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We all have worries right!!! I have a few, not many, and certainly not anything that keeps me awake...but I think I'm a lucky girl.
Money, health, relationships, work...etc...all things that give the average person sleepless nights....
When you dress, do you escape your worries for a brief spell, maybe you dress to escape in the first place...
but.....
When you are dressed, maybe you take on a whole new set of worries, so you are just moving from one level of stress to another...will I pass?, will I be seen?.....does my bum look big in this? 🤣🤣🤣.....
I'm just a normal person, but I never worry much, I do count myself lucky...
but grace really never has a care, she flows through life at the moment...what colour nails?, what colour panties?...which hair to wear?...oh if only life was always so simple....
So girls, do you escape all your worries when en femme????
Grace ❤️❤️
No. I do feel less stress but I have different worries; mostly, how will friends and family react to Eona. I’m still in the very early discovery stage so, I’m not in a rush to find out.
Great question!
Love and Kisses,
Eona ❤️👠
Eona...
good luck honey.... xx
Good question Grace. I hope for most the answer is, “yes, I leave all my troubles behind”.
I’m usually not a big worrier myself so I don’t see that dressing has an impact on my worries one way or the other.
A few thoughts: It seems like most often our concerns have to do with things we don’t have complete control over. If you are a problem-solver type, you probably relish the challenge in overcoming difficulties. But when something is beyond your ability to control, that’s where the worry, the angst, the second guessing come in. It might seem obvious then that the best way to reduce worry is to let go and release that need to control.
In the context of your question, I know that any of my worries are more about the challenges of others than any of my own. I get concerned when I read about any of our girlfriends here struggling with self acceptance and/or acceptance from loved ones. I feel genuine concern when anyone is having a hard time. My heart goes out and yes, I sometimes do worry about all of our lovely gals.
Best,
Clara
I usually worry that my bum doesn't look BIG ENOUGH in these!😘
This one is hard to answer for me. I luv the process of getting dressed. Shaving, choosing which pair of pretty panties, bra, stockings? Skirt, dress, wig? All of it. I don’t luv the result yet because I still mostly look and feel like a “man in a dress”. But I know my blood pressure drops and I feel a sense of comfort and calm.
But then I feel a wave of guilt, then shame. Because...why? Why did I just spend this time dressing like a woman? To what end? I am a man with obligations and debts responsibilities I can barely fulfill.
I am very lucky. I have a wife who encourages me to get in touch with my feminine side. She buys me clothes and tells me when my packages arrive. But I still feel like I have a weak, dirty need to look pretty.
I guess I’m just a work in progress
W
ps. I think I have a feminine name I’ll be ready to share soon. Big step. I think I’ll go cry now.
Waymoore.
Please don't you dare feel guilty...and no way should you feel dirty or shame!!!...
you said your blood pressure drops...feeling calm, feeling better???...you have obligations and debts, but dressing makes you feel good...your wife understands and encourages you which is a tremendous advantage to begin with....so live your dream....be free.
Grace xx
Clara...
Lovely reply...I think we are birds of a feather ...
"I feel genuine concern when anyone is having a hard time. My heart goes out and yes, I sometimes do worry about all of our lovely gals."...
That's me!!!...
Huggs, grace ❤️
Oh good question.
To sum up, yes. With day to day stress like work (boo !!), covid and the pandemic + continued lockdowns, politics, and finances, it takes its toll on a person.
However, once I start the transformation into Wendy, the moment I start applying make up primer, all those worries seem to bite the dust. Mind you, it hasn't gone away but it does provide me with an "escape" from those stressors. I do feel more relaxed as Wendy.
It would also explain - since I'm still working from home - why I constantly think about full transformation into Wendy everytime I start work.
When Sarah is out there are no worries, the only stress Sarah has is a lack of Sarah time.
Sarah...it seems your only stress is quite a common one on here...xx
Your right Grace its a common one, I don't get stressed at all with life. The only thing in life that irks me my wife's OCD, That's really annoying if you don't switch off. Its better to switch off think about Sarah time and not fall out with each other.
Totally engrossed in my transformation to worry about anything else. When dressed just too busy enjoying the feeling. Got to think about what outfit to wear next and choosing shoes and tights to match.
Jane...
I think you've cracked it...although your problems will not disappear...you just cannot worry about things 24/7.....we all need a break!!!!
Huggs, xx
Waymoore we don't feel guilty on here, it's where we come to join in with our online family x no guilt no shame just joy to be with people like us,
Hugs Roz xxxxx
