them for me.  I was almost tempted to tell her they were all for me as I was leaving but chickened out.

Sure they notice.  Only time they wouldn't is during the Christmas and Valentine Day shopping time.

I also do the fake shopping note and I always have my wedding ring on. Just looks like I’m on a mission from my wife to get her something.