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Question for you gals, do you feel equally attractive in male mode as you do in femme mode or do you feel more attractive in femme mode.
As for me when I was growing up all the girls looked at me saying you know that you're ugly. Only if they could see me now. I feel more attractive in femme mode than male mode.
Allison
XOXO
Hi Allison
A great question - not something I've thought too much about... I think I'm "ok" looking in male mode but never thought of myself as good looking or handsome or anything, just pretty average. I was never over run with attention from the girls (or boys for that matter) at school, put it that way.
Nowadays, getting older (into my 50's now - how did that happen!) I think I still look "ok" just older, but ok for my age, I'm going greyer and I guess I don't like the direction that is going in!
When dressed, and put on a wig and full make up - I do feel I look a fair bit younger even though I'm not actively going for a younger look (my make up skills are very much still in the making, so it is a bit hit and miss as to how I look). So I guess on a good make up day, looking good makes me feel happier, and yes I feel that, as a result of the "disguise", I do feel more attractive / better looking than when in male mode (not that I'm trying to attract anyone that is!)
I guess for many here, our alter ego's are always likely to take first place on the attractive stakes. If you ever get any validation of that from others, it feels amazing - "you look fantastic" from a GG are words to savour.
Hope that answers the question!
Jen x
It's not about attracting attention but just feeling good about myself. In male mode I look my age and nothing special at all. As the female I feel great and attract compliments and do look younger than my years. Someone I know gave me an age a dozen years less than my actual and people are surprised to learn I am over retirement age.
That's part of the attraction of dressing, I just love it.
I have always felt better about my appearance as a woman. I never felt I was attractive as a man even though I had been told so by a few women.
I look in the mirror and see him and almost cringe but as soon as I see Cheryl I just smile.
I would never consider myself attractive, but Cerys is more stylish and better turned out than male me ever is. A lot more effort goes into Cerys.
Cerys
Personally speaking, when in male mode I don’t really bother about my appearance. I’m an ugly SoB, not vain or anything.
But in femme mode, looking good is everything. All my “real life” problems, stresses, etc are gone and I can just concentrate on looking my best. Maybe She is more shallow than Him, or maybe it’s another example of societal norms.
But that’s how it is for me, and it works so I’ll go with it.
Hugs, Tamara
Hi Allison,
I definitely feel more attractive when I'm in Femme mode especially after i had my first makeover, before i just used to dress up with no makeup on and i didn't really feel attractive at all, now I've been shown that i can be an attractive woman with the right make-up on,
Hugs Roz X
I definitely feel more attractive when I'm in girl mode.
I certainly fancy my mirror image a lot more than I do when I'm in guy mode.
I've never considered myself particularly handsome or anything. My partner disagrees, says I am attractive and so forth as a bloke; she also gives me compliments about my femme appearance, which frankly mean a lot more to me.
definitely in female mode, but I could look better, I have a make up lesson at Boots next week and when my hair is a little longer I shall have it styled and then I hope I will have the courage to go out in public as I will look feminine (I hope)
Randi xx
I have always felt more attractive in fem mode than male and my attitude is better as well
FOr me it's FAR more attractive in femme mode given I wear romantic lingerie to bed almost every night. I don't feel ugly in male mode but I feel gorgeous in femme mode needless to say. So the bar is pretty high to feel as good looking in male mode as when I'm wearing lingerie and being intimate with my boyfriend lol.
I've had some positive feedback about my male appearance from several women over the years, and they seem to prefer me with shorter hair. (Wouldn't you know it?)
But I'm still waiting for that phone call from Hollywood.
As Rayna, my appearance does make me feel feminine, but I'm no cover girl either. I have seen women that I think are less attractive than me as Rayna, though.
Being a crossdresser means I have to accept myself for what I am and how I look. Would I like to look better as Rayna and present a somewhat more plausible feminine look? Does a bear do his business in the woods?
I suppose you could say it's a journey and not a destination. I might never achieve a perfect feminine look. So it's either learn to live with it or hang up my dresses for good.
Which is not an option.
Rayna
I had to give this some thought before answering. Jo doesn’t leave the house and only comes out when she is alone. As Jo… I feel super sexy and think I look good,from the neck down,I have in the past shared some photos with other CDs and was complimented and said I was quit sexy…so there’s that. But I never showed myself above the neck, I need a whole bucket of makeup to look pretty in that area, or a mask…lol my strongest asset are my long legs. In boy mode, I was very dapper in my young age, so I have been told. I believe I did turn a few ladies heads , I’ve been with the same lady on my arm for 38 years now, she tells me I’m still good looking and her pet name for me is Sexy. But I think she is definitely biased… this was a fun little question to ponder and answer..jo
At much.. closer to 80 than 70, this gnarly, old bald geezer male does not look or try to me good looking. I'm just "male me" and happy to be so.
But when properly made up and dressed as Caty , not sure about good looking, but definitely a much better "package". That's cos (obviously) I have a stack more "coverage" on the old bod. Wig, make up, dress, jewellery, shoes etc. That with my own make up, its "next level" when I have a professional do it.
I must be OK cos of all the lovely comments I get about my photos here on CDH.
I do feel ever so femme with forms attached, securely gaffed and wearing some lovely up scale lingerie under what ever external outfit I have on.
Happy dressing,
(Nana) Caty.