Do you stand up for your girl

Yes, Katey I do!

I got bashed in the head (hence the head injury) for standing up for my community. It’s called Civic Responsibility and while we were never taught it class it was nonetheless rooted in our generation’s psyche. Would I do it again with respect to Polly? Again, yes I would. It’s important to let people know when others think it wrong. While I understand there are heaps of situations where doing so will get you killed... still and all in my mind civic responsibility rules!

Done spouting! Polly

Hi Polly,

I'm sorry that happened to you.Your not spouting I enjoy your inputs and thoughts.Civic responsibility yes of course I wish society would wake up and not pick and choose what the hot topic is for the day. Hugs-Katey

Hmmm... society won’t wake up until enough of us take our civic responsibility seriously. I’m afraid it’s up to each one of us to make that particular sacrifice and surely, there will be casualties!

Society as a whole is just a gathering of like minded individuals with a common cause. If that cause is being scaredy-cat then it will take an effort by a large number of courageous individuals to make change.

But... time for sleepy-byes! Bon nuit Katey Sweety

Hi Katey I have run across the same situation.

Its very tough when your in the closet and you can't risk jeopardizing your job over it.

I can't give my self up as it would if I jump in with both barrels but I try to approach it with the same kindness I would give any body.

I dont know if you can change their mind but you can sway them to respect other people .

others will disagree I am sure .

there are different approaches For sure.

Patty

Hi Patty,

I totally understand your platform. I’m still secret CD but I had to say something due to my job title.

I understand that there are many others in secret. I was just wondering how others approach the situation.

Thank you so much for your thoughts. Stay safe

Hugs Katey

I believe you did the right thing... I was thinking that being a secret cd there would be a way to address the jokes and sneers without outing yourself...

Good job! 💖

 There are a couple different ways I look at the scenario... 1) are they actually just joking to be joking.. or 2)are they “jokes” them either being ignorant of what they are saying or worse they are actually against the community... and spiteful towards us..

if the first is true... like my friends where I drink... joking about certain aspects of things. Nothing hurtful just having a good time. I join in with them and push the boundaries of Tonya even flirting...

now if someone is just being nasty, rude, etc. with their talk/ jokes... then it becomes a problem... there’s no reason a “joke” should upset someone, or worse actually hurt them...

the world is very big on political correctness but they need to know what a real joke is and what’s not... they should know the difference and sometimes it’s our job to do so.

Doing it without outing yourself could be the hardest thing any us has to do

Hi Tonya,

You gave some great insight.

You make valid points if you are with your close friends in a small area is one thing. If you're in a common area where others can hear all the talk, thats another thing, others who overhear the partial conversation may take offense. Thats the thing I was correcting the people in question where in a work place in a common area where others can hear all being said.

Also correct when others are in secret (like myself) is a hard thing to correct someone without being outed.

Great response, Thank you for sharing your inputs.

P.S. I'm not saying any opinion is right or wrong I'm just throwing this thought out there to see how others would handle it.

Hugs Katey

I understand completely. And this is such a hard topic to address in any of its forms whether that be like in our situation with the lgbtq community, it be a racial sitiuation, religion etc... it’s never easy to correct people on how they are behaving... especially when they believe they aren’t doing anything wrong..

From a professional stand point if your in a managerial position and people are talking like that because if they do offend someone else and they got HR then these guys turn around and say well Katey was right there now your in trouble. On the personal side I worked in a very male environment so I had to keep Heather a secret for personal sanity and safety so I didn't say too much but it actually made me laugh some of the comments that were made. One particular caveman comes to mind exclaiming loudly there ain't no queers or freaks working here. I'm standing right beside him and the girl working the other desk is a lesbian. We just kind of looked at each other and smiled. These people deal in shock with comments like that to throw you off and hide their lack of intelligence, as I used to say he who bellows the loudest wins the argument.

Katey there is a possibilty they suspected your not a GG, and they were just being morons trying to get at you. They are not worth the time of day, your lovely Katey the happy positive girl. I would smile to myself and think you don't know happy Katey is, not bothered you idiots I have a whole lot of friends the same as me.

Love Sarah

Thank you Sarah your so sweet. I always try and stay positive even with the idiots. Thank you replying. Hugs Katey

Hi Heather, your right sometimes silence is golden. I just threw the topic out there to see how people would handle something similar. I’m no way a expert on this or anything. Just a topic for discussion. Thank you so much for replying. Hugs Katey