Do we understand women more???

Yes. My fiance was surprised how much I know about makeup and hair care. Often it seems like I can read her mind.

Eva ⚘

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What a great - and almost impossible to answer - question!  Start from the beginning:  do I think I understand women better... not sure as I started wearing women's clothing way before I became interested in women for "other reasons" and does that mean that I haven't experienced "both sides of the equation"?  Surely, unless you've seen both sides of the road, you can't fully understand what it means to cross from one side to the next?  or does it mean you've already got all the answers?  Hmmm......  I'm "closeted" as you put it - but my SO never questions my "feminine" thinking on the grounds that she fully understand the political stance I inevitably take.  Overall, if I had to say one way or the other, then "Yes"; I think I have a little more understanding - especially as I see myself as two distinct people (who so often don't quite see eye to eye......)  Now got to go and have a long think......  Hugs:  Inga.

Good Morning Grace,

great question!  My wife knows I am a CD and you know that I push the boundaries with her.  So I wear some degree of female clothing all the time; always underdressed and most of my clothes are androgynous.

I'm not sure if I truly understand women more.  I certainly make a much more concerted effort to be more understanding, more empathetic, to be a better listener, to be a strong supporter.  I do all this not because I understand her better, but because I want her to be more supportive of me as a CD.  Like the time I was doing some plumbing while wearing bright pink panties - you guessed it, of course they showed while I was bent over under the sink and she saw them but she didn't rant about it.  And she's never said anything negative about my femme skinny jeans.  There's a common saying that to understand someone, put yourself in their shoes.  Well if I put myself in my wife's shoes, or even clothing, I wouldn't get to wear some of the feminine clothes that I wear. I don't think she owns anything pink; my wife wears mostly blue and gray t-shirts/sweaters with blue jeans (non-skinny).

I suppose because I make such a concerted effort, and, I imagine other CDs with spouses who know, also make a strong effort and are more sensitive to the needs of our SO, it might be viewed as being more understanding. And I suppose I can go along with that.  Sounds good anyway.

Take care, Big Hugs, Krista.

Thank you honey

....there's a whole new post here....why did Inga cross the road???....another time...haha xx

Q:  Why did the chicken cross the Mobius Strip?  A:  To get to the same side!......

Krista....

I'm SO trying to picture you as the babe in the cowboy hat!!!!... but I keep seeing a plumber in pink panties...hopefully it's just temporary....oh my!!!

Grace ❤️❤️

A somewhat difficult question to answer as I personally think i do...to some extent but i have yet to actually walk that proverbially mile in 'her' shoes. Not that i havent tried!

What i have learned and do use is to only answer direct questions from (and about) my SO when she asks, and to keep my responses fairly positive and more so when I suggest alternatives. Ive also learned that some and maybe many women do not take personal appearance criticism from a man...gently. Even if it is constructive which of course im sure it always is. (and that of course is the female within me)

Hi Grace I still do not fully understand woman but if the truth be told I do not understand men either. I do understand the part of women that wants to feel love and desire from partner. I understand wanting to feel cute and pretty even if its just sometimes. I understand wanting to be heard even though i may not practice listening at times. I do not understand having estrogen being sent into my bloodstream and brain in order keep my body and brain in-tacked.  Where we have common ground we should be able to find compromise that would meet both our needs.

Luv Stephanie

I definitely think we do as cders. We know how much work it is to get prepared to go out socially for one. My wife hates going to weddings or any function that requires dressing up(makeup , dresses ,pretty shoes etc). There can be pressure to look good and have makeup done right, (Lots of pictures and other women judging)I think most of us can identify with that feeling although I love to get dressed up even in drab. Secondly I think most of us are more in touch with our feelings than “regular men”. I for one have given a lot of thought to my need to dress which has in turn has made me look into my innermost feelings. Introspection isnt something a red blooded American man is encouraged to do. As men we just do what we want with little thought of why but I think society has made us that way. Women are generally raised to feel more empathy than men among other emotions that are looked upon as feminine. As a cd who has delved into his emotions in an effort to understand myself I think I may have stumbled onto feelings and emotions that have made me understand my wife and women in general better.

Thank you xx

Hi Stephanie....

I certainly don't understand men...never could, never will..xx

Oh Chloe...

that mile in stilettos...ouch xx

Hi Grace I don't think I understand women any better, I just find myself having more time and patience with women. When I have offered my female opinion before, I usually get a " what would you know response", I should say I know a lot more than you realise. What I have noticed is if I compliment a female friend or colleague, I get a nice thank you and sometimes a nice girly chat. So the upshot for myself is my wife doesn't recognise my feminine side, and I don't understand her she has a best friend called Sarah and doesn't know.

xx